'actions' in your case refers to body language. the next time you two meet in person, study his body language as you ask him if he loves you. there are non-verbal cues to see if he is lying or is unsure of what he is saying. if you ask him if he loves you and he rubs his nose, puts his hands to his mouth or chin, or touches his ear, it is a cue that something is wrong and he doesn't feel sure of what he is saying (and he may be lying outright). If he doesn't do any of those and he asks you if you love him, watch his reaction. if he puts a finger or hand to his eye, puts his hand or finger to his ear, or covers his face in any way, it is a sign that he either doesn't believe what you are saying or doesn't want to hear it. If he doesn't do any of the above and looks from one of your eyes to the other, then down to your neck; or if he touches his collar, pulls his shirt down, runs his hand through his hair, or shows his thumbs in any way, it means he is interested in you intimately and hopes that you will show him a similar non-verbal cue (like touching your hair in any way, or touching your hand to your chest or neck).
LDRs are incredibly difficult. However, I have a friend who was patient with her LD boyfriend and they fell in love. He converted to mormonism for her, moved from Texas to California, and now they ahve 2 kids and couldn't be happier. They can work, but there has to be a lot of trust and communication. Enough money to travel back and forth doesn't hurt, either.
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alright, where is he from? how long have you been talkign to him? how old is he? what's the nature of this relationship (mutual needs wise, i.e. what do you want him for)?
Well unfortunately there's no clear ways to tell someone's intentions in a long distant relationship. I would look at how much he communicates with you, does he go out of his way just to talk to you on a normal basis? Also does he make plans for you guys for the future to be together in a normal relationship? If he doesn't show any signs that he wants to meet you one day or signs that he wants to physically be with you (meaning being in the same room as you) then chances are he isn't as serious about the relationship as he makes himself seem to.
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