Is my boyfriend using me?
we separated 2 weeks ago but he wants to hang out. he avoids sex. he doesn't want to touch me at all. but he usually has no money and bums stuff off of me always
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If it bothers you, could you just try saying no to him. It sounds as though, even though you separated, you still may have some feelings for him? However, it almost sounds as though he may be angry at you or something and is "punishing" you in a passive/aggressive way? I'm asking because I can only guess at the situation. If you guys are separated, why is he still hanging around? And, why are you letting him? Separation should be a time for thinking about your relationship and where it is headed (if anywhere), but if you're supposed to be separated, but he keeps coming around, how is this helping things? At any rate, like I mentioned, you could always just say no to him when it comes to him trying to get things from you at this time - especially if you think he's just using you. Also, I think that communication is a key to all of this - Are you communicating your intentions clearly to him? If not, he may be confused as to what his boundaries are with you because of the fact that you're allowing him to come around during a separation time. Who initiated the separation and why? If you're separated, why are you talking about him not wanting to have sex or touch you? Please answer some of these questions so I can better help you! Thanks! :)
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If he is no longer in a relationship with you then it's natural surely that you wouldn't have sex any longer or touch one another.
When you hang out, try not having any money either and see if he sticks around. There you will find the answer as to whether he is a user or as to whether he does want to make a go of it as friends.