Would you be offended if your boyfriend always says how hot or beautiful girls are on TV?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend always has to comment on girls he thinks are hot or pretty on TV. We went to the movies and in a movie we were watching a girl was taking off her shirt and he loudly has to say, "ewww sweet...damnnnn." I mean come on you can think that but why say that in front of your girl?I know it is just girls on TV but if I said that about hot guys he would feel uncomfortable also.We have been together for a year and I know he respects me but seriously why does he say these things out loud. I want the guy's perspective on this.

[Anonymous]

yeah he could keep that to himself. I think its disrespectful to say in front of your girlfriend, especially if he doesn't say those things about you. tell him how you feel and if he doesn't stop it then you know how much respect he has for you. he's taking you for granted. No one is saying that he has to go blind to other women once he is in a relationship but it's called basic consideration and respect.

My parents are married and as much as my dad likes Angela Bassett, he sure doesn't say sh*t like that around my mom. And my mom doesn't make comments about Denzel Washington when he's around either lol sorry to use my parents as an example that's a little lame but I'm just saying there are guys out there who can be respectful and not say stuff like that if its obvious it makes you feel bad

[selfishstars]

Honestly, I don't care if my partner comments on someone else's appearance. Your ability to appreciate someone else's beauty or.. other assets doesn't turn off the moment you get a boyfriend or girlfriend. And what does it matter, anyhow? I know my partner thinks I'm attractive and wants to be with me.

The thing that I do see as an issue though, is the fact that you told your boyfriend that it bothers you and he hasn't respected that. I wouldn't expect him to change overnight, sometimes making comments like that sort of slip out out of habit. But if he refuses to even try to respect your feelings... not cool.

[peace-love-couture]

No,I would not be bothered or offended.

I mean,it's natural to notice attractive people.

Comment on how hot a guy is outloud

[JohnGPL]

He's either inconsiderate of how it makes you feel, or he's totally oblivious to the fact that it bothers you. Either tell him flat out that you wish he wouldn't do it, or start commenting out loud on all the hot guys on TV until he gets the hint.

Personally if my girl were constantly making comments about hot guys on TV, I would start doing the same with the hot women, but I would take it to a ridiculous level in order to blatantly mock her. Like, leap up from the couch and start making out with the TV or something. The roles are reversed for you, but that's my approach. I'm a little weird though ;).

[Asker]

Haha that's awesome not weird. k next time I'm so going to play his game

[JohnGPL]

Oh, I'm also a little awesome. Did I not mention that? ;)

[mynameisearl]

It sounds like to me he takes you for granted. He probably feels extremely comfortable around you and thinks he can behave the way he'd behave around his guy friends. The only thing is...you're not one of his guy friends.

[foolycooly1001]

I hate people who talk during movies. But anyway, have you asked him to stop? Personally, I don't think it's acceptable behavior

[Asker]

I have told him that it makes me feel uncomfortable and for him to keep things to himself. He got mad and said that is how he is.

[foolycooly1001]

I doubt he has zero impulse control. I don't really see why he would get mad. For me, this would be a problem.

[cyrus7]

well if he says it, you can say it...

and if he tells you to stop, you tell HIM to stop

tell him it bothers you and if he doesn't understand, he's not worth your time

[Anonymous]

Not at all.

Men are visual. And I find girls beautiful and hot, it doesn't make me a lesbian. They're just aesthetically pleasing and happen to be women.

Good luck.

[sufi633]

I can look at a girl and think she's pretty or hot or whatever... but I don't going around saying it. there is absolutely no need for him to voice his opinion on every hot girl he sees on tv. the sheer repetition would be obnoxious.

[Desires]

Wow what a d***.

anyway, you can do it as well.

Protip: make it wayy over the top, if you need to.

[Anonymous]

He takes you for granted, doesn't care about your feelings or he is dropping hints maybe if you have gained weight.