What if my boyfriend wants to go see a movie with his ex lover.

[suga-baby]

he is out of town and at first he wasn't planning on seeing her but she asked him out to the movies. he said ok and now they are thinking about going to the movies. he ask me what i thought about it. he hasn't seen her in 2 years because she lives in a different state and he is only down there for the summer visiting his father. what should i tell him. ya i think you should go or no because i don't want you seeing her. im confused

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help me please. I need some more advise

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[lost-angel]

It obvoiusly bothers you, so I suggest you be honest with him.

Even if the answer is obvoius, ask him why he wants to see her, and spend time with her?

Alot of people think its OK to be friends with exs and keep contact. But exs aren't just, friends. YOu two shared something special in the past. Something you can't share with anyone else. And even if you are totally over that person, seeing/talking to them again, can bring those feelings back. Not the lovey dovey feeling. Just the special feeling that they once shared, the memories, the connection.

Thatz just my own ex theory.

But anywayz, ask him how he would feel if you went to the movies with an ex.

Tell him he could go if he wants to. But let him know how you really feel about it ok?

Just remember, you can't tell him not to go. because that won't change how he really feels. If he really WANTS to go, then he really wants to go. If someone told you not to do something you reallyl wanted to, you won't do it, but it won't change how you really feel right?

SO. just tell him to go if he WANTS to. But this is how you feel about it.

If he really respects you, and cares about you, he won't go.

[Anonymous]

Let him go. She is a friend right? You wouldn't say NO when he says can I go out to a movie with some o the guys would you? It's not a date, it's 2 friends going to a movie. And so what if the friend is a girl he used to date?

Does that make it off limits to go to a movie with her? Lke catgirl said, you should be able to trust him enough to let him go to the movies with his friend. And it isn't like you OWN him he is fre to go to the movies with whomever he wants. I think you wil seem posessive if you make him stay. How would you feel if you were friends with an ex and they lived far away. You were in the town and you wanted to see them. But your boyfriend said you couldn't go. It would make me think he didn't trust me, and he is posessive. SO I say let him go for it.

[Opinion Owner]

Also you wouldn't have minded as much if it was just a girl who he never went out with but were friends right? He would still have the same oppotrunities to cheat on you with that girl than with the ex girlfriend.

[Shlei3]

A boyfriend that really cares whether it's a week old relationship or 4 years old should not be going out with an old lover. it's not respectful. If you talk to him ask him how would he feel if you told him you were going to go see a movie with an ex lover of your own.

[ns-para]

I can guess that you don't want him going, so tell him that it makes you really uncomfortable. Let him know that it's not about jealousy, but respect.

I don't know. If he does go are you prepared for how you're going to feel about it for a long time afterwards? I don't think he realizes that he could be potentially damaging your relationship.

[NotSoBad]

Thats messed up. If he does this he obviously doesn't care about your feelings enough. He is taking advantage of you and disrespecting you. DON'T let anyone disrespect you. He is the idiot. You are the one who is right for feeling upset and angry. You have the right to be mad.

[MackBoy]

It shows that he is showing love and care for his ex lover more than you because he loves you and care more than his lover, he will not go with his ex lover for a movie. if he is going to marry you, he should be concerned about you than his ex lover. it is like he is not satisfied with you. if he does like this everytime, you will not know whether he is cheating and lying after it happens. if you ask him the same that you want to go to a movie with your ex lover, he will not allow you. he is not giving much respect to you. if he doesn't listen to you, you leave him because it will be a problem later in your life

[catgirl9]

I think you should let him go. It sounds like their relationship didn't end on a bad note and they are still friends. Letting him go will show that you trust him enough and that you aren't a possessive girlfriend.

[ALWAYSclassy]

I would have a problem with that. Basically, he wants to go on a date with his ex? I can't believe he even asked you!

[FreyaRed]

I would allow him much more than that under the condition he disappears from my eyes completely

[mommymommymommy]

My parents don't see their ex's.

WHY SHOULD THEY

[Reorx]

You sure can,, don't expect me to be waiting when you get back.