What Do You Think About Women Who "Spoil Their Man?"?

[LolaB13]

As someone who has been victimized by gold diggers I think this is completely false! 😂 I have a what's mine is mine and what's yours is yours mentality because of guys using me for money. Of course one of my all about their man all the time friends posted it on Facebook. 😂😂 Ladies who are in relationships do you do stuff like this for your man and he doesn't take it for granted? (vise versa for guys) Guys would you appreciate it if a woman was like this without taking her for granted?

[mooky06]

Well I was having a conversation with my boyfriend about mobile phones. I guess he disliked the current phone he got (which is still brand new). The software wasn't fast enough. I offered to get him the phone he wanted but he didn't want to. He said "My phone works fine. It's still new"

But still you know lol I want him to be able to have nice things too 😋 Hmm maybe for a birthday present? A surprise? (Well that's if he doesn't read this comment lolol)

But I do like to spoil him. I didn't know what size jumper he wears and I was trying to ask him indirectly so he didn't know (but that failed) haha at least I know his size now.

I often see things at the mall that I feel like he would either 1. Like or 2 look good in. So maybe I'll just buy it for him and send it to him during Christmas

I like spoiling my partner though ☺️

[LolaB13]

I used to do that too with my last boyfriend. I would just see stuff in the mall that he would like and get it for him because I really did like him at the time, but he took that for granted.

[mooky06]

Ugh :( sorry to hear. Yeah I think it's just us being too generous.

[soccerchick4eva]

I think it should all be done in a private way, people posting it on social media is like they're asking to be applauded for what they are doing. It's your life, spoil them if you want but splashing it on social media and telling people just makes it look like your wanting to get attention for it

[LolaB13]

Preach!! 🙌🙌

[April10]

I make more money than my boyfriend so I pay for more things and I guess you can call that spoiling him. But the truth is, while I handle things financially, he does so much more for me. Money is money. It can always be earned. But the things he does for me is priceless.

[LolaB13]

That's cool that you have a good dude like that and if that what makes you happy kudos you to. Best of luck to you and your man. 🍀😊

[Taurus91]

I think its never a good idea to put your partner on a pedestal by spoling them constantly, because they will feel entitled and subconsciously treat you like a door mat. I think its better for couples to occasionally spoil each other but appreciate each other more often in little ways like listening or encourage each other when their flaws get the better of them etc.

[samhradh_leannan]

This is very true.

[LolaB13]

That's what happened with me and my ex. I was just trying to help him and his family with groceries and rent and he took that and ran with it.

[turbomode818]

I tend to spoil my girlfriends but I would love to find a women that takes care/spoils me like this I would be eating her out anytime she asked well if I had a girl I would be going down all day regardless I'd pamper

[LolaB13]

Kudos 👏👏

[fabulouspancakes]

I think it's best if both people pay for their own stuff, but it doesn't hurt to spoil the other person sometimes. It's pretty easy to tell when someone is using you for money.

[LolaB13]

I've always paid for my own stuff, never been spoiled by any of my boyfriends I had.

[Phoenix98]

It's perfectly fine if she wants to do that now and then, I wouldn't want that kind of spoiling to be happening all the time though.

In our family if you want to spoil us just cook us our favorite meal and relax with us.

[LolaB13]

Do you do the spoiling in your relationship? Or is it 50/50?

[Phoenix98]

My philosophy is first treat a woman like a person, then a princess, then a Greek goddess, then a person again.

[LolaB13]

Awwww that's sweet

[Phoenix98]

Not really haha, I took it from a comedy show, just seemed like good solid advice.

[LolaB13]

Hey it seems to work lol

[Phoenix98]

True.

[samhradh_leannan]

Relationships are a two way street. Gifts, dates, etc. should go both ways. But do I hand my boyfriend gas money and escort him to the barber shop? No. He's my boyfriend, not my son.

[LolaB13]

The guys I dated wanted me to do everything. Want so much but give so little.

[samhradh_leannan]

That's definitely not cool.

[LolaB13]

Now I won't even so much as give a guy a penny if I date him.

[samhradh_leannan]

I've never really understood the practice of giving money to your SO... you're not their grandparent lol. Unless it's money for shared groceries or something.

[LolaB13]

I did give him money for his groceries and rent, all for his family because I loved him that much. They were so ungrateful 😩

[dragonfly6516]

Once in a while for a special occasion or as a thank you, but more than that is just a grand gesture to cover up some other deeper issue.

[LolaB13]

I agree.

[natured]

I don't mind spoiling my man, he spoils me also so why should I not spoil him back...
Spoiling each other for good matters is amazing...
WHY NOT !!

[LolaB13]

Seems like it's pretty equal spoiling so I can understand that.

[Blake0048]

I don't know of many male gold diggers. Most men seem to work for what they have in life. I didn't even know this was a thing maybe I need to consider this. lol

[LolaB13]

They exist lol you must be a guy that works hard. Probably why this is so foreign 😂

[LostGirl08]

There are gold digging men. I dated one before and it's just fucking ridiculous. I sacrificed so much and he barely lifted a finger. Sex was even worse. 😂😂😂

[Blake0048]

I don't work hard actually... nice try. I don't go for it if its not easy. there's always someone else willing ti give it up cheaper.

[LolaB13]

@LostGirl08 You poor thing!!! *hugs*

[LostGirl08]

@LolaB13 thanks but that was like 5 years ago. 😊

[BeautifulPromisesx]

I would do that for him but my man wouldn't let me.. he spoils me a lot though

[LolaB13]

Sounds like you have a good one

[BeautifulPromisesx]

I thank God for him on the daily

[Blitzkrieger]

i think in this modern stressful day and age it is no longer a luxury to spoil your partner. that goes for both men and women. i feel that many relationships are destroyed due to all the stress of modern life.

[LolaB13]

When you say no longer a luxury you mean it's like a requirement?

[AmesRocks1]

It's soo cute. The same when they guy spoils the girl😍😍😍

[LolaB13]

Ok ok I'll admit it's cute but a little. When I say little I mean 👌

[Krodaxun]

I don't think she should pay for his gas or haircut. But it is good to treat him once in a while.

[LolaB13]

I don't think so either... and when I did try the treating thing with me exes they felt entitled to it just because they gave me dick like I can't get that from any dude I meet.

[LolaB13]

my**

[Krodaxun]

Entitled? Funny.. Go on any dating app and you can get laid in 10 min, probably less. What make's his so special 😂 I usually take care of my partner, so I wouldn't mind a treat now and then. But I am a grown ass man, I can handle my hair and gas.

[LolaB13]

Well I did like him beyond his dick at the time lol but he would say dumb shit like that and I would tell him his dick isn't the only one in the world. I guess he didn't like that 😂😂

[Krodaxun]

😅 The truth hurts

[noseene]

To be honest I'd never accept that. I want to be the one who spoils her. :) And letting your girl pay for your gas? That's just a big no.

[noseene]

I'd be happy to buy her dinner and pay for her gas, though.

[LolaB13]

They do exist! 😂

[noseene]

haha, what do you mean? There are lots of guys willing to spoil their girl.

[LolaB13]

I'm not one for being spoiled BUT it would be nice to not have to pay for everything ALL THE TIME

[noseene]

You seriously had to pay for everything all the time? Why did you go along with that?

[LolaB13]

I liked him a lot at the time.

[noseene]

This is why mums tell their daughters to dump guys who don't pay for everything.

[LolaB13]

Yeah then we get called bitches or get told that our standards are too high 😂

[noseene]

Only cheap guys say that. :P Feel free to PM me if you want some tips on how to avoid this in the future. :)

[sjd33]

At the end of of the day i am a man an whatever needs to be done i do whats in my power 2 make it possible bt i by no means need a woman 2 spoil me that is solely my position..

[LolaB13]

Ok ok I see you 💯

[TripleAce]

Only deserving relationships that have proven to be worth it deserve that

[LolaB13]

Again I don't know what that is

[TripleAce]

Yea I do understand... I know a few girls that have the same issue. They just don't know what a good relationship is so they think what they have is good... but in fact it's garbage compare to what's really good

Sometime I think that women might stay with their shitty boyfriends because It gives them purpose... as in something to always have to work towards.. know what I mean?

[LolaB13]

Not I... why would I work hard for a shitty dude when I can just find a better one?

[LolaB13]

I'm an asshole I know 😂😂😂

[TripleAce]

Cause some prefer to be in a shitty relationship versus being alone... they keep saying they can't find someone good so they just settle for whatever is there

I think

[TripleAce]

No it's fine... you're really not alone in how you feel... I've been seeing it for years now

[LolaB13]

I just have a very unsettling attitude towards males (with the exception of family of course)

[TripleAce]

defiantly understanble... but also keep in mind that means your soul isn't coming to men with a clean slate... it's coming with negative energy. That in itself is a perpetuating cycle for more bad relationships even if that's not what you want

You have to no matter what always give the next guy a fair chance... don't punish him for the past guy's mistakes

[LolaB13]

Even if I pick up a shitty vibe? 😂

[TripleAce]

I think if you pick up a shitty vibe it should be explored a little and if it's still there, next! don't waste your time on dumbasses

But at the same time come to it with open arms as a new start... almost like a coin flip. The second time you flip a coin you can get heads or tails but the first flip has nothing To do with the second coin flip

[Ariesealey]

I love to spoil my man. But I start becoming salty if he doesn't spoil me back lol... so now I'm a little hesitant to spoil him, should be give and take I guess then it's all good if it's equal

[LKAlex06]

I see no problem. If the one that gives, likes giving, and the one receiving likes receiving, then I don't think it matters what order the genders are in.

[giant_ant]

I've been spoilt all my life, never had to work for it.

I know I'm gonna get lots of down votes from desparate women...

[LolaB13]

You'll get an up from me. Shit you were honest 💯

[giant_ant]

Oh thanks babe.

[simple-question]

They are a treasure and they deserve being spoiled more than twice as much in return--

[LolaB13]

Well aren't you sweet. 😊

[Midget_Hug]

I've never met a woman wealthy enough to do such for me.

[LolaB13]

If you did. How would you feel about her wanting to spoil you?

[Midget_Hug]

I imagine being uncomfortable with it.

[karahiri]

i consider like... buying him a rolex to be spoiling him. anything else is just upkeep lol.

[TripleAce]

Woah there princess lol
I can't even imagine what you want as spoiling you 😂

[karahiri]

@TripleAce probably yummy food for me.

[TripleAce]

ya right lol... sound too good to be true hahah
but nice try Karahiri lol

[karahiri]

@TripleAce lol. Well, good thing you don't have to worry about it ☺

[TripleAce]

Phew dodged a bullet there hahahha
But that sounds like a real women... sure she expects a real man but in return she sounds like a real women... im sure you have lots of love to give

Good girl Karahiri :)

[skylimetoon]

my idea of a perfect relationship would be two people spoiling each other and bit taking it fit granted

[LolaB13]

Mine too but that's wishful thinking on my end.