How much do girls want to see their boyfriend?

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How much physical contact do you girls need? my girlfriend is always complaining about seeing me and its like wtf? I need my space too, I don't wana see you everyday all day. I love my girlfriend but I have grown out of the little boy phase where I need to be attached to her hip to feel important. why do girls get so clingy? I love her and all but its like her existence is fueled by seeing me.

how much do girls need to see their boyfriends and be with them?

999freakshow · Accepted Answer

Well maybe you've grown out of that phase but she hasn't. When in love with someone some girls can get really obssesed with their boyfriends. When she stops wanting to see you so much it means the psark is gone and she's not that interested in you anymore and trust me that's a bad thing.

Personally, when I first got with my current boyfriend (we've been together a year and a month today) I wanted to spend more than every second with him. Whenever he was not with me I missed him so much. He's a bit of an ass and outsider so he started hating that in time. Although at first he was just as bad as me XD So he started neglecting me. I had no idea what's going on and why he was doing that so I was really hurt. I mean it, I was HURT! I couldn't figure out he didn't want to see me that much anymore, it never even crossed my mind. Even if I figured it out it would be evn worse, usually for a girl if a the guy doesn't want to see her it means he doesn't like her anymore and is gently trying to get away.

One day I brought up the topic and we had a long, unpleasant talk about our relationship. (I don't usually like to talk about relationships, cause those talks never go right, they always fail) He explained it to me trying to be as gentle as possible, But like I said earlier he's a bit of an ass so he couldn't really explain it in a non-hurtful way. At first I felt horrible, but then I saw that he really does love me and care for me, but he needs a lot of space for himself, otherwise he get's bitchy and hurts me, which ends with me being very pissed off.

Call me stupid, but back then I had absolutely no idea he wanted his space. If hadn't told me I would have continued to think all kinds of other (worse) crap about the whole neglecting me situation. So the point of this long and by this point probably boring answer XD is that you could talk to her about it, be nice and if she doesn't believe it at first be sure to show her you still care for her and the spark is on but you need your space. Hope this helps!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You do not say how often you want to see her or how excited you are when you do see her. You also don't say what you want to do instead of seeing her.

I agree that spending all your free time with your partner is stifling and boring, but usually that is not what your partner is missing anyways. If you prefer to spend long periods of time on the computer or weekends hanging out with your single friends at bars or in other places where guys are going to be meeting girls, all of that would say you just are not that thrilled with spending time with her and that will get a girl to go crazy in trying to spend time with you.

I am a very independent woman who wants time to pursue hobbies and just take it easy, but I had a boyfriend that slowly started spending more time alone or traveling. I knew he was a loner when we met but for quite a while he preferred time with me. When he finally reverted back to his loner ways, I really started to resent all the things that took him away from me.

My fiance works long hours so the time we spend together is precious, but I don't freak out or feel any resentment because he prefers to spend time with me when he can and he isn't using his rare free time to drink with buddies or watch TV or play video games.

Sounds like you two are not a good match, not when you are referring to your love as "clingy" instead of considering her affectionate and appreciating how much she enjoys your company.

britts_420 · Accepted Answer

My boyfriend and I see each other almost everyday and its weird if we miss a day. I also think if we don't he tends to mind more than I do. There are certain times where I feel as though we have our dumb little arguments because we've done a overkill on spending time together.

We gradually worked up to this stage though. (We've been dating for almost 4 years now) At first it was once a week and so on. I think in long term relationships its good to know if you stand each other for long periods of time because dating in the end is about finding that someone you want to be together forever with.

I think the fact that me and my boyfriend do other things when we hang out helps a lot too. We'll chill with friends or play a game or go for walks. We always try to find other stuff to do rather than sit at home and have be just us all the flippen time. We probably have 2 days out of the week when its just us. I mean that doesn't stop us from having logs of sex though (: lol

communication is key in relationships. Tell her you wanna chill with guys, tell her you just wanna be alone. If you don't wanna tell her like that maybe suggest she does something with a group of friends. If you don't tell her your bothered by constantly being together she won't know and probably keep assuming you want to see her as much as she wants to see you.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Talk to her, but is she insecure? there may be more to this than meets the eye. no affence mate but we guys, are bad at taking the signs and analysing them. goodL;) whateva you do approach her with patience and understanding. yelling and bad moods will threaten the relationship...

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

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toulouse · Answer

@why do girls get so clingy?

do you have to generalize? this falls under the category of a solution in search of a problem.

for me personally on a month is fine.

No one is clingy. They are only with people who feel like they are being smothered. If you both liked each other being affectionate you would just be two affectionate people. because you do not want what she does, you say she is clingy, but it sounds like you used to feel differently.

dont sy you love her but she is clingy. calling someone clingy is very disrespectful and you do not insult people you love. you may want more space but you are blaming her for that. be an adult and say you would like more space. you do not have to report to insulting her to do that.

u are obviously not comfortable with how you feel or you would not be trying to degrade her.

there is something you are lying to your self about.

so id re evaluate what you want. only after you know what you want do you go talk to her about WHAT You WANT, not about what you think she is doing.

u say what you want, she says what she wants, and if you guys are too far apart in what you want & you can't find a way o comfortably compromise. break up. NOT BECAUSE SHES CINGY. because you guys want different things.

u tell her she is clingy then shell miss a guy who wants the same amount of contact as her. shell think she is flawed. so suck it up and be an adult. its the right thing to do. take responsability for what you need. & resect what she needs. do not set it up as a war. with a victor.

You should not expect to have the privledge of being with someone , complain she wants more than you & try to make her change. if you think she is wrong, than you are probably wrong for her & she is probably wrong for you.

how often would you like to see her?

tell her what you want.

ask her what she wants.

see what you guys can agree to comfortably.

if you can not be with he without feeling annoyed. BREAK UP.

Vaeth · Answer

I definately think it depends on how you 'connect' with them.

my ex (we broke up for a reason neither of us could help) would see each other almost every day, as my godfather was his actual father, so I practically lived with them.

We were best friends and lovers and I don't think I ever spent 'too much' time with him.

I would spend my time with my friends at uni, go clubbing or coffee with them, then come back and spend the night with him or we'd bum around and just talk for hours when he wasn't out with his mates or at football training.

However, with this new relationship, I'm naturally more laid back because he's more affectionate and constantly misses me. I can honestly say if I didn't hear from him in weeks I wouldn't be upset. Doesn't mean I don't care, just means I'm comfortable when he isn't around.

Regardless, I see him after school/work and sleep over maybe 2-3 times a week. He'd always miss me right after I leave. I don't miss him much, because afterward I feel I've 'met my quota' for seeing him haha

ElleB123 · Answer

I think some girls begin to feel like the guy is losing interest when they notice a sudden change in the dynamic of the relationship.  If you start the relationship off spending a lot of time together then it can seem like a huge deal and change in the relationship when time spent together becomes less and less.  Explain your feelings to her so that she can understand where you are coming from.  I think sometimes guys just start putting distance with out letting the girl know the reasoning and then the girls start freak!

Cream · Answer

Dude I am an attention whore when it comes to my boyfriend. lol I can't help myself. I know its wrong. Believe me I do. I mean I don't do it on purpose or anything. Its just I really like the guy and I want to spend time with him and I get jealous really easily so even when he talks to another girl I end up giving her a death glare and when he's done talking to her I end up telling her that that guy over there is mine and so is his well yeah and if she touches anything on him I will punch the lipstick off her face

buuuut anywho I can't help but be clingy

So enough with my rant umm have you tried telling her you need some space? or do the same thing back to her and maybe she'll back off but I'd say try the first idea.

ChelseaBSB · Answer

I totally understand! Some girls need more attention than others, however, they need to understand the fine line between loving and smothering lol. I'd talk to her about it and maybe set some boundaries for her. Tell her you love her just the same, but you need some time to yourself once in a while and space to breathe. Ask her to chill with her girlfriends once in a while while you go with your guys somewhere. Don't' give her the impression that you want a break though. Just say that you want to spend some time with your buddies since you haven't seen them in a while.

tellit2mestraight · Answer

It's not all girls who are clingy but I think I get your drift still. SOME girls have self-esteem issues and are afraid they aren't good enough for ANY boyfriend. That said, girls (I don't know about guys, because I'm not one) like to hear genuine love signals as they move into a phase of a relationship that is more mature and realistic (not joined at the hip!) If you care for this girl a great deal, it's okay to have a talk with her about how much you love her and that taking the relationship to the next level that is past the infatuation stage into a real love stage means trusting each other when you are apart. Tell her "I'm trustworthy" and talk about what things you each would like to accomplish over the week or next month, so you can both get some things done. Then you'll have all this stuff to talk about when you do get together. Awesome. :)

XxBabyDollxX · Answer

Let me start by saying you sound like a douche.

Girls love to see their boyfriends, if I could I would spend 7 days a week every week with him, and I've been with him for a few years, We're each others best friends and have a MATURE. He loves spending time with me without b*tch like a d*ck like your doing.

You two are clearly on two seperate levels and I would break off the relationship because it probably will not go anywhere, so spare her feelings before she gets hurt.

It sunds like you only want to see her when it's convienent to you. That's who she is and you're obviously a different typ of person.

Shawzie · Answer

I'd like to see my boyfriend everyday. It doesn't always happen though. He goes out of town to see friends or family for a couple days at a time and that's fine. Every third day or so I want a text but I try to be understanding and actually give him space. Or he has class till late and I was in class all day and I don't get to see him. Oh well his education should be a priority at this point. And going back to seeing him everyday. I don't feel like I need his attention the whole time. Often we have diner together then do our own things. For example we both have homework or he plays video games and I watch or read. Its more I want to be in close proximity to him all the time.

Anonymous · Answer

Girls are all like that! Get used to it

she loves you

if I wasn't into a my guy that much I try my best to avoid him!

lol

well here is what you could do:

- let her know how much you care about her

- tell her that you liked her cause she is independent and has her own thing to do.

- you are scared from the girl you like changing; so you want her to go back to normal!

- let her know that you know that this might hurt her feeling; and that is the last thing you want to happen

- you just wanted her to put her self in your shoes

and hug her to let her feel safe! =)

cutebubble · Answer

basically girls want everyday all the time, that's how they are built, if they love you or care about you. If they don't want to see you all the time they must not be in love with you. For guys its different, they are always talking about "space". Girls don't need space away from someone they love, they want and need space shared with someone they love. That's what's called closeness.

-StillWater- · Answer

I like to see my boyfriend 3 times a week... And I mean 3 separate days - for maybe 4-5 hours...

It doesn't mean that I wouldn't see him more or less, depending on the week and on the obligations we have to deal with at a certain period of time.

I like my space. I like to have ad least one whole day (a week) for myself to think...without any phone calls, any human contact other than absolutely necessary.

I don't think that's too much to ask.

girl_1992 · Answer

i find if you've only been going out a little while, she will want to spend every waking minute with you, but that should cool down after a few months.  Does she have any other friends? remind her that if you guys break up, who will she have then - remind her that you need to have your own lives too :)

cbirnell · Answer

I would prefer a few days out of every other week. I'm kinda on the opposite pole of this. My boyfriend is so attached to me when he sees me for a few days consecutively, then he can go weeks without any contact. Sometimes he'll drop a friendly 'I miss you' text or something of the sort. Though the space makes me nervous, I trust him completely to be honest with me. Does that sound more like what you would like? Or how you usually are with your girlfriends?

KalebaSW · Answer

In the beginnibn I wanna see him all the time because I'm in love... Sex is included in this by the way, I need to see him, have him ect.

Then when that phase goes off I'm more chilled... It's just so nice be cared about and having a boyfriend, enjoying one's bf...

But I would rather be told that I'm too much then letting it kill the relationship.

shelbylyn · Answer

me and my boyfriend have this issue, I want to see him 24/7 because I just love being around him but I know he has other stuff in his life so I just expect him to be honest and say when he doesn't want to see me. I wouldn't call myself clingy, I just love to be around him

Ginevra · Answer

Most girls just love the presence of their boyfriend, whether they are talking, having sex, or even just being in the same room. We forget that men often grow out of that phase once the relationship starts to evolve. She just loves you and wants to be with you. Imagine how you would feel if she just one day decided that she only wanted to see you once or twice a week! Yes, we can be way to clingy, but that's better than not caring at all.

ShootingStar5 · Answer

I usually see my boyfriend 3-4 times a week and I'm happy with that. We're both busy with work and school so we see each other for a few hours two nights a week usually and then we'll usually spend the day together Saturday and sometimes a little while on Sunday. I enjoy having my space too, I wouldn't want to see my boyfriend every day. I like to be able to relax at home by myself sometimes or spend time with my friends.

Anonymous · Answer

depends on age I think, personality and how much you love that person.  Honestly It sounds like she's way more into you than you are into her or perhaps  I do think if she's was more aloof that you'd be more interested, perhaps you enjoy the chase and she's too available to you?

Rita593 · Answer

At least once a week, that's the minimum, but not everyday, guys are not the only ones who need space! I will talk to him almost everyday though, but if something happens and for some reason we can't contact each other for a while it's not the end of the world..

Arwens-Fire · Answer

Sorry to say,but some women are really clingy and needy.ALL women are not like this. I've never understood needing to see or talk to a guy everyday ALL day. Women who have a life of there own,dont need to be clingy with anyone.

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