Boyfriend broke up with me because I was flirting with another guy?

[Anonymous]

I play volleyball and recently we got a new substitute couch who's gonna coach us for 6 months. He's a great guy and yes he's attractive, but I do not see him in a sexual way! He's a tease, he teases all of us girls and we tease back. It's just fun! After one game I headed home with him because he lives in the area. I called my boyfriend to ask him if he's home and if there's anything to eat and he said he's not home and that there's nothing to eat, so I went to the near by grill with the coach. We took a table to eat. While eating we were talking and laughing and yes we flirted a little bit, it was really just subtly. He knew I have a boyfriend and I was often talking about him. When we were done, I came home. My boyfriend came 10 mins after and dumped me on the spot. Apparently he was at the same grill sitting near by and he heard everything. He doesn't want to talk to me, he's been ignoring my messages and calls for 3 days now. He said he doesn't want to see me ever again. That he can't forgive flirting with someone else. Is this really my fault? We've been together for 4 years, I can't believe this is happening...

[Anonymous]

I wonder what everyone would be saying if the roles were reversed. Especially those saying the guy must have issues or be insecure.

If you are in a relationship, you simply cannot act the same as you would if you were single. You certainly DO NOT go to have meals with flirty guys. What sort of message do you think you were sending the coach?

Do you think you gave him the idea that you are a loyal girlfriend, in a good relationship, with good boundaries and clearly with her boyfriend, or do you think you sent the message that you may be open to some fun?

Just imagine if he was being couched by a fit woman and proceeded to go to a bar grill with her, they get a nice table, have a meal together and flirt with each other. What message is he sending the lady?

I'm pretty sure you'd be screaming at him for his betrayal. It wouldn't be just subtle fun then would it?

The fact that you have been together for 4 years makes your actions even worse. You crossed his boundaries and that little meal, that innocent, teasing, flirting fun is not much different to a first date.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh by the way, I would have ditched you as well. The reason why you are so surprised is probably because you are used to weak behavior from guys, guys that have little boundaries and put up with crap.

[Kuraj]

People in relationships don't flirt with other people and they don't put themselves in situations that might be perceived as hurtful by their partners.
This is kind of common knowledge that should come to you naturally as a result of caring and having respect for your partner.

It does not matter in what way you see your coach, that coach might as well want to fuck you right up the ass and you willingly engaged yourself with him in a manner that lets him facilitate whatever his intentions might be, disrespecting your partner in the process.

Better luck next time.

[Asker]

"People in relationships don't flirt with other people" - this is not true. People constantly flirt with each other, being a full on flirt or just a playful teasing (like in my case). Especially people in long term relationships. It's impossible and stupid to put a resting bitch face for the rest of your life on every single guy who approaches you friendly, just because you have a boyfriend. There are so many people you are gonna meet in life, and some of them are gonna attract you in some way or another, this is inevitable.
I'm 100% sure the coach wants to fuck me. And wanna know how that makes feel? Good. I'm wanted. I like that he wants to fuck me. The same way my boss at work wants to give me promotion because I'm a kickass programmer. It flatters me. It feels good being wanted by someone else then your partner.
What matters the most is that I LOVE my boyfriend. No amount of flirt or compliments can change that. I choose him. What hurts the most is that after 4 years he doubts that.

[ASmith43]

With the way you responded to Kurjaj's post I would have to say your boyfriend is a lucky man! He got away from your toxic ass before it blew up in his face. I've watched women go ballistic on their boyfriends over them doing the same thing you did. It is not right to be anywhere near that situation when you are in a committed relationship.

Even thinking you have any justification for your actions shows you are not worth the time of day when it comes to a serious relationship.

[Kuraj]

Oh wow, and here I was giving you some benefit of the doubt that you just made a stupid but a honest mistake.
But sloots gotta sloot am I right?

Well, sorry to break it to you but what you think is true is not going to be true for other people.
It certainly is not true for me, your boyfriend, most of the people in this comment section and odds are it is not going to be true for most people in the dating game either.

Whatever disgusting things that flatter you, keep them to yourself in shame and don't go around expecting people to respect you when you blatantly disrespect them.

[Anonymous]

How would you feel if your boyfriend was flirting with another girl? Your ex is really hurting right now, and I don't blame him. You don't flirt with other people when your in a relationship. It's rude, disrespectful, dishonest, mean and a bunch of other things I can't think of!!! You totally lost his trust... Maybe next time, you'll think twice. What you did is considered cheating to some people...

[guysaskgirls555]

she won't think twice. She is literally defending her actions and saying that her boyfriend acted like a kid --_--

[Anonymous]

Sorry girl, but I have to say you did a mistake back there. It sure broke his heart seeing you flirt with another guy and he actually heard you as well. It really disappointed him.

[SHAHRUKH889]

yes of course you can tell to your boyfriend so that there is no future misunderstanding.

[1truekhaleesi]

Flirting is never okay in a relationship. He was totally justified.

[cavmanier]

"He knew I have a boyfriend and I was often talking about him"

Lots of guys don't care. Them "conquering" you despite having a boyfriend would make the challenge more fulfilling for them. It's why before a porn interview, they person tends to ask if they have a boyfriend. It makes the idea of sex with them more difficult to get and therefore more attractive (rarer and more value attracted to her). You think that there isn't a point behind flirting? You think he ultimately doesn't want anything? If that's true, why doesn't he flirt with other men then? It's because he wants nothing with other men. A lot of girls don't understand that.

That would have been a deal breaker for me too. I would forgive you though because you seem to not understand the guys intention. To your boyfriend, you basically cheated. I would explain (no offense) your ignorance and apologize (if you don't actually want to do the guy).

[Asker]

Actually I might just let him go. No matter how hurt he is over this, I'm also hurt for being treated like goddamn criminal. Four years of love and trust, and he turns his back after one single misunderstanding, not even wanting to talk it out and let me explain? Clap clap. What a nice way to find out how insecure and distrustful he was. So, he goes out to eat alone (knowing that I'm on my way home) and doesn't even ask me if I wanna go together? Not to mention when was the last time he flirted with me or had sex with me because he's too busy playing video games.

[cavmanier]

Him thinking you cheated isn't related to him lacking confidence. Trust is about belief in reliability. He saw you do it.

You brought up unrelated relationship issues. I d k why he went out to eat without you or hasn't flirted or had sex with you. I have a feeling the mutual flirting was something you used to feel attractive to possibly compensate for the latter issue.

I find this fascinating about humans: he is hurt and insulted by your behavior so he wants to be away from you; you then feel hurt and insulted by him feeling that way so you want to be away from him. The real issue is he thinks you cheated (at least mildly cheated) which you didn't understand. He didn't have the foresight to see what was happening. To be fair, the "one single misunderstanding" was him thinking you're cheating on him. That's a huge one lol. In his defense his response to you is very common and even rational given his perspective. It doesn't mean you aren't special to him.

[cavmanier]

It looks like you have some other relationship issues though, especially if you aren't having sex. I can see how you may be looking around or at least for another guys validation.

[Asker]

I wasn't really searching for another guys validation, it just came. It feels good when someone other then your partner wants you too. I don't see anything wrong with it, it's a human nature. It flatters me, I won't lie. But does that mean that I want to do my coach? Absolutely not. Not because I want to be faithful, but because the only one I want is my boyfriend. When someone comes to you and tells you "wow, you're really amazing and beautiful, I wish I was your girlfriend!" would you say "fuck off" or would you smile and say "thank you"? My mom is married to my dad for 45 years now and she constantly flirts with my (ex?) boyfriend because he's sweet to her. I find it cute.

[cavmanier]

That's understandable to feel flattered. No I wouldn't tell a girl I didn't know to fuck off. That's different than having a relationship with her where we keep flirting. Cheating always starts with flirting. People don't have sex without a process that progressively leads to more. I personally think flirting is a tool used to show at least mild interest in a person. Maybe you just did it to let him know that you enjoy him showing he wants you. I'm not trying to be rude, but I would be very skeptical that there isn't more to that. Regardless that would be a deal breaker for me. I wouldn't want my girl to flirt with guys that want to fuck her. Think what you want.

[Barrabus_the_Free]

I love how she just tried to turn this around and paint herself as the victim in the comment above.

Standard fare for women, tho.

[cavmanier]

@Barrabus_the_Free We've all experienced that many times lol

[Truthatanycost]

@Barrabus_the_Free Yea I noticed that as well. It seems to me that the boyfriend did the smart thing. And after reading her other comments, I now have absolutely no doubt that he did the right thing.

[Asker]

@Truthatanycost Yeah, me too. It was for the best.

[Phantomium]

As someone who has been in the coach's role I never understood why women with bfs go out with other men and flirt. Flirting is never OK when you're already in a relationship. Put yourself in his shoes. How would you react if you had seen him with a beautiful woman having a lunch/dinner/whatever and flirting. You'd think it's a date.

[mrinalashesh007]

Well.. the thing that you flirted with this coach landed to in trouble. though just having something to eat in a nearby restaurant is absolutely fine.. your boyfriend heard you flirting with him that's bad.. you were not loyal.. if other guy flirted.. you should have maintained that decorum of a relationship.. I guess you were in the faulty side.. but nevertheless.. they to make things work out s.. do thing only he knows and likes.. preparing the food he likes..(hope you be able to cook) , booking a table in a nearby restaurant and having him surprise dinner or lunch or something.. persuading him to have sex with you.. many ways are there by using which you can easily clear the air.. but.. as of now.. he needs time.. give it.. at least a week.. he must miss you.. he does it though.. but unable to tolerate your sudden disloyalty.. it's not bad to be flirted.. but flirting back is the issue when you're in a relationship.. hope that helps

[FýrdracaDócincel]

You went out to eat with another guy and didn't tell him about it.
Take that, throw in that a ton of girls (including you) flirt with him, that you think he's attractive AND how common fantasies with teachers/coaches are, and you get a recipe for enormous amounts of uneasiness.

If a girl did that with me, I would think that I was only second place. You can say "but it's never going to happen" all you damn well please, the idea that I'm just a stand-in for your coach, that you lose all sense of and attraction to me whenever he's nearby, hurts all the same. I'm not saying that's what you're thinking, but there's a good chance that's what he's thinking.

That being said, I do find it strange that he did this after four years with you. Do your relationship have a steep uphill ascent in the past? If so I'm willing to bet that whatever it was needs to be brought back to the table.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

You know your coach wants to fuck you..
.. the fact that you're letting the idea be entertained speaks volumes about how committed you truly are to your boyfriend

[muzziy]

I think it's a great big misunderstanding between both parties... He didn't understand that you were just casually chatting but at the same time you can't blame him for feeling betrayed due to your coach being attractive. I think it was just a big confusion. The thing I would do is continue trying to get through to him but at the same time try and not become a pest. If that doesn't work, ask your coach to speak to him about what happened so that he can explain it. If that doesn't work then he clearly doesn't care about listening to your side of the story and there fore you are better off

[guysaskgirls555]

she flirted with him. its not a misunderstanding. they talked about sex with eachother and it basically is a date

[tyber1]

You went on a date with another guy, who you admit is attractive, who you admit to flirting with and talking about sex with, and you don't understand how he is reacting this way? You cheated on him and got caught, whether you planned on cheating isn't important. Your lack of remorse and inacceptance of blame shows that you really don't get what you did wrong or that you just don't care. If you showed remorse, I might be willing to cut you some slack and offer advice but I'm not sure you deserve it.

[akadatank44]

No I don't believe so and I don't believe it was flitting and probably more playful banter than anything. Which happpens and people do flirt in relationships like that. Its harmless and if your personality is like mine gets construed as flirting when you two where just talking and having a good time. Unless you were feeling his arms and stuff like that and talong sexual butJust teasing each other is how I assume what happened from your description. Honestly though he threw away 4 years... but the dude didn't trust you. Why was he even there? Probably followed you. He was gonna break up with you anyways it sorta sounds. Even if you handing your coach a napkin lol. Just sounds like an excuse to me. Just let him go and find someone else! He obviously wanted to end things.

[Asker]

Yeah, playful banter. He was teasing me how I suck at volleyball and then the topic somehow turned into comparing volleyball with sex. It was just a funny conversation but I guess that's flirting? I'm a flirty person, I talk the same way with my girl friends as well, I don't see what's all the fuss about. Granted, it's not something that should be done in front of a boyfriend, but c'mon we're all flirty sometimes. I bet he wouldn't care if it was some fat, ugly guy, the problem here is that the coach is good looking. My boyfriend knows that I'm a natural flirt (I smile a lot and I'm kinda perverted too, I make sex jokes) and he never had a problem with it so far because this is the first time I was overly friendly with a hot dude. No matter what others say I know I didn't do anything wrong. I'm sorry that he saw what he saw, but if he can't trust me then yeah, I guess it's best that we break up.

[akadatank44]

Lol yeah I totally get that. I am the same way even with the dirty mind and jokes 😂 I guess it could be construed as flirting. Yes we are all flirty, taken or not, and I feel me and you are similar with our personalities. It wouldn't of mattered if it was a girl friend, guy you work with, whomever you'd still of said it. So its like c'mon. I feel a lot of people on here don't expierence the real world enough to understand this is normal. Hell people who work close together tease and playfully call each other work wives or husbands and they are married to other people.
Even so it was overly friendly. Friendly being the key word. You didn't say to the coach I wanna suck you off right here and the take me home to my boyfriend ya know?😂
Yeah I don't think you were wrong and I don't think this was grounds for a breakup. Honestly still go back to finding an excuse to break up.
Yes I think it's the best. Now I wouldn't go and date that coach tho he may see that and start shit or something.

[Truthatanycost]

''No matter what others say I know I didn't do anything wrong.''

If you can't be honest with a bunch of online strangers, at least be honest with yourself.

What I occasionally do is take a good look at my own behavior, and actions in certain situations and then I change anything that I'm not happy with. Doing so takes time, effort, introspection, but most of all, complete and brutal honesty with myself.

I also think that it's not just the flirting that caused the break up, it seems like an ongoing thing with this being the straw that broke the camels back. It is your ego that is preventing you from being honest with yourself and it is the ego where that comment above originated from. Notice the wall you created when you wrote it.

[Asker]

@akadatank44 I don't see my coach in that way, I'm not attracted to him. I don't want to date anyone right now. Learning that such a strong, term relationship can break because of something as stupid as this makes never wanting to be with anyone again.
Thnx for understanding by the way, it's crazy how many people trash talk me here, I'm glad there's at least one person on my side.

[akadatank44]

Yeah I didn't expect you to but thought I'd mention it. You know how people can be and start shit. Completely understandable. He threw away how many 4 years just like that. He didn't even talk to you or be like what's up? Ya know that's why I said it was an excuse. It was rational behavior to just end everything but he must of been unhappy. Oh well your much better off now if he was unhappy. You'll just have to find someone who is more like you I guess and understand your personality.
You're welcome! Gotta remember that there is a lot of basement dwellers on here who've probably never scene a volleyball game played before 😂

[sodaa_popp]

Questions to ask yourself:
1) Did you say anything to your coach that you wouldn't have said in front of your bf?
2) Did you act in any way with your coach that you wouldn't have wanted your boyfriend to see?
3) If the roles were reversed, and your boyfriend had interacted with an attractive female coach in the same manner, and they ended up at dinner together, would you have been 100% okay with it?

[Asker]

1. No. I talk the same way when my boyfriend is around too.
2. No. I act the same way when my boyfriend is around too.
3. If the roles were reversed, I'd come to them and introduce myself. And if it bother me that he was with an attractive girl, I'd talk about it when we get home. I wouldn't just grab my things, dump him and leave for good.

[guysaskgirls555]

instead of looking to how he reacted, look at the reason to it which is you. I find it funny how you even have the guts and switch this around as to he is the one in the wrong here when you are actually the one who was flirting with your coach

[Truthatanycost]

@guysaskgirls555 Notice how she also went from ''it's just friendly / harmless flirty banter'' to ''I'm 100% sure the coach wants to fuck me.''

LOL...

[guysaskgirls555]

@Truthatanycost exactly, she can't even come up with some actual points that won't conflict eachother. in the question she admitted to the coach being attractive, then when responding she said there was no attraction for the coach. she's a liar

[Regular1]

You went on a date. Deny it all you want, but you went on a date. You were fully intending to put out for the coach (and I'd bet you already had) and you know it. boyfriend reacted the only legal way he could. Now, go be a cum-dumpster like you want to.

[ravedave]

Well did you tell him beforehand that you were going to go out to lunch with this guy?

[Asker]

No, I just told him that I'm gonna grab something on the way then. He said okay and that's it.

[ravedave]

Well I'm not saying he made the most rational decision, but you can see how it might look to a guy if he randomly saw his girlfriend out with some other guy being flirty, right?

[ravedave]

It might've been a good idea to let him know what was happening beforehand so there'd be no confusion. Better to be upfront and honest right away

[Truthatanycost]

So why did you omit that bit of information? that's highly suspicious that you mention going to have the food but happen to leave out the attractive coach.

[Asker]

@Truthatanycost Because I didn't plan to end up going with the coach when we were talking on the phone. The coach just tagged along because he wanted to eat too, and I didn't see anything wrong with it. We're not the type of couple that tells each other every single little thing. He goes out with his female co-workers all the time and I'm fine with it. I'm pretty sure he flirted with someone at least once in these four years, it's just impossible not to. I believe flirting while in a relationship is not a dealbreaker. I think the only reason this hit him so hard is because he happened to hear/see it. I wouldn't break up because of this, I'm so pissed right now.

[ravedave]

If that's really the case then I completely agree with you, it sounds unreasonable and hypocritical. If he's gone out with other women before without telling you, then I see no reason why he should be so upset here.

[Truthatanycost]

Then why didn't you make this clear in your response to @ravedave? In that response it sounded like you knew about it but didn't mention it to your boyfriend. This is very strange.

[guysaskgirls555]

the difference here is that you flirted with him which is inexcusable. Ravedave tell the truth here. It doesn't really matter if she ran into him, or she didn't tell him, what matters is that they were both flirting with eachother. THATS where you crossed the line

[Asker]

@guysaskgirls555 Yes, the fact that I went to grab a burger with him doesn't matter, it's that I flirted. But honestly, if later I told my boyfriend that I was flirting with the coach, I don't think he would react the same way. What hit him here the most is that he personally saw/heard it.

[guysaskgirls555]

and you have been flirting with him for how long? yes, some people appreciate honesty, but he saw your actions as going behind his back. put yourself in his shoes. you see/hear him flirting with another girl behind your back.

[Asker]

@guysaskgirls555 and I talk to him about it when I get home. I don't leash out on him like he killed my family, break up, slam the door and disappear.

[Truthatanycost]

That's because we aren't aware of all of the things we do during a conversation. From the outside, he would have noticed lots of things you had no idea about. Bodylanguage, eye contact, stuff you do with your lips, position, energy levels, mirroring etc.

There are so many ways flirting can lead to betrayal too.

Earlier you mentioned how it is impossible not to flirt. That's not true. It is very possible to never flirt with anyone again, if that's how you want to be. So what you said sounds like a lack of self control.

[guysaskgirls555]

asker, you may not realize the seriousness of what you did. A boyfriend of 4 years ran into you flirting over your vollyball instructor. The first thing he thinks about may be how long has this been going on? is your relationship with him even real? he doesn't know what to think of you besides the fact of you disrespecting his trust and love for you. So no, he didn't over react at all. also, take what rave said into account too. there is no other way around this, this is entirely on you.

[tyber1]

Coach didn't tag along because he wanted a burger, he tagged along because he wanted pussy.

[Asker]

@tyber1 If I was thinking about every single guy who wants my pussy then there would be no end and I wouldn't talk to any guy what so ever. A lot of guys want what they want, it's not my problem, I don't care if he wanted pussy or not. All he got is a burger buddy for 10 mins and that's it. A worker in the grill might as well want my pussy too and I still go there to eat burgers almost every day. He's my coach and I have to be on okay terms with him, if it was any other random guy I wouldn't even sweat. From what I see, you are too ignorant on human interactions. I don't know if you have a girlfriend or not, but if you do I bet there are many things you don't know about her daily human interactions with other guys. Do you really talk to your partner about every single person you had a conversation with during the day and all the details you talked about? Ask yourself this question in 20 years when you've been married for like 15 years already. I hope you will then be able to understand.

[guysaskgirls555]

just because you have the impulses of a squirrel doesn't mean everybody else as as stupid as you. You clearly have some really big mental issues and your boyfriend made the right move. you are a disgusting ''human''

[tyber1]

"Do you really talk to your partner about every single person you had a conversation with during the day and all the details you talked about?" No I wouldn't do that but if my partner went on a date with her coach that'd be a pretty big fucking deal.

[tyber1]

Perhaps monogamy isn't for you and that's fine but what isn't fine is betraying someone's trust and breaking their heart.

[Denizens54321]

So, not sure where you are now with your boyfriend. But first thing is to take reaponsibility for what happened. Even if you think it was harmless you have to understand that it must have been very hurtful for him to hear you and see you with someone else. Apologize for truly hurting him, show remorse and compassion and give him space. It is the right thing to do. Then wait and hope for the best. Unfortunately, is not that you betrayed him but the gesture is too much for someone ina relationship, man or woman. I would say apologize as many times as needed and truly repent. I really hope it works out for you. We are human beings and make mistakes. And if this was an honest one try to fix it the best way for both. Goos luck and don’t worry what others say.

[Barrabus_the_Free]

Good for your now-ex boyfriend! I love to see other men show a backbone. It gives me hope that maybe they're not all either thugs or worthless pussybeggars.

[Barrabus_the_Free]

And I doubt that events went down exactly as described. She's giving HER version of things. You know she's trying to cast the best possible light on her actions.

If he just up and dumped you after four years, either this event was more serious than you let on, or you've been pushing him toward this for a while and he finally had enough.

[TemplarKnight]

If i was your boyfriend, after seeing that, i would fuck your best friend, your sister, your mum, and 2 other girls, show you that I did it, then dump you

[AleDeEurope]

Flirting is cheating. Don't cheat if you don't wanna get dumped.

[JustinTheGreat]

Yeah flirting with other people is not something you do in relationships. It doesn't matter if you were just being playful, it's really disrespectful.

[SHAHRUKH889]

you shouldn't flirt with coach if my girlfriend would have done this I would have also done the same. so

[pooper89]

You crossed the line. You basically went to dinner with another guy. That's not okay

[thomasans]

What kinds of "teasing". Sex talk? Negative about guy. Must have been a "bad" girl otherwise he may have came home and pissed you went but glad you acted good. Trust is broken sorry Nothing lasts forever. No food in house?
N

[thomasans]

Now you can move in on coach and get some private lessons. Tell him its his fault and he owes you Big. Funny how things work out. But lesson learned? Plus remember coach was a flirt before and he will be again. Even after you sleep together (tonite?).

[theguyhasnoname]

I could really feel bad and get mad watching and hearing my girlfriend flirting with someone else... Depends also how much did you flirt with this guy and what did u said to him... 4years are a lot but depends what actually you said to this guy

[mo770]

He has issues, but u should have told him before u went who u would b with. Avoid issues that way

[guysaskgirls555]

he has issues for being angry at his girlfriend for flirting? I think you got this backwards

[mo770]

The way he reacted, yeah

[guysaskgirls555]

ok, so you are outside one day, your boyfriend is caught flirting with a girl over lunch. you have issues for breaking up with him?

[mo770]

absolutely, there should be a chance to explain because why would you be in a relationship with someone if you didn't trust them at all? if he told me and went to lunch with someone I wouldn't care. If I caught him I would simply introduce myself to her and observe his behavior. If he does look like he's hiding something, then we would have a conversation privately.

[guysaskgirls555]

ok you misread this question. her boyfriend literally CAUGHT and OVERHEARD her flirting with him!

[mo770]

Would still talk it out, thxs

[guysaskgirls555]

talk it out. well you are one in a million. for some people, once you lose trust its over, that doesn't mean he has issues

[mo770]

I'm entitled to my opinion which I gave. Ty

[Asker]

He wasn't pissed that I went to grab a burger with a coach, he was pissed that I was overly friendly with him. Now that I think about it, I wasn't even flirting, he was teasing me about my volleyball skills and then the topic turned into comparing volleyball with sex and it was just funny. Granted, I laughed because I had a good time, so it might've looked like a date or whatever. The coach did say at one point "well, you're amazing, I'd love to be your "volleyball" coach forever" to which I replied "you're too shabby yourself, but my one and only "volleyball" instructor is waiting for me at home and I'm probably gonna get some nasty spanking cuz I'm late". Maybe it was flirting, maybe it wasn't, I don't really care anymore. I believe that after everything I at least deserved a conversation and a chance to explain everything. It pisses me off that he saw me at the grill and didn't even approach to us. He just eavesdropped like a kid.

[tyber1]

"Now that I think about it, I wasn't even flirting, he was teasing me about my volleyball skills and then the topic turned into comparing volleyball with sex and it was just funny."

Yes, the conversation turned to sex completely randomly. There's no way you could have seen that as a very obvious sign that he was trying to get into your pants.

[guysaskgirls555]

after reading that reply from you its clear that you dont even deserve him in the first place. you literally have no remorse and are even trying to defend it by calling it ''not flirting'' when you were talking about sex. you dont deserve any conversation in fact, you dont even deserve him in the first place as you clearly aren't ready for an actual relationship. this is nobody but yours fault.

[Asker]

@guysaskgirls555 Yes, you're right, we're not right for each other. I deserve someone more open-minded and he deserves someone more decent. It was good that we broke up.

[guysaskgirls555]

actually, you deserve a slut like you. You see at first, I gave you the benefit of the doubt because usually when someone messes up which you clearly did they own up to their mistakes and then try and better themselves. Everyone make mistakes, BUT its another thing to sit here, defend your actions and then talk about your boyfriend being wrong for leaving you because he caught you cheating. He was probably one of the only people who didn't see you as a slut though as you have proclaimed this isn't something new so you are probably known around. Plus, you aren't even honest to yourself because you can't face the truth so for all I know you could have actually had sex with the guy, or 10 other guys for that matter as you explained flirting is ''impossible'' and you describe it as ''men wanting you vagina'' or ''I wouldn't date him right now''. he deserves better.

[Asker]

@guysaskgirls555 Wow what an anger you got there. :) Some chick must've messed you up really hard, huh? That lack of confidence is gonna lead you anywhere in life, just saying. No, people don't make mistakes, people know what they are doing. This wasn't a mistake, I knew exactly what I was doing and I don't see anything wrong with it. He does, and that's all that matters. All we can do is agree to disagree and be done with it. You can call me a slut as much as you want, what I don't get is why are YOU getting so mad about it? You gotta a really hard case of trust issues, I hope you overcome this eventually. There are people who agree with me, we're rare but we do exist. It's just a different mindset. Same as people who don't believe in monogamy. We have different opinions, that's all. My ex also has different opinion, and that's fine, good to know. That's why people break up and move on. So, grow up already. I'm close the question cuz I'm done with my boyfriend anyways, don't want back

[guysaskgirls555]

''Some chick must've messed you up really hard, huh''

actually no, I've never had my heart broken because I have an eye for females with an actual brain (unlike you) I just can't stand other people who hurt other emotionally and then try to excuse it.

''That lack of confidence is gonna lead you anywhere in life''

coming from the girl who likes to flirt with other people for some self satisfaction? you are the most insecure person on this post who can't even hold a man because you are to busy flirting with other guys.

''This wasn't a mistake, I knew exactly what I was doing and I don't see anything wrong with it''
I clearly see your lack of remorse, which is why I said you dont deserve a guy who wants to commit. he tried, but him and almost everyone on this post sees how much of a slut you are.

[guysaskgirls555]

and if you want to flirt with multiple men, thats fine, but acting like you are committing to someone and leading them one way is illogical in any way possible. you clearly never loved your boyfriend in the first place. you are a parasite