Can you have a relationship without passion?

[Anonymous]

I ask this question because I'm having trouble with my girlfriend of four years, and it feels like the passion is just gone now. I've tried so many ways to get that spark back, and it usually ends up as a disappointment. I've felt this way for over year now, and I've talked to her numerous time. Yet to no avail. I don't want to give up, but I'm at my breaking point.

Yes

No

[lizziepooh03]

Of course someone can have a relationship without passion and many do, though it is not optimal.

You are young, if your age of 18-24 is accurate, so why do you want to stay in this relationship? It is typical for a relationships at this age to end even if the couple have been together for many years. So, do you really want to stay in this relationship?

If you want to stay in this relationship and you want to regain the passion, then you need to identify what is making it so that passion is not there. Is she criticizing you? Does she not want go out and explore things with you? What is it exactly?

Once you identify the cause, then you can figure out if it can be fixed.

[lizziepooh03]

So I read the rest of the responses and your responses in this thread and it seems mostly that she is denying you sex. Is that what you mean when you say no passion, no sex?

If yes, that is an issue and it will only become more and more of an issue. What is her reasonings for not wanting sex?

[Fitness-Fanatic]

It can survive without passion , but it can't survive without being passionate about making the relationship work or survive the bad times.

If she knows how you feel, but still has no intention of making the effort to spice up the relationship then she's not passionate about being in the relationship.

A relationship won't work if one person disregards their partners feelings and won't put any effort in to change things

[HOAAH]

you have to have some kind of passionate feelings for the person you are with, I mean that's what love is... it means you love them, you really like them, you feel something for them. I really love my husband, I really like who he is. If that isn't passion then I don't know what is. And if you don't have that, why are you with the person?

[Asker]

It's hard to just pick up and leave when you've taken in her child as your own. She tells me she loves me many times a day, but when I put effort into creating a romantic, or engaging evening, I get rejected. I've tried from multiple directions. Romantic (nice dinner, music, ect), direct ( engaging, trying new things), and "roughly" to put it appropriately. I get so frustrated being turned down all the time.

[HOAAH]

you have to talk to her and tell her that you feel disrespected and unloved when she does xyz, and ask her why she is doing that? Is she feeling unloved?

[Asker]

I've talked to her about it many times. She tells me she just doesn't want to. I don't see how she would feel unloved, I tell her, and show her everyday. I've even had our bestfriend ask her why she's like this. She told her the same thing.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

I don't understand how any relationship can function without it.

Gotta say I commend your resiliency. I certainly wouldn't have lasted over a year in those conditions.

Look, you're terrified that the golden age of your love (or whatever) has passed and you want to fight furiously, endure anything, to get it back. I get it. But at this point, I think it's best to put a suffering old dog to sleep.
I really am sorry man.. I can tell you love this girl. But you just gotta remember that she's not the girl you fell for. Good luck. Keep me posted.. please.

[aWeirdDude]

So like technically yes? But that's like for whoever doesn't have the passion to be just operating like a machine? So I would argue it's a deteriorating relationship.

[Wonderer89]

Passion as a consistent emotion doesn't exist in long term relationships, not as it does in the initial phase. The lust and euphoria summers down to embers that when you put a particular amount of effort into, or change of circumstance it flares back up into flames but that's not a sustainable or realistic expectation

[samhradh_leannan]

If you've been unhappy for so long, I think you need to listen to your heart.

As a last ditch attempt, you could try couples therapy. But that will only work if you both really want it to.

[nevermoregirl7]

Technically, you can. But if it bugs you that much, it might be time to cut things off. You don't want to be in a relationship where you feel stuck.

[SarahsSummer]

yes you can have one, but by doing so you are denying yourself a truly great relationship.

[mooky06]

I don't believe a relationship can last if there is no passion anymore

[Phoenix98]

I feel like you have to at least have a little bit of passion or at least desire.

[Anonymous]

what do you mean, she doesn't want to? she doesn't want sex with you?

[Asker]

Yeah.

[Opinion Owner]

for your age 18-24... do you want life with her for the rest of your life w/o sex?

don't worry about her kids... they will be fine.

[Anonymous]

''Tis was is a relationship if it lack thee passion? Without fire to fuel it is dull and it withers away into nothingness.

[Anonymous]

I don't think so - I was in this situation a while ago and we just got board of each other

[Anonymous]

One will end up cheating if you still continue that way

[kmmer]

Some may be able to. I can't. I'm very passionate.

[zombiebabe]

i don't think its possible

[jennyem]

unfortuantelty many couples end up that way!

[Anonymous]

I think you can I don't why

[hotstuff76]

follow your heart

[Bleepasaurus_RexEwww]

Nope

[Lumberman53]

Nope.