Yes, you can stop loving someone when you heal and new love comes into your life. There are some people who never get over their first loves but that's not everyone. I think about my ex sometimes and all the things he taught me about real love. I loved him more than anyone else in the world up until now. I remember when I couldn't recognize when his infatuation faded and when he left me, that's when I learned heart brake, and, eventually how to heal. There is no room left in my heart for old flames and people who didn't love me back, there is only room for the people who love me now, for example my fiancé :). I remember when the phrase "you never stop loving someone, you either still do or never did" came out back when I was in high school and I never really thought about it until now. It's really just a phrase used to make people who have lost a love feel better about it. It's not true all the time but I guess it's an OK phrase to keep circulating because it makes some people feel better I guess. Interesting concept to say the least.
It's changes in time and modern practice that has made relationships 'weaker'
50 years ago a relationships were seen as steps towards marriage and the people then had longer lasting ones and a fraction of the sexual partners modern people have. Relationships were treated a lot more seriously then with a lot fewer distractions.
How many reltionships are ended by cheating? Falling out of love because they've met someone else? Both could be caused by drunken nights out where you're surround by 100's of other young drunks wantin to enjoy themselves, these settings didn't exist 50 years ago! Also people are a lot more open about thier problems nowadays, asking the opinions of many people can influence your decision in whether your relationship will work!
The biggest reason is people are a lot more self-dependant and outgoing now. People feel they can look after themselves better now and are less needy!
What I have realized..is that every ex I have..I get over..and the next boyfriend is always way better than my last ones. I do not know why people throw away relationships..but, I do know that you get over them..eventually..and I actually ask myself "what was I thinking?!" :-)
Thankfully feelings for a person can 100% fade! I find that once I break up with somebody I know more about the things I want and don't want for the future. for example my first boyfriend, years ago was a bad relationship. we were only young so its not so bad but I was crazy about him! after 5 months I couldn't take it anymore because he got so jealous of every guy I saw or talked to. I could hardly hug my cousins! we broke up for a few reasons, this being the main one and since then I have never dated a jealous kind of guy. I still thought about him fr months and months after because he was my first and I thought he was great, but as you get older you realize that there's so much better. x
no. you can really get over someone. There was this guy I really, really loved. (really) and now, I see him and feel absolutely nothing. I mean it, there's no love left for him and I can guarantee you I really loved him. Though I can't do that with my current crush. It's impossible to get over him.
I'd still be with my first love if he didn't cheat on me. Some people change, and we can't always live with that change, but you're always going to think back of when you loved. There's no denying it was amazing. You decide what it's worth with the pleasure and the pain.