I don't want my boyfriend talking to other girls?

[Anonymous]

Do you get jealous when another girl texts your boyfriend? Last night I seen that my boyfriend was texting this other girl that used to talk to me and my sister. My sister met this girl on the same website me and my boyfriend met each other on. She used to text me but I stopped talking her around the time me and my boyfriend got with each other. She still texts my boyfriend every couple days and I got annoyed and mad at my boyfriend saying that it's annoying and why is he still talking to her. It seems they were just talking about movies or shows. He loves movies and shows he's always watching them. Her texts were with exclamation marks and this face" ' __________' " as if she was excited texting him or something. It's not that I don't trust him. I don't trust other girls cause I know how they can be with taken guys. I told him that "You guys probably flirt and stuff" and he was all "She's not like that" and that pissed me off cause I felt he was sticking up for her. I don't know why but it just bothers me. Does it bother you when your Bf/Gf starts texting the opposite sex?

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+1 y

he also told me that he doesn't talk to anyone but me so when he says that and then i see her in his messages it makes me feel like he can hide stuff.

[little_bird1]

Ahhh I don't know, this is very tricky. My ex boyfriend did the same. He used to chat and play online video games with this one girl who was living over seas. They would be in Skype call (just the two of them) every time they would play together. Honestly, it bothered me, because she was obviously flirting with him. I heard her couple of times, she had this really annoying voice when she dies in game and it sounded like she was moaning and it was so obvious that it was on purpose. She would often randomly message him how she is carrots or bananas and stuff like that. He didn't flirt back but it bothered me that he was laughing to it and had good time with her. I tried not being jealous but I just couldn't hold it. I hate it that I felt that way, because I knew I had no right to interfere. So I just dropped it. But the more time passed he was playing with her more often, he would ditch our plans to play with her and it just seemed like he was having better time with her then with me. I couldn't figure out if it was because of her or because of his addiction to video games. I confronted him and he stood up for her, he said I'm imagining things, that she's not flirting that she's just his gaming buddy. Then one day she sent him a pic of her ass and told him she wants to suck his cock. He didn't even told me about it, I found it out when I was at his PC. His response to that was "Hahahaha you are crazy!" and she wrote "and drunk <3 " to that. I flipped out! We had a huge argument over that, but he apologized and promised that he won't talk to her anymore. He deleted her and blocked her from Skype in front of me, so I was kind of relieved. But we compromised and agreed that he can keep her in game and that they could still just play. What little did I know, few months after that, I caught him jerking off on her flying tits over Skype webcam. And that's how a four years long relationship ended in an instant. My trust and my heart were completely broken. To me, that's cheating. I gave him a benefit of a doubt and he betrayed me. It hurt like hell. It left a huge scar on my heart, and I have a huge trust issues now. So, I guess if my new boyfriend would also have a close female friend, I wouldn't be okay with that. I just act like it doesn't bother me when it does. It doesn't matter if it's right or wrong, I can't change how I feel about it. So I get you.

[Asker]

omggg that sounds so annoying and she sounds like a skank fuck them both. :(

[sixrra]

As a used to be jealous girlfriend, it gets me EVERY single time. Knowing that ur guy is talking to another girl, especially that you used to talk to, and is having a good time talking to them it affects you a lot. Yes, my ex used to tell me it was pure annoying, but I learned to accept it. Why? Because we aren't their mother, and telling him who he can and can't talk to is a bother. If that girl makes him smile, what are we to take that away from him. I've learned to accept that and it did bother me, but I got used to it. I just avoided him when he would text her at most times. Sometimes, which really got to him, I would text this guy and laughed/smiled at his messages. But at the end of the day, we have to accept it because if we don't, they'll end up being really annoyed and leaving.
It seems mixed up and confusing, but it happens.

[AskAlthea]

1. '________' is not an excited face, honestly that is the derpiest face I've seen in a while, that is not excited or flirty
2. You don't trust your boyfriend. You said, "you guys probably flirt", meaning you think he returns the flirting, you don't trust him.

No, it doesn't bother me when my boyfriend texts the opposite sex, he's allowed to have female friends just as I'm allowed to have male friends and text my male friends. You need to deal with your insecurity and trust issues.

[Sarirhnekwmyb]

Actually love is not always about trust. yes, everyone can talk to everybody else but when it bothers that someone is gonna be more special for your loved person except you then it will bother you too that will result to into depression also maybe anxiety too because he is always gonna say that "she is just a friend"(well everybody says that so and we trust that too) but it bothers when he becomes emotionally attached to that person yo.

[sho155]

first of all you have to see the whole picture are they flirt or talking sexual does he hides his phone from you? if he does probably he's doing something wrong nd there's big chance he's not a honest person BUT if they are just friends then dont be insecure about it and your saying you do trust him which i believe your delusional u dont that's why u asking such questions but if he lies then i think its a red flag but if you aren't comfortable still telling him in loving way and communicate if he still does then you have two options accept the way he is nd stick around which ain't healthy or leave but dont threat this

[Unit1]

"It's not that I don't trust him. I don't trust other girls cause I know how they can be with taken guys."

Obviously you are lying. You do NOT trust him.

Trust is essential in any successful relationship.
Either give him your trust or end the relationship. There are only those 2 ways.

Or you can keep controlling him but don't be surprised if he dumps you.

[Anonymous]

honestly, it would bother me a little. i want to ensure that my boyfriend is loyal to me & he doesn't entertain other girls who may get in between us. but at the same time, i have male friends who i don't view in a sexual way at all & i would want my partner to trust that i am loyal to him and i wouldn't ever cheat because if i was with him it means i want to be with him. so the same thing goes for my partner, i don't care if he talks to other girls but if he is committed to me i want it to be just me that he sleeps with, flirts with, views in that way etc.

[Kitten967]

Depends how they talk. He's allowed female friends it just depends if he crosses the line with them. I'm not going to stop him having friends, just like he doesn't stop me having male friends. You also shouldn't control who your partner can and can't talk to.

[EvanR]

As a guy I would find it frustrating if I was constrained to only talking to my girlfriend. Now in the other direction, if I had a girlfriend and she was texting other guys or so, I would probably have my guard up, but not say that she shouldn't talk to any other guy but me.

[True_Reid]

My other half has always had female friends, some of which I didn't meet for months and I've always had male friends that I talk to every few days.

I'm not the jealous type, when we first got together it bothered him but I've always had male friends and he needed to get over that or it wasn't going to work.

It's always trust thing, by being over jealous and clingy you could end up pushing his away so you need to get some control on your reactions.

[singlebee]

Do you flirt with you male friends?

[True_Reid]

@singlebee, we don't flirt, we argue, we fight, we give each other advice... I work in a very male environment, I'm one of the guys. They don't watch what they say around me and I respond as if I was one of them.

Getting on with people and flirting are not the same thing! People always seem to not get this and drives me mad.

[singlebee]

Okk yeaa as long as it's just platonic... it should be ok for you to have guy friends

[christian_witch]

You have some issues you need to work through. He's allowed to have friends of the opposite sex. If you want to ensure he stays then you have to cut it with the possessive attitudr. And you obviously don't trust him. Because if you trursted him it wouldn't matter what other girls tried.

[cutemz]

I agree. He should only focus on one girl. Don't like boys who talk to other girls

[Pizzalover101]

It would if they don't show you the text

[Anonymous]

i am not a jealous type

[Anonymous]

Keep him in a closet.