My boyfriend met my best friends brother at her Christmas party. Needless to say he was pretty rude to him. My best friends brother can be a ass hole most of the time. Well anyways, my boyfriend hates him now. I was friends with him before, and mysteriously he stopped being my friend on Facebook, well recently he asked me to be his friend again. I accepted him, but my boyfriend had a fit. I had a very long and horrible argument with him, and ended up deleting him again. My boyfriend doesn't understand that regardless of him not liking him, that he is putting me in a bind with my best friend. I don't know what I am gonna tell my best friend when she asks me, why did I delete her brother. I'm sure once he notices I deleted him, he is gonna mention it to her. I've been knowing her family since I was in the 5th grade. Even though her brother is a ass hole, he didn't do me anything. What am I gonna do? At the end of the day that is her brother, why can't my boyfriend understand that he is potentially ruining my friendship with my best friend. What am I gonna tell her ? It's too the point I don't want my Facebook page anymore.
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You don't seem to understand WHY your boyfriend did this. I would trust it's actually for your long-term benefit.
Try to see your boyfriend is not the one being controlling here. He is simply trying to protect you. Let me explain why this is.
When it comes to other men, men DO have a sixth sense about other people, especially bad people. If you've ever seen the TV series 'The Wonder Years' you'll know what I mean. If he feels the relationship between you as his girlfriend and him is being threatened by a potential outsider/third party, you boyfriend will do what he can to protect it. And that includes your best friends 'brother' or anyone else for that matter.
You mentioned this guy was a jerk. If that is the case, he has the potential to ruin the relationship between you and your boyfriend, regardless of what may think of him. It is possible your boyfriend has sensed this (that he is trouble) and noticed your best friend's brother's intentions towards you. It could be moves he's done behind your back or things your boyfriend noticed like the way he looks towards you - this is why your boyfriend is being so agitated and concerned. For the fact that this guy is also your best friend's brother, its possible in the worst outcome he may be using the relationship you have with his sister to 'get to you' ie. her brother has an ulterior motive. THAT is probably why he asked you to add him again on FB.
I would say don't worry about the deletion of her brother - you are making it too much of an issue for your friend, and you are making your boyfriend's life hard - so don't. If you truly love him, listen to what your boyfriend says and follow his instincts - he is most likely correct in this instance. If your friend is truly your best friend it should not matter at all you deleted her brother and she would not mind it you having done that - after all the relationship is mostly between you and her. If she does ask just tell her you are doing for your boyfriend's sake cos he's paranoid and say you hope she doesn't mind. I do that all the time with my other friends too (I don't add all of their siblings, cos I don't know them very well) so don't worry...2
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