I have brought this up to her, and her friends have too apparently. But 80% of the time we are texting, it's incredibly one sided. I try not to text her all that often because I know she will barely respond, she normally responds fast but it's one word responses or just "oh cool" sort of things. We talk on the phone and it's a bit of the same thing... but she talks about her day a ton, and when I tell her about my day, its back to "oh yea... oh cool... nice".
I've told her that the short one word responses makes it seem like she doesn't care about what I have to say. And she said she would work on it... but really hasn't at all... and the other problem is, she will text me all the time, but then she just can't carry the conversation at all. She will text me "so what's up?" I'll respond, and then she'll say "oh cool". Then about an hour later, she'll send "so what's up?" again. Our conversations just seem incredibly cyclical. I try not to text all that often, and not tell her as much as I did at the beginning because otherwise it seems like we'd never have anything to talk about...
The problem with texting culture is the ability to constantly be in contact with someone, and that can put a lot of stress on a relationship I think... but on the flip side, because it is so easy to contact people, it seems like people think something must be wrong if you aren't responding to a text. I just don't know what to do, because I've talked to her about it multiple times, and it just hasn't helped at all.
I've told her that the short one word responses makes it seem like she doesn't care about what I have to say. And she said she would work on it... but really hasn't at all... and the other problem is, she will text me all the time, but then she just can't carry the conversation at all. She will text me "so what's up?" I'll respond, and then she'll say "oh cool". Then about an hour later, she'll send "so what's up?" again. Our conversations just seem incredibly cyclical. I try not to text all that often, and not tell her as much as I did at the beginning because otherwise it seems like we'd never have anything to talk about...
The problem with texting culture is the ability to constantly be in contact with someone, and that can put a lot of stress on a relationship I think... but on the flip side, because it is so easy to contact people, it seems like people think something must be wrong if you aren't responding to a text. I just don't know what to do, because I've talked to her about it multiple times, and it just hasn't helped at all.
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