I'm currently a college freshman who recently finished a four year term in the military. This has left me in the interesting position of being the only 22 year old in classes full of 18 and 19
year olds. I'm 6'3, well-built (courtesy of the military), and have pretty masculine facial features (e.g. I don't have the more inviting feminine features many younger girls seem to prefer
in boys). After spending time in the military I speak and carry myself in a very confident manner and tend to maintain a more stoic demeanor. I dress a little differently from the younger
guys around me (i.e. nice shoes and jeans in place of sweats and sneakers) and, without sounding arrogant, dress well.
Since going to college I've found that many of the younger girls seem hesitant around me. They will chat freely with other guys and initiate conversation, but seem less comfortable doing so with me. This isn't to say they ignore me, as I often catch girls checking me out, they just seem less comfortable with me than other guys. I don't experience this with older girls/women I meet at bars/parties who seem comfortable around me, so I don't think its that I come off as physically threatening or unsafe. The few younger girls I've gotten to know better through group work/at parties do seem more open, but they're still a little hesitant. Am I intimidating to these younger girls? I'll be in college for the next four years with most of these girls so I definitely don't want to be intimidating to them. How can I fix it?
year olds. I'm 6'3, well-built (courtesy of the military), and have pretty masculine facial features (e.g. I don't have the more inviting feminine features many younger girls seem to prefer
in boys). After spending time in the military I speak and carry myself in a very confident manner and tend to maintain a more stoic demeanor. I dress a little differently from the younger
guys around me (i.e. nice shoes and jeans in place of sweats and sneakers) and, without sounding arrogant, dress well.
Since going to college I've found that many of the younger girls seem hesitant around me. They will chat freely with other guys and initiate conversation, but seem less comfortable doing so with me. This isn't to say they ignore me, as I often catch girls checking me out, they just seem less comfortable with me than other guys. I don't experience this with older girls/women I meet at bars/parties who seem comfortable around me, so I don't think its that I come off as physically threatening or unsafe. The few younger girls I've gotten to know better through group work/at parties do seem more open, but they're still a little hesitant. Am I intimidating to these younger girls? I'll be in college for the next four years with most of these girls so I definitely don't want to be intimidating to them. How can I fix it?
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