Why do people feel the need to "party" when they are younger to "find themselves"?
I mean like younger people... late teens/early 20s... they're out smoking, drinking a lot, casual sex, etc. being stupid basically. honestly, why? I don't see how it helps them "find themselves".I don't do drugs or anything, I'm a virgin and I know who I am. I'm 19 years old, and I'm a put-together person. I'm not out doing things that negatively impact my health or do something risky for the sake of "fun" because I see no fun in smoking... Drinking socially would be totally cool and not to get trashed but in a more classy manner, and there's no fun in whoring yourself out there... what about REAL love?!If people wanna "find themselves", stop acting dumb, show some respect for yourself and others, care about people other than yourself, and seek more "normal" fun things to do... there's lots of perfectly good, fun things to do. And just be you. Don't do things to fit a mold of "everyone's doing it!"Not that hard... The drama-free life is good. I'm healthy, it's great! ...but I'd be a WHOLE lot happier if my peers weren't getting progressively more and more stupid, and making dumb choices and girls actually pursued decent guys as opposed to the typical frat-boy.end rant lol. sorry I'm just in a bad mood right now
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Hey, my shallow and heartless ex girlfriend was one of those! Had everything great with me, but decided she needed to be a party-animal whore and throw everything away.
What Girls Said 3
I understand your frustration, I really do. It's hard to be yourself in a world where being different can be isolating. Being true to yourself and withstanding the pressure of "fitting in" isn't something you should hold against those who chose not to.You should be proud that you have the guts to remain faithful to what you believe in but you need to understand that what you have and want in life isn't what everyone else wants. It doesn't make them weak, it makes them different and in order to gain the respect of your peers - you should allow them to be different from you without judgment.I am my own person and have always been. As odd as this may sound, I too had the problem of giving too much of myself to friends and receiving little in return. That puzzled and hurt me. How my friends accepted my generosity, but when it was time for them to give - they didn't. Despite that, I never changed. I like myself - my loyalty, my compassion and generosity. I let go of the bitterness a long time ago when I realized the only one that it was hurting was myself.Don't hold other people's flaws against them. We can't help but be who we are. The kids you are upset with are dealing with life the way they know how. Yes, it could be dangerous, but isn't that their decision to make? You would feel less angst if you only worried about yourself.You don't have to be around people that make you unhappy - that's your choice to make. The only thing you can change is yourself - why not try to change your outlook on life or your attitude towards people you don't agree with? You are the only one with the power to make yourself happy.Live and let live.
A person's life is their own personal journey - who are you to dictate what road they should take?Why do other people's choices make you unhappy? How is it affecting your life? I think you're a lot less happier than you could be if you were to just worry about yourself, instead of what everyone else is doing. The only thing I can make out of this bizarre rant is that in comparing your life to those around you - your life sucks. Passing judgment is pretty much the only way you can feel good about yourself. You expect everyone else to change to make you feel better, instead of changing yourself. What you need to realize is not everyone wants to be like you, wants the things you want in life, or the goals you want to achieve. Spend your time working on yourself, instead of wasting it hating those who are different. I'd rather be a pill popping, alcoholic whore than a self righteous, pious, intolerant jerk like you.
I'd be so much happier if there were less self righteous assholes like you out there. I go out every weekend at school and I'm perfectly healthy. If you're going to go out and be stupid it's better to do it when you're young and only have to account for yourself then when you're 40 and have a family. Did it ever occur to you that people are going out to have fun with their friends instead of finding themselves? You're happy not going out and drinking so why does it bother you that that's what some people like to do to blow off steam. Everyone I go out with works extremely hard and the way we all choose to spend what time we have with each other on the weekend when we're not working is by hanging out, playing beer pong or flip cup, going to the bar, or going to a party and letting out hair down and just forget about everything for a few hours. If you're happy watching a movie and playing dungeons and dragons that's fine but don't act like you're better than people who go out. Just because you choose to relax and have fun one way and other people choose to do that another way doesn't make you better than them. And what perfectly "fun" things are you doing? I noticed you pointed out everything that you disapproved of without saying what you actually do! What makes you think you're more put together and sure of yourself than the guy who's won 10 games of beer pong? How do you know that 20 years ago your doctor wasn't doing the same thing you're upset at people for doing now? My life's drama free, healthy, and great too and I guess where I was thursday night? Drunk at the bar having a damn good drama free time with my friends
What Guys Said 2
I party just to have fun. I have a girlfriend who I love and loves me back and she stops me from doing some things. I didn't do any of those things to find myself.
You sound like me.. My ex is doing the same thing..and she dumped me for no reason.