Why do women move on so quickly?

Question

Who do some women move on so quickly and have another boyfriend in less than a weeks time?

Standingpretty · Accepted Answer

Ok, it all depends on how she felt about you in the first place. A girl who had true feelings for you would not get over you in weeks. If she truly cared for you, it would take months, and probably years to get over someone you truly had feelings for. When my fist boyfriend broke up with me, I cried everyday for 7 months in a row, lost over 30 pounds, and was tempted to beg for him back. I did many things I was not proud of (e.g. crying in public, trying to talk to him and ending up hurt). I was in very painful physical pain and eventually it eased up after 7 months a bit and gradually got better and better. After a year, I still had feelings, still wanted to talk to him, still wanted him back only if it was friendship wise, I still had hope even though I was sure nothing would happen, and despite the fact that he was dating another girl this whole time. I watched him do things for her that he never did for me, it felt even worse, I was starting to bug my friends by dwelling on it so much. this was within the second year. By the end of the second year, I decided I didn't care, and I finally  could feel it too. I don't care and I have no feelings for this boy anymore even though I think about him time to time. I successly healed and became someone who could emotionally survive on my own while he jumped from girlfriend to girlfriend and still does today. He can't be alone. It's not about revenge it's about healing. I became a stronger person by facing the pain and today I am engaged to the greatest guy in the world and couldn't be happier.  I don't know if I can say the same for him, but that is what moving on is like for someone who cares.

sarahd · Accepted Answer

I think girls AND guys are guilty of this. It could be a few different things. Maybe they are on the rebound because they're super insecure and can't handle being single. Or maybe their feelings for you didn't go deep, even though they SAID they did. It will be the most difficult thing to overcome, but try to stay out of their head. You are never going to know why they did/continue to do the stuff they do, and even if they tell you from their own mouth, how could you trust someone who you already know is so fickle? If they are truly happy in their new relationship that they built on the ashes of what they had with you, then they don't have a lot of depth emotionally. And you know what, that doesn't make them a monster or anything, it just makes them a shallow partner. So let them go find another shallow person out there while YOU find someone who goes deeper than that. My ex of 10 months dumped me to flirt with this other girl, and then decided to start dating a different girl after her 2 months after our supposedly great relationship ended. A few months after he asked her to live with him. That really sucked, but I know I dodged a bullet. I could still be with him if things were different and I would STILL believe I was "special" even though now I know regardless of how happy he might say he is, his latest girlfriend has a long way to fall if he changes his mind. I know exactly what I'm missing by not being with him, and I care about him still, but I'm thankful I can find someone who I will ACTUALLY matter to!

Sorry this is long, but I hope it helps.

plzdontbreakmyheart · Accepted Answer

Ok, I found myself in the situation of moving on straight away because my previous boyfriend never showed any interest in me and when I'd raise the issue with him he'd just say yeah and nothing happened. So when my current boyfriend came along (and I was still with my ex) he showed me more interest then my ex ever did. That's when I realized that my ex really didn't care about me so I dumped him and left behind a relationship of depression and have moved into a loving relationship where I'm really happy.

Do you ever think that you maybe didn't try hard enough? When you were still together did she ever talk to you about problems with the relationship? and if she did did you respond? If you didn't that's probably why she got over you so fast. Guys break hearts without even realizing it, maybe you did the same and she found someone who makes her feel good.

But that doesn't give her the excuse to ignore you. I suggest you move on too. But if you get a new girlfriend make sure you make her feel special :)

Robertinho · Accepted Answer

In life people learn and people learn the hard way. If she took you for granted and in the end threw you out or another cool guy...then the guilt lies in her. Others might replace you for another guy or guys, but no one will ever replace you for the way you treated her. But if she really wants to learn the hard way then so be it...let time teach her a lesson. Time will mature her and let her realize that your were all that you said you were, yet she threw you away for another one. That's when what goes around comes around will take its place, but you would have grown stronger and better man. Its not up to you no more, its up to the man upstairs...who knows maybe oneday you might reunite, this thing called life its pretty weird. Nevertheless, remember, some people learn...and others learn the hard way, good luck man, take care.

islands7 · Accepted Answer

Most girls I've known find the other guy while dating/married to you. Once they grow a soft comfortable nest with other guy, they can step from one nest to the other without getting mud on their feet nor any major emotional distresses ... leaving you shattered - who cares? Not her. She has built a case against you, brick by brick as an emotional wall between you two, as well as the fantasies that make her queen of this being right and you the muddy dog full of sin.

You are now free to resume your pursuit of happiness and should be wiser and free of such rare witches as she was.

dwright1022 · Answer

This is a tough question. I am in fact going through a similar situation to this. My boyfriend broke up with me about 3 weeks ago and I was so hurt since we had been dating for over a year. I had originally had plans to go to New York for new years eve and visit friends from school and my parents had to drag me out of bed to get me there.

When I went out with friends the night before new years eve I was still really sad but got to see friends which helped and ended up meeting a guy through mutual friends. We spent new years eve together and I like him a lot but when I got home my ex who broke up with me went off about how he missed me and doesn't want me hooking up with other guys blah blah. But he broke up with me!

I ended up going on a date with the guy I met in New York and I do really like him a lot, I don't love him but it has only been 2 dates.

I guess I don't know how to feel because for some reason I feel bad that I found another guy so quick, but at the same time my ex broke up with me and I was the one who was really hurt so I have no idea what I am doing lol. I guess this didn't really help much but you need to get back out there! trust me it won't hurt.

latinhoney87 · Answer

well sometimes girls do things like..go out with other guys it doesn't necessarily mean she actually moved on..cus she might still have something for you and is in denial..and is trying to prove to herself she has with being with another guy

but sometimes what we don't realize is that in return we are only hurting ourselves..that is a lie that she has "fallen" in love ...cus if that is the case then she never really loved you!

only time will tell if she will regret it or not ..you need to move on...now I know its much easier said than done.. I know

Now don't do what she is doing...but try not to care give her a taste of her own medicine...it actually feels kinda good since it's like a" treat others the way you want to be treated" type of thing

don't waste your time on someone who isn't going to give yo what You want in return

1ST OFF- THINGS HAPPEN FOR A REASON (SHE ISN'T MEANT FOR U) BIGGER AND BETTER THINGS AWAIT

2ND- TAKE RESPONSIBILITY (WHAT DID You DO WRONG) AND LEARN FROM IT (MAYBE You WERE TOO NICE OR You LET HER TAKE ADVANTAGE, OR IT COULD HAVE BEEN YOUR COMMUNICATION SKILLS..W/E THE REASON/S)

3RD- ITS NOT ALL YOUR FAULT..BUT DON'T PLAY VICTIM --IT'S KIND OF LIKE THE SAYING "KILL PEOPLE WITH KINDNESS"

(LIKE WHEN SOMEONE IS MEAN You WANT TO DO THE SAME) WELL DO THE OPPOSITE

THE MORE CONFIDENT YOU ARE ABOUT YOURSELF.. THE MORE SHE'LL REALIZE THAT SHE ISN'T GETTING TO YOU..(U HAVE CONTROL NOT HER)

4TH-SO TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE ! AND MAKE GOALS FOR YOURSELF, HAVE FUN

MAKE NEW FRIENDS, GO OUT AND ENJOY LIFE!

YOU ONLY HAVE ONE LIFE TO LIVE ANYWAYS ...SO USE IT WISELY & REMEMBER..

***YOU'RE NOT GETTING ANY YOUNGER!***

Anonymous · Answer

It sound like to me in your personal situation she probably was planning on being with this other person ahead of time since they were friends, and she had no problem moving on. She sound like a bitch if she just left the relationship to be with someone else but I have known girls like that. I think the best thing you can do is move on as well, why waste your time with someone who doesn't care. I don't think she is really in love with this new guy only because love takes time as corny as that sounds it is true.

Supermanwearsmypjs · Answer

Mate I have been here before, here is what you have to do. And she sounds more of a bitch than a woman.

1. Accept that she is seeing someone new

2. You don't call, text or email her.

3.Take up a new hobby or sport and if the new guy is one of those "wtf? Seriously?" ugly/wussy/slimy guys get in the gym and get ripped.

4. Focus on meeting new people or doing things she never liked you doing.

5. Don't pass a potentially amazing girl just because you think the ex may want you back.

Bitches don't let go of the last guy until they get ahold of the next one, women on the other hand do not move on fast. So to be honest your better off without her. Who knows you will probably be seeing someone 10x hotter than her and look better than you ever have in 6months time and you will take one look at her and think... "Wow, What was I thinking?"

missymoo · Answer

Honestly, I thought it was the other way round. But the only reason I would move on quickly is:

1. If I was genuinelly over my ex, and really liked the new guy.

2. I want to make my ex jealous by having him see me with another guy.

3. I'm expecting my ex to move on soon so I find a new guy to take my mind off the thought that he's balls deep in another girl (sorry to put it so descriptive lol).

Personally it takes me a fair while to move on, the thought of being with someone straight after my ex is just to much. I need time to move on and readjust, because relationships really take it out of you, especially if they end with a lot of drama or fighting. I definitely wouldn't want to jump straight into something like that again like two seconds later.

plzdontbreakmyheart · Answer

omfg their ENGAGED?! dude, how long have they been together? this is just sh*t, from rebound guy to soon to be husband in a month?! forget her, she's obviously happy...(although I don't think the engagement will last long), so you should be too. you deserve someone to really appreciate you

All the best :)

precious144 · Answer

Just because she is with another guy it doesn't mean she has moved on. She wants you to THINK she has moved on, but she hasn't. Nobody can move on within a week, I don't care what anybody says.

Usually when guys/girls look like they have moved on quickly, they're just trying very hard to make people believe that. You can tell when people have genuinely moved on and rushing into another relationship may be one way of dealing with it, but you're still left with the hurt.

If you enter a relationship within a week of ending one, it's either a rebound OR they knew this person before and left their ex for them.

Sometimes people realize they have made a mistake, but don't count on that, I'm sure it's a smaller percent than the people that don't realise.

Katyperry · Answer

:Well it depends because sometimes girl move on so easily if they had bad memories to the previous one then if their present boyfriend make them happy,treat them well or treat them like their princess then its probably that she move on because she never felt that thing to her previous one.

Sometimes we say something,do some certain thing and make decision that we think we won't regret it when in fact after how many days it makes us realized what we have lost because we took it for granted. So Goodluck :)

kyliedanmarie · Answer

She's either a girl with no standards OR she's trying to make you jealous by showing off her new guy, putting on a show like she's happy when she's just trying to get you to realize what you lost.

Trust me, us girls do this allll the time. It's a silly common game!

YobootyStank · Answer

no?!

actually it's the other way around, guys move on way quicker then girls though. They do things such as sleep around with multiple women and get into another relationship fast because I heard/read that it helps them coupe with their pain when they break up, not that they don't care about the person they broke up with but finding or messing with someone else eases their mind off that specific person who they broke up with, same with women I'm sure its just the same.

TheGodEmperorLeto · Answer

Cause in truth they are heartless and don't bond or share themselves as much as we men share and bond with them. It's quite true, but they'll deny it. We give them our all, they give only a bit, so when the end happens (if it does) they aren't as effected (plus they know they can get guys). Clearly this is always the case!

Note: this isn't really always the case :|

Anonymous · Answer

1) rebound 2) she's just that lonely or desperate that she'll take any guy who gives her the time of day. If you aren't a picky girl, it is easy to find a guy who will fall for you, especially if you play your cards right. 3) she wants to make her ex jealous

Pawsgirl · Answer

Us girls, we always have to prove that we are better than you guys. We sometimes go over the edge though when it comes to this kind of cenereo. We have to prove that we are strong and don't give a crap that our ex is watching us. Sometimes, a girl will date other dudes just to make their ex jealous. That is a fat load of s*** if you ask me, it's a stupid method. Just find someone else that you enjoy company from and be with her. Give your ex a message that you too have forgotten about the two of u.

Katyperry · Answer

:LOL revenge is not good :) but for sure the best revenge which is in a good way is always smile at her and stay happy or try to date someone etc  because sometimes it makes them think and at the same time it makes them irritate LOL I did that thing already so its effective even if she's numb she can feel it :P I hope this one help you lol :P Goodluck :)

Alexeiv · Answer

First off, it seems you're taking this really hard. You need to fill your head with other hobbies.

I get pegged that I move on quickly but what I do is just get into my hobbies, and often I might make a new female friend, which is key because talking to women is not the same as talking to a man.

But yeah, it's largely the rebound effect.

Though in your case it seems their friendship was sliding into romance before she officially broke up.

peace-love-couture · Answer

Guys move on quickly because "guys aren't emotional" (although I know y'all only pull that line when it suits y'all)

Anyways...I don't get all caught up in emotions,it's a waste of time yaddayadda,but perhaps he was already in the picture before y'all broke up?

toulouse · Answer

I don't really like to date but I let myself get involved once, with this one guy & when we were involved I broke up with him but I REALLY like him & he's the only person I like & I'm not using anyone else to cover it up,I think that's weak.  Anyways it better to know how you feel -even if it hurts - not mask it otherwise you'll wake up one day & be really upset about everything you've ignored,

rose21 · Answer

Thats a good question. I have no idea why some girls can get over it so fast except if they never really loved you. I had this happen to me once and the fact he had a new girl in one week hurt more then the break up it self. Girls do seem to do this more and I don't know why that is maybe its the whole we can't figure out what we want thing.

rhodedendron · Answer

Most women don't move on quickly. The ones who do either never really loved you, or fell out of love with you a while and then went into another relationship when you broke up. A lot of women also hate being alone and are on the rebound, again this never really works out and it will prob not last. There is good and bad women everywhere, just try and find the ones worth fighting for

latinhoney87 · Answer

Yup That's the first thing you did good ! YAY! you did it lol ..now things will seem a little clearer...the less things you have that remind you of her the better!  cus she is noo good!

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