Both are important, but for me, I realised looks is more important probably 60:40. If I am attractive to a girl physically, that is the only time I will risk rejection and ask her out. I need to be physically attracted to her for me to be interested to know her personality in the first place. Even if she has the greatest personality, but if I am not physically attracted to her, I will never ask her out and rather stay at home or do something else. I have tried dating girls with nice personality but were not my type. I observed I was not exerting the same effort to maintain a conversation and was not really looking forward to the date. Just my two cents.
Looks. Personalities aren't potentially passed genetically so couldn't care less about those. If she's hot enough she could be a total bitch, I'd still do her for 2 weekends in a row vs 1 for the rest that are just average looking.
I'd say that about 30% of the people in my age range meet my "looks" standards. Far less meet my personality-standards.
However, I know relatively many people who do meet those personality standards. For example, I want them to be at least slightly intelligent/educated, otherwise I get bored. I'm in university, I know most of my friends from university, so they automatically meet that standard.
If I look around in the pool of people I'm surrounded by (who broadly study the same kinds of studies, take the same sports classes or go to the same bars - which is why I know them), I'd say looks and personality are about even.
I don't have much in the way of standards when it comes to looks. I have some preferences, of course, but it's not something I really dwell on. My standards for personality are a lot more important to me, though, and I think about them much more.
Definitely personality. There's a lot I want to achieve in my life & have pretty high standards for myself. I can't to lavish my lucky guy but I gotta know he's genuine gentleman first.
In my experience almost anyone can get attractive if they have a great personality
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I already answered a question similar to this, but for me I would say I have a higher standard for personality. For me looks are not everything. I'm not saying it's not important. By looking at someone, it's how we first judge them. I'm just saying, if someone has good looks but are a bitch, thinks the world revolves around them, and I don't even wanna be in the same room with as them. Then I'm not gonna really care about their looks, cause I won't be interested in them. I would love to find someone that has both, great looks and personality.
Your question is like asking me if I need food or water more to live. Both are important. I think I'm much more picky than the average person with both though. Like if all guys were like me, girls would not get 100 messages a day from guys while online dating. They might get one message every few weeks because I wouldn't hover over 90% of possible girls like a pack of hungry lions (I know; rejoice women).
I like good looks a lot, what man doesn't? But I am very specific about what kind of personality I need and if I were faced with a very dead-beat, boring girl that did not say much, or was totally a dominating weirdo and had fantastic looks or faced with a girl who had a lot of personality, a real individual, slightly needy, a sense of humour and deep emotions and integrity who had ok looks, I would pick the second, no questions asked.
It depends.
If it's just for a very short term hookup or one night stand, I honestly don't care so much about the personality as I already know what the "relationship" is all about.
But when it comes to a more substantial relationship, I'm almost a total opposite, as long as she has nice eyes, I'm flexible on the rest of the physical attributes but I'm very strict on Personality
Both are equally important. Because why would you date a girl who is just butt ass ugly... but also why would you date a girl who's beautiful but acts like a total dumbass asshole... you have to find a midpoint between looks and personality... that's how you do it.
She could be a 10/10 with a 0/10 personality. I don't care how hot she is, if I can't stand to be around her then the only thing I'm going to have her around for is aggressive sex.
My minimum is 6/10 looks with 8/10 personality. Looks fade but if she's a good person then it won't be difficult to be around her.
Personality. I'd be perfectly content with 70th percentile lookswise, but my standards for intelligence, independence, etc... would probably put her way over the 90th percentile in the personality department.
Initially, I prefer looks but they have to have a good personality to match it. I had a crush on a girl bc she was hot but then I realized she didn't have a good personality, so I got over it.
I'd go with good looks and an okay personality because a person can always change personalities and become better looks not so much.
I'm sort of both here I think being brutally honest.
You can change the way they look (not saying that I would change anybody) but let's be real once an asshole always am asshole
I don't think I have high standards for looks, just be above a 7.
But for personality I do have very high standard.
both really, if physically she is not appealing to me i won't be interested in getting to know her, and if i do begin to get to know her and realize she has an attitude/ unfaithful, annoying or inbelievably dumb then that is a huge turn off
It's called... wait for it... SHALLOW! :)
We always said, "While beauty may only be skin deep, ugly is to the bone."
I personaly have looks quite far down my list
but its a persons personality that makes me atrackted to them so i have that very high standerds for it
I see a lot of girls I consider attractive so I don't think I'm setting that bar particularly high. I'm looking for a very special personality though... someone who will put up with me!
personality by far
are u hot yourself OP? i have a theory that only girls that hover around the average range are the most egoistic and looksdiggers.
Of course, looks are good and all, but I don't want to be with someone who is only good-looking. It must be someone I can trust, I can have fun with, I like to talk to etc.
personality, both because I'm religious and I think that my personality is better than my looks
Both are pretty reasonable. Loyal and affectionate manly guy with a normal face and any healthy body type.
Personality. Looks matter only to an extent. I don't want to spend time with the way someone looks.
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