"how can I not be weird?"
Assuming your boyfriend is genuine and not just paying lips-service, then there is indeed cause for concern. If he is NOT sincere, and it is your gut feel that tells you there is something wrong with this guy, then your fear is telling you to run. Gut feelings -- "I just know" type. Other fear --- burnt once, afraid of fire even when none is around type. In the latter case, you can do help yourself by doing the following exercises, until you get over it >>>
Keep finding good things/points about yourself.
Cut off that self-destructive voice inside you that keeps criticizing you day & night with "here you are wrong, there you are inferior, ..."
Say to yourself, "I deserved to be loved. First of all, by myself. Then, by others".
To be blunt; it sounds like a self esteem problem to me. If you don't believe that you are all the things your boyfriend says that you are, naturally you have a subconscious negative response when he spills all the "gooey" details of how awesome you are.
This seems to be a common problem in many relationships. I think the goal here is to work on loving yourself. You may think "wait, I could never love myself as much as he loves me", but it IS possible. You have to believe that you are lovable and that you deserve compliments before they stop affecting you this way.
I am the same way, over time though I could tell he really meant everything he said and I realized I felt the same, it doesn't bother me so much now. You're not weird.
Maybe just tell him how you feel and that you want to slow things down a bit and if he really cares about you he will understand and just be with you. :)
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