Is my boyfriend controlling, or is it just me?

Anonymous
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a good 4 months. He is from Africa, and he is amazing. Whenever I am at his place, he always cooks. He makes sure I am settled and comfortable always. I help out whenever possible. I absolutely love him and he treats me so well I could marry him. He even takes my clothes to the dry cleaners and calls my grandmother on a regular basis! He is smart, intelligent. Problem is, he has controlling characteristics. I grew up with an independent mother and it is hard for me to hold my tongue when he says certain things. For instance, on my facebook for my profile picture he told me that I should delete all of my silly photos that do not look like me(making faces etc.). He said they don't look like me, but those are MY memories and they mean something to me. Even some of my best pictures he still wants me to delete them if my chest isn't covered (and I don't even have much cleavage showing when I dress).On top of that I gave him the password to my facebook (we are open with each other like that) and he deleted all of the messages he thought that I didn't want! My birthday messages and all! and when I was upset he said that it was an act of love and that he wouldn't go through my phone or my facebook anymore and that's not what I meant, he just should have asked me first!. Whenever we watch movies, it always has to be what he wants to watch. I always make sacrifices for him, but he will never do it for me. If I kid and try to change it, he will only change it back or will say that he is going to sleep because he doesn't want to watch the movie. But when I do that he calls me childish and tells me that it could ruin our relationship. If someone calls my phone, he always picks it up and looks at it...he says he will, but he never lets me look at his phone or his text messages. He always thinks I delete my inbox to hide things from him, when I have repeatedly told him I delete the messages because my inbox is filled with his text messages (I save them)and they cause me to run out of space quickly. So I do not have much room for anyone else's texts. and when I deleted all of his to prevent me from deleting too often he got upset.When I go to work he tells me not to get guys' phone numbers. He always thinks that I am cheating, but I am not an ugly girl and I can't help that guys try to pursue me every so often. He spends his money carelessly, even if it will leave him broke! So he will ask me for money and I end up broke as well! And most times he will make plans for my money without asking and will order out because he doesn't want to eat what is in the house! I am upset because I cannot save my money since we dated! In arguments he is always right and can't see from my point of view. I'm sure I do a lot of things that would be considered to be disrespectful in his culture, and he lets me, but aren't some things just common sense. It just seems when it comes to decisions only he will make them and not US.
Is my boyfriend controlling, or is it just me?
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