Why is my boyfriend looking at other women and how do I get over it?

My boyfriend and I have been together for years, and already I know that means we're pretty solid. But he's never been the type to check other women out or objectify. However, recently it's become a bit of an issue. Yesterday is case in point, a girl walks down the road and granted even I noticed her, since she was dressed provocatively, and my boyfriend stares at her for a good 20 seconds whilst we were waiting in the car at a junction. I saw him doing it out of his peripherals but he refuses to admit it. My issue is the length of time he looked at this girl and his attempt to disguise it, maybe he just didn't want his ass kicked. He claims not to 'check people out', but I'm not naive. Now I just feel like it means I'm not good enough/not what he wants and also I feel like I should just get over it since everyone claims it's just a guy thing. But it's really hurt my feelings and I feel bad about myself now as a result.

 

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  • talk to him about it and make sure that he understands that you were hurt by what he did and how he denyed it. Trust with a boyfriend/girlfriend is the key thing and if you talk over your feelings with each other it just makes your feelings towards each other much more stronger to know what's acceptable and what's not. But do not put yourself down because of what he said, tell him straight and you must be good enough because you have been together for years and are solid. Always remember who you are and that's all that matters and love who you are. :)

What Guys Said 30

  • You shouldn't feel bad. The guy was just responding to provocation in this case. It isn't a signal to you or anything like that.Just try to ignore his acting this way...It's normal behavior!

  • You should tell him it upsets you that he does it so openly. There is no proper way to get a guy to stop it, almost every guy does it. I don't do it when I have a girlfriend, but to be honest I don't get out much. I spend most my time in my house watching TV or online. So that's probably the reason I'm used to go going around with a parter and not look at anyone else. Since I'm not really used to seeing other girls or people other than her. Which suits me fine, I'd not have it any other way to be honest.

  • first off, if things are really going well, the average guy thinks about sex in whatever form about 2-300 times a day...you might want to give him some slack...now, if this is a daily problem, then there may be something wrong with your relationship if you don't already knowyou should talk about it and how it's bothering you...maybe you should plan your get-togethers at places where the chances of that happening is less likely or you may just want be more provocative in your attire with him to distract him to you more

    • I'm not going to be someone I'm not or dress differently to get him to pay me more attention?! I wouldn't be being true to myself if I did that. And as for sex, we have no problems there.

  • You should make a comment whenever you see him checking out other women. Not something ridiculing, but just something that will make him aware that you notice him checking out other women.Like when you saw that girl who was dressed provocatively, you could be like, "Look at the way she's dressed."If you say something like that every time you see him checking out other women, he'll become much more conscious of what he's doing and probably do it less.Try not to act too jealous or make too big a deal about it, because high levels of jealousy are not particularly attractive. I also agree with shadley12345's answer. You can make your point in a joking way, showing that even though it offends you a little, you still have a sense of humor about it.Some of the other guys here are being kind of jerks, acting like it's your fault for blaming him. I see two sides to this. One is that this is a very minor crime at most, although I wouldn't say there's nothing wrong with it.In the ideal world, all other women besides you would be completely invisible to your guy. I'm sure that's what most women would want, and as a guy, I'd like the same thing too. But the reality is that no one is perfect. Before he met you, he was attracted to other women, and so it's a lot to expect that he'd no longer be attracted to any other woman. There may have been a period of time where he was paying so much attention to you, that he didn't even notice other women. If that's the case, then you're a very lucky person. Not all women get that. Look at it like that.Right now, you have to accept that you're not the only woman in the world he's attracted to, but if at the end of the day, he'd still choose you over all those other women, then that's what really matters. This is where trust comes into your relationship. You have to believe that you and him share something special that none of those other women could provide him. Yes, even the best guys do objectify women sometimes. It's not something we should be proud of. Intelligent gentlemen know the difference between a lady and a tramp, but there can still be a physical aspect to attraction that's hard to overcome even if our minds know better.The other side of this of course is that as guys we should try to be better. So the guys who say they have a right to "window shop" have a really bad attitude. Guys shouldn't be trying to window shop, but you shouldn't be trying to keep him on a leash either...does that make sense? In this situation, the best thing you can do is keep cool, don't get too offended by it, understand that guys aren't perfect, but don't completely ignore it either.

  • 1) You shouldn't feel as though you're not good enough, just because he checks other girls out. That has nothing to do with it AT ALL!2) Just because he's staring at other girls, doesn't mean they are prettier than you, not does it mean he's lost interest in the way you look.3) You have every right to get mad at your boyfriend for straight up staring at another girl for more than 2 seconds when he is with you. It's extremely disrespectful, and you can let him know you aren't going to tolerate it. Tell him that if he's gonna do that even while you're around, you're not gonna feel like going out anymore. Don't get me wrong - I'm not saying to break up with him over this, but just the next time he asks you if you want to go somewhere, tell him you don't because he's just gonna end up staring at other girls and making you look insignificant. Say it like that, and he's gonna feel guilty the next time he decides to stare at another girl while you're there.

  • 1: Why does he do it? Because he's a male2: "But he's never been the type to check other women out or objectify" Yes, he has been, he's just been hiding it better.3: Why is it more noticable? Because he probably feels more comfortable around you after years of going out, and so feels 'safe' to look without pretending not to.4: In much the same way when you first started going out, he probably was trying to glance down your top every chance he could without you noticing. See point 1.5: I honestly don't think females 'get' just how trigger happy male sexuality is. Females tend to think a guy sees a female, then thinks "I'm single, so I can look to see if she's attractive" then we look. No, it's more like this. "Boobs. And they're attacted to a female that's good looking. And, hey did anyone catch me looking? I hope my girlfriend whom I love didn't see that".Now, how do you respond?Option 1: Consider it a personal attack in that something is wrong with you, get annoyed, angry, and wish he stopped. This really won't work.Option 2: Ignore it entirely, and it'll continue to happen and, despite knowing why, you'll still be annoyed.Option 3: Talk to him and say "hey, you can look, but make sure you look at me too". That way he won't feel attacked, but he should "get the hint" that you want to feel appreciated.Look. I know I might sound like an overcrazed pig from what I wrote above, but really, that's how ALL guys are. Every single guy I know, single, married, dating, every single one... when a pretty girl is nearby all look. Wear a lot cut top and ride on a bus one day and you'll see what I mean. It's not that we're intentionally looking to hurt a girls feelings. And it's not that we're thinking "she's better looking then my partner"That's not how it works at all. It's just body parts we notice without even a thought passing.

    • So you are saying that he should have his cake and eat it too?? Yeahhh no....

    • Why not? Like I said every single male I know is like this, and for the most part, the partners are OK. Also that said the girls do it too. For instance my mates Girlfriend (and mother of their 2 children) often will comment on 'beefcakes'. My Girlfriend points out pretty girls at times. It's just noticing a sexy girl or guy, not cheating in any way.Frankly, get over it. To suggest people can only notice sexually attraction of their partners is stupid and a lie.

  • Just because your off the market it doesn't mean you still can't window shop..end of the day he maybe looking at her but he's going home with youstop being insecure and listen to Marques Houston - That Girlyou will understand

  • You shoudn't feel bad about yourself that's life it doesn't mean your relationship is coming to an end. You're probably or will probably start looking at guys but that doesn't mean you're dissatisfied with your boyfriend is just means you're looking at guys. It will happen. It means nothing.

  • im sure if you saw a good looking guy you would look too...but I understand why it'd bother you how long he look or that he lied about it. unless he's really stupid it's pretty understandable that doing that in front of your girlfriend is disrespectful

  • Now that you are together for 3 years and he's doing it more I think signifies something...be careful...he's not just 'checking people out'...when I started to get bored with my gfs, the first sign was that I would look at girls more and with less discretion...

  • its just natural, you just go look at other men like that, he'l stop with it

  • maybe simply talk to him. when he does...ask him in a fun not penetrating way "does he like what he sees...does he want you to wear something like that?" who knows, maybe it can be a fun way for you to be a couple. but let him know also, later, that it hurts a little also. He needs to cut it back a little at least.

  • Dogs sniff each others' bums, that's their nature and you can't stop it. Men look at women that they find attractive. That's the world we live in, you won't be changing it.Try looking at the girls with him and talking about them. It will bring you closer.

    • Not sure who gave you a thumbs down but I compltely agree...my ex and I would talk about other girls - hell sometimes she'd be staring before I did...its natural for both men and women to stare at something attractive...ppl need to understand its life and to stop over analyzing the sitaution - he shouldn't be lying to you tho about looking...bottom line ITS NATURAL, start looking at hot guys that walk by and see how he likes it

    • My Girlfriend points out cute girls all the time, problem is she does it when I'm driving and sometimes I 'miss' it then I feel jelous. (In the interests of disclaimer, she's 'straight' but had a lesbian incident in high school, so... who knows how much is for her benefit too).

  • Hes probably thinking about leaving you

  • If you really feel bad about it, then you must talk to him. If not, you'll just keep getting hurt. Although yes it is a guy thing to look at girls, 20 seconds may be a little long. I don't believe that you have much to be worried about though. If he wanted to leave you, he would have. However he chose to stay...which means he still has strong feelings for you. Just have a talk about it, if he loves you he will understand.

  • Hmm, I've reached the stage in my relationship where we're now comfortable to look/stare/check out other people/couples and not worry about. I use to get sprung doing it and felt a bit embarrassed. That may be a reason why... Just another 2cents.

  • The bottom line is this: Girls will eventually always look at other guys and guys will always eventually look at other girls. If you can't accept this fact you're lying to yourself.In your case he has gotten comfortable enough to take these chances. At the begining he was probably so into you that he didn't want to hurt you and could control himself. Now that its been 3 years the comfort is there and there is a possibility the spark is fading or he's losing interest.He is wondering what its like to f*** other girls at this point and has been wondering for a long time. I'm sure he still has feelings for you but they aren't as strong as they used to be. This is natural and happens to every married couple out there.If you're planning on getting married soon I would have a sit down with him. I guarantee you will eventually do this as well whether it is soon or further down the road. That's how people are hardwired.

    • It doesn't mean that's he's loosing interest at all. You can be in love and very attracted to your partner...your still going to be attracted to other people.I'm sorry your girlfriend or wife doesn't love you anymore but that's no reason to drag this girl down

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    • This isn't a disney movie. I'm not trying to drag you down and I don't go out of my way to do that. If you can't handle the truth then that's your problem but if he never did that before and now he's doing it he has other things on his mind. I'm sorry if I offended you

    • So why bother dating if you know you'll dislike that person later?

  • You shouldn't feel bad. If a girl is dressed particularly provocatively or such, it's an instinctive reaction for guys to look. It's something sort of hardwired into our brains, so to speak, and it's just a bad habit that can be difficult to break. If he's trying to disguise it, then that's at least a step in the right direction: he realizes that it's something he probably shouldn't be doing, and chances are he's just as ashamed about his habitual action as you are about what he did.

  • Well, usually when I've been out in public with my pass ex girlfriends and I look at another girl its only because the other is hot...I mean if she has a certain feature in her that I like I'm going to stare but that doesn't mean I like her. I just means that I think the girl looks pretty hot. So, when your boyfriend does it, it really doesn't mean anything he still cares for you very much. its only looking noting else lol.

  • If I were your boyfriend I'd be looking at other women too. Matter of fact, I do it no matter what the situation is... because it is HUMAN. If the girl looks fine, then the fineness has to be checked out.Think of it this way... Its not because you're on a diet that you can't look at the menu ;)

  • Yeah just cause your better at disguising it out of courtesy does not make you a saint either. Think about MySpace for example, ever added a guy because he was hot? Same damn thing, get over it, if he loves you he will be there and won't cheat, if you make him feel guilty for just looking you are making him into a cheater, or there is something you are either doing or not doing. Think on it.

  • thats funny because when I hang out with my gf's friends they always talk about celebrities and how hot they are. like those guys from twilight. think about that next time before you complain about us guys looking at girls.

    • Motherf***er THIS. Best answer ever!

    • haha, I agree with this

  • we will allways check other women out.. it is our nature to domanate, when we are with a girl and we get caught of course we will lie about it if your our girlfriends we don't want the is she prettier then me question or get in a fight over it. Best thing I can say Who did he sleep with last night. Who is he with right now. That's who he wants to be with. I am saying YOU is who he wants to be with he is with you right. It is just natural for a guy to check out a girl we can't help it really we can't even when we try not to look it makes us want to look more. Yes, get over it every guy your with will check out another women but it is if he goes for the other women you should worry about. That will only happen when things are bad in the realationship.

    • Ok, agreed mostly.What about if you've been nice to your boyfriend, have given him his space and time and took care of yourself, but he went and cheated on you? What should you think? What should you DO? =/

  • honestly when I'm checking out a girl, she's degraded in my mind, there is no love when I'm thinking sexual. I can not combine love and f***ing. when I love a girl I admire her. when I want to f*** her I look down on her. I can love and want to f*** the same girl at different times though.you're going to feel jealousy towards your boyfriend at times, it's an important piece of a healthy relationship. there will be pain. accept it.

    • Yea man, I was thinking about how to answer this and then I saw your comment.. it just puts everything I had in my mind in words.Soph86, properplay said it all.

  • Guys are visual, we like to look. You look too if he was really into you he wouldn't look at other girls...

  • As long as he's just looking... and not sleeping with them... I don't see the problem. Guys happen to be very visually-turned-on. I can't help looking at a nude woman/porn. But that doesn't mean I'd want to sleep with them!

  • All guys look at other girls. It's just a curious look is all. Don't let it get to you. He probably knows it bothers you but honestly he can't help it.

  • maybe its because you "havent been giving him enough" now I know most girls are ganna start attacking me for this but that might be it try giving him a B.J

    • Wat is that suppose to mean? she said that they been together for years, which mean she had to be doing anything by all means. such as sex, foreplay, cooking and clean, back rubs, questions about his day,spending time AND MAYBE EXTRA TIME WITH HIM, "how was work?", "is there anything I can do for you baby?" what more could he have wanted?... so all of a sudden us girl/women aren't doing a good jod now at being a girl friend?really?

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    • Thats not a g f youve got its a contraption.

    • That's ... shallow.

  • So just because he is with you he can't look at other girls and you can't look at other guys? You don't seem very confident in yourself and your couple and you seem to be a very jealous girl.You probably find other guys hot or attractive, does that mean you don't like your boyfriend anymore?This is beyond ridiculous!

  • Yes, it's a natural thing. You'd do the same thing if you saw a hot guy! But realistically, do lovers really care that much about these physical things? Jealousy is a natural bi-product of relationships. It's unwanted--by you, and him. He is, however, pretty stupid to be doing that while you're around. I do wonder whether he values the relationship or not. He does deny that he was looking at her, so maybe that's a sign of him still wanting to keep the relationship. Don't be too worked up over it.

What Girls Said 38

  • He's not dead. Are you telling me when you see a hot guy walking down the street you don't check him out and have an ow ow thought in your head. I bet you do. Guys are just horrible at being discrete about it. Just remember there is nothing wrong with looking. It doesn't mean he wants them more than you or at all it just means he's still notices people. We all do. And of course he won't admit it. Girls get all stupid and freak out at them for that sh*t

  • Maybe there is something lacking in the relationship. Like, he is not as sweet as he used to be, or he doesn`t give you the attention he used to, and so him looking at other girls is making you feel really insecure, when deep down you know it means nothing. Don`t you notice attractive men? When you do do you think about leaving your boyfriend for him? Anyways, I think what you should do is start taking care of yourself, to make yourself feel pretty. Find something that will help boost your confidence. Maybe work out, or eat healthy, or buy new make up, or get a make over, a new hair style, buy new clothes - clothes that make you feel sexy... Just do something that will make you feel like a different person, a person you could look at in the mirror and say, damn she`s hot. If it`s not looks, then set a goal and accomplish it. (For me, accomplishing something boosts my self esteem. Because I do get insecure too. WHen it`s really bad, I usually change my hair style, or do my nails, or buy new clothes. It usually helps) When you start focusing on yourself more, you won`t feel too insecure and it won`t bother you so much when he looks at other girls. Also, remind yourself that he is with you, and he is just looking. I notice attractive men, and women too. It really annoys my friends, and boyfriend (or ex, whatever) because I get distracted a lot. But it doesn't mean I want to date any of them. I just admire their beauty. I used to get really jealous when my exex would look at other girls, so I talked to him about it, hoping it would fix it. But it didn`t. It just made it worse. I just started feeling insanely insecure, and knowing that he knew made it harder for me. So try focusing on your body, and flaunt your assets. Because when YOU feel sexy, people around you will see it. And another thing that helps insecurity is when people start checking you out. I know its lame, but it really helps.

  • I wouldn't worry about it. He was looking not touching. Its normal as human beings to stare. My boyfriend does it and I'm not gonna lie, I do it to. As long as he treats you like a queen and loves you more and more everyday you have not thing to worry about. I wouldn't be jealous of something dressing like a whore, that's for damn sure. It would make me kinda happy actually that I don't need to dress like that to get a man. I would actually feel kinda bad for her.

    • I appreciate this comment. Kinda how I tried to look at it :)

    • No problem. Let me know if you need anything else. =]

  • This is what my best friend always says:"Just because I ordered, doesn't mean I can't look at the menu."It's natural for anyone to look at someone of the opposite sex... I mean hell if I'm with my boyfriend and I see a good looking guy I can't help but check HIM out, but I'll do it secretly so that my boyfriend doesn't get the wrong idea.And even though I do look at other guys- guess what. I love my boyfriend and definitely would never leave him for another guy, no matter how good looking.But the mistake is accusing him as strongly as you are... Because he's not going to just not look at people.. you know? :(

  • maybe he misses a spark?i think it's good that he denies it, better than claiming that there's nothing wrong with looking at another girlif it doesn't happen all the time I would just let it pass for once

  • I understand where your coming from. Guys are sh*tty sometimes! Don't let it hurt your feelings, and make you feel bad about yourself though. Looking at your picture, I think your a very beautiful girl. Hopefully, he realizes how much it upset you and he learns to control his wondering eyes.

  • you don't get over it that is so disrespectful bring it to his attection that he is doing that and how that makes you feel or you can just get dirty and give him a tast of his own medicine.

  • Ok, get some self-confidence right away, he looks at other women, you look at other men, and if you don't then you should take your blinders off. Admiring other people than the one you are with is just a human charectoristic. Don't worry about it, he's in the car with you right? You're going out with him right? Then don't worry. Women who constantly worry about their man cheating or being promiscuous, can worry whether it happens or not, it's just going to ruin your day. You have to just stop worrying about it, and see how much better that's going to make you feel! It is a very hard lesson, but a good one for that matter.

  • Guys will always look. It's unrealistic to think otherwise. The problem really isn't his looking, but his lack of honesty. I mean, cmon, I was with a man I loved for years, but that didn't mean I didn't appreciate a good butt or two on other guys! My guy didn't really have one. BUT I would NEVER want to go home with anyone but my then boyfriend. So rest assured, it doesn't mean he necessarily wants to leave you and go after another girl. And looking is normal. Now the lying. How did you confront him? Did you just call him out. "OMG why where you looking at her!" or "I saw you looking." Or did you float into it? "OK, OK, so do I need to buy a shirt like that, now?" The latter would have shown you are OK with it. That you trust him and understand. And it brings YOU into the fantasy. Beacuse now he's picturing YOU in the outfit. But jumping on his case means he's in trouble, and he's a guy and he's gonna lie to get out of it. Sit him down. Tell him it's not so much the looking as the being sketchy about it. If he trusts that you aren't going to go nuts because he's having a normal, innocent look, he may be more honest about it, and may even include you. I guess the advice is try the other way. Next time you catch him looking say something funny, like, pick out a piece of her outfit that would look good on you and put yourself in it out loud. "Am I gonna have to buy those jeans?" and wink at him. And smile, genuinely. If he goes along with it, awesome, and then maybe you can point out how it's not hte looking but the lying that bothers you. If he flat out lies again? Call him out. Tell him it's the lying.

    • Well written giggity and it does and will get a better response from your man. It gets your point across and opens up some conversation.

  • Men and women are just different. Men are more visual and I think that many times they don't even think about what they are doing at the time - its really not conscious. Yes it can be very irritating but if he is good to you in other ways and doesn't physically cheat or flirt with other women then it is something you might have to let slide. After many years of this happening I'm more likely to just tease them and laugh when they do it. Usually they will snap too and realize they just dazed out and feel silly for doing it in front of you. A man looking at another women in my opinion doesn't really have anything to do with me - he's just looking.

  • maybe I see things way differently than others but this is my take...If there's a woman dressed like trash, I stare too. I'm amazed at what some folks will wear...and then I feel sorry for them too. They can't respect themselves much...but I digress. After you both have had a good look. Say what's on your mind. Wow...she likes to show off her boobs doesn't she. (or whatever) When you get dialog started you can find out what's on his mind. If he says he likes it when girls dress that way ask what he'd think if you did. Most guys are smart enough not to want men oogling their girl so he'll likely say no. Don't make too much out of this, especially when you just have this one thing to go on. It's much better to see what he sees and talk about it!

  • Things are getting boring! Time to spice up your style, remind him why he had the hotts for you. Don't allow the solid part of the relationship make things routine, ritualistic, or too comfy. Things are fun when you're on your toes.

  • You and every other women with a guy under 40. I deal with this too. Normally he argues that , I'm just jealous or a glance isn't "checking out". Scantly dressed females are hard to ignore for a hot blooded young man. Do not back down! Lots of older women say ,Oh he can't help it, yeah right! Understand it is hard and it is something he needs to work on if he cares about you! Address it calmly,let him know how it makes you feel. Explain to him that all he did was give the girl a big head and knock you down. No way to get action in the sac. Don't feel bad about yourself, it's like instinct for them and takes time to fully let their small man brain know they no longer need to look...probably couldn't have it anyway, especially if youre' already with someone. Forgive him, but don't accept this behavior..just expect it and call him out when he does it. Also pay attention to the clothing the female is wearing and get yoursef something similar. It helps.

  • You can be the HOTTEST girl and no matter what, men will always, ALWAYS, FOR THE REST OF THEIR LIFE, look at other girls.He's pretty stupid to be doing that in front of you (no offense) most smart men will do it with their buddies.It's human nature, us girls check out other girls and guys, men are going to do the same thing.It doesn't mean he loves you any less or less interested in you, it's just looking, it's what men do.

    • QuestionRiddles and original poster, do you want it to be sugar coated or do you want the truth? This isn't a f***in Disney movie

  • All guys are going to stare at a girl dressed provocatively. Maybe he's ashamed and that's why he won't admit it. I know I've checked out a guy or two while I've been in a relationship. And I think other guys besides my boyfriend are cute. However, that's not something I would openly admit to my boyfriend. Just remember that this girl only got 20 seconds of his time - barely. You've gotten years. He obviously cares about you. Get over it.

  • The best thing you can do is pretend like you don't care. Sometimes guys do this just to see how you will react and to get reassurance that you still care. Guys usually look no matter what. If I see a hot guy I usually check them out too but not for twenty seconds straight. Read the book "why men love bitches" its great!

  • He was just checking her out that is totally normal. Like you don't check out guys too. It is very harmless. Next time it happens and you notice, if you think she is kinda good looking comment on it. Everyone looks at the oppist sex, it is only natural.

  • Well sense you can't officially tell w/o reasonable doubt I'd let it go, but if this becomes a constant thing then I'd tell him my feelings. Also, don't feel bad about yourself, she was dressed provocatively so anyone would have looked at her not for her beauty but for her skankiness. lol

  • Yeah I feel that same way. And my boyfriend says the same thing. I disagree with that being a guy thing because not all guys are into trash. And I never dressed provocatively and I've had a couple guys compliment me just on my jeans or shirt. I think most guys are pigs and were never taught how to respect women, for who they are, not for what they are.I believe there are guys out there that can control themselves, and eventually not care about how provocative women may be. If he has to lie about it, and do it behind your back, obviously it's not working. And I say that because him doing this behind your back means he can easily do other things behind your back as well. And if he knows he can get away with one thing, ... things can easily escalate from there. Guys are stupid, and they will take their chances with things like this even though they know the outcome could be for worse.

  • Men are visual and they can't help it if they see something they like, it doesn't have anything to do with you.

  • you don't get over it. He should be loving you! you need to confront him and take a video of him doing that and show him.

  • I don't think you have anything to worry about, all guys look at other woman.

  • I am constantly checking out other guys with my boyfriend because I think I am subliminally on the prowl and know that its over between us.

  • I don't think there is any reason to be upset really. He lays down with you every night and is by your side. My rules are look but don't touch. Maybe its just me but I think you have to pick your battles. Somethings just aren't worth the fight. He's a man, he's gonna look at other women no matter what you do or say.

  • 2mo

    my bf does this to me all the time...
    Today was the first time i have said anything about it...
    You wanna know what he did lol?
    Ill tell yall...
    He freaked out on me like i was the one who did something wrong
    tried to make me feel even worse for his wandering eyes...
    Great guy huh

  • well you should spice it up a bit, make him look at you and make him have no reason 2 look at anyone else cause he has a hottie of his to look at :)

  • Your crazy!... Get over yourself before your over bearing ways drive him away.

  • Guys will Always check out women you just won't always see it. Don't fee like you're not good enough that's a turn off to any man. Just let him know you noticed him checking her out and that it hurt your feelings but don't make a big deal out of it. Do you check out men? Of course you do but do you let him see?

  • Guys are visual. Don't take it personally; my boyfriend of 3 years still does this sometimes. It's not a reflection of how much he loves you. It's more like how if there's a car crash that happens on the street next to us, we're all going to wheel around and gawk for as long as we can. It's just like that for boys. He's just staring because it's something new happening in front of him, and if her boobs are falling out of her shirt than that's especially not fair for him, he has no choice but to look in case they do fall out lol. Boys like looking at girls, don't hold it against him.I'm not going to give useless advice like try to get over it, because that's not really helpful. However, try to think of it as an instinct guys have. Plus you have the opportunity to be an awesome girlfriend and just make fun of him for it but still allow him to do it. Don't let him feel he has to disguise his glances; if he becomes trained to be secretive at this, what else could he learn to hide from you, you know? Also, telling him that if he's allowed to look at provocatively dressed women, then you should be allowed to look at sexy men walking down the street too. Couldn't hurt if he gets a taste of his own medicine :P.Good luck!

  • I would tell him how that makes you feel. If he really loves you, he will feel badly about it and change his behaviour. If he laughs at you or acts like you are overreacting, he isn't able to empathize with you enough, and he probably isn't your ideal mate. Men may have high sex drives, but they are perfectly capable of controlling themselves in public, and besides, he has you you stare at. The biggest mistake women make is over-compromising and letting men get away with stupid things. Don't do it!

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