An old flame, old feelings resurfacing. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

I split up with my ex almost 9 months ago. It took a lot of heartache and pain to move on but I did my time (NC etc) and thought I had gotten over her!

We basically started hanging out again around 2 months ago and became friends. She has a boyfriend and I felt at ease with everything and was fine with being friends. Now though after months of spending time together I feel my feelings are resurfacing all over again. It's messing with my head as I thought I had moved on but now I feel I'm falling for her all over. Should I tell her? Or just stop hanging out? I think she is feeling something too as she is starting to act a little nervous around me (the same way she did before we started dating the first time) but obviously she has her boyfriend to consider?

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BTW our break up was mutual. It wasn't the right time and we ended on good terms but both went NC (I guess to get over each other).

[RealDeal]

Does her boyfriend know that you two hangout? If not, you don't wanna be that guy. Treat her the same way you would want to be treated. This boyfriend might be a rebound she is using to try and get her mind off of you. The way I see it, you wouldn't appreciate it if you were seeing someone and she was still hanging out with her ex would you? If she told her boyfriend that you two hangout then she is being honest with everyone but maybe not herself. It's really hard to be friends with an ex when one or both are still emotionally attached to the other. For what ever reason you two broke up, do you think it is really over, or a matter of bad timing?

[MsGalore25]

I'm glad you guys remained friends , but realistically speaking and from my own experience you could never be "just friends" with your ex period...Feelings always resurface and then what? Well as for your situation it depends on if you want her back or not, I understand that she has a boyfriend, but trust me if its meant to be it will be regardless of who , what and where...Good luck

[Anonymous]

for me if there was a lot of feelings developed, I would cut all ties forever because those feelings will always come back. that person will some how remind you of all the good times you use to have, that's why the feelings come back.

well good luck, I've heard some people making friends with their exes but it isn't possible for me.

[Asker]

well we're already friends but I feel like it's becoming blurred! So you think I should cut ties. I guess I'll have to tell her why either way if that happens