Not sure I really understand the problem here. I don't want to sound insensitive, but you start by saying how amazing he is and how you want marry him, and then begin a litany of things he does that annoy you. There isn't a flawless guy (or girl) on the planet, so all you really need to ask yourself is: are his annoying habits more important to you than loving him? If you don't want him going through your fb or phone, tell him so and don't let him have your password. As far as the phone, if you are accepting guys phone numbers, he has every right to be concerned (I know you can't stop guys from hitting on you, but it sounds like you politely accept their numbers. Even if you never call them, that sends a message to your boyfriend that you are keeping your options open in case he displeases you, and is one of the primary female techniques for controlling a boyfriend. If you have a boyfriend, don't accept other guys numbers, even "politely", because most guys think its very rude, both to your boyfriend, and the guy you have no intention of calling.) Understand that he annoys you, and accept that that's okay. You annoy him too, which is also okay. It doesn't sound like he's trying to control or change you, it sounds like you have some very common, and ultimately minor issues that you could benefit from talking about. Try explaining your TV problem. I think if you explain it just as you did above, that you just want equal consideration, not control of the remote, that he will see your point and agree to share. Most guys are savvy enough to understand that, if it isn't turned into a control battle, giving in to their girlfriend on a fair and well reasoned complaint usually pays bigger dividends than trying to retain control.
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I can't believe that you haven't broken up with him. Yes, he is very controlling and obviously insecure. Although I can't imagine why that you would give him your facebook password, I cannot imagine any rationale male going into their girlfriend's facebook and deleting anything. I'm warning you that, if you ever move in with him or take this any further, he has woman abuser written all over him. There are so many red flags that I could write on for hours. I recommend that you get away from him as fast as possible and never look back.
First and foremost, I want to tell you that I strongly believe in being open with people, especially those you date. So I think it's great that you guys are open with each other, however, I still think you have a certain right to privacy. I don't think that he should have the password to any of your personal accounts, including your facebook. He should be able to trust you.
In terms of your pictures, I completely agree and understand. A lot of pictures are like memories, silly or not. He should respect that, and maybe it is hard for him to understand because he comes from a different cultural background than you.
Neither of you should be going through each others' phones. It sounds like he definitely has both trust and control issues. This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship at all.
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