Why do guys like popular girls?

[Anonymous]

There are these girls that go to my middle school and yes they are very pretty, but I think that some other girls that aren't as popular as them are what prettier. These girls have the guys attention all the time but they are so mean to like everyone but the guys. To be honest they don't have good personalities. So what is so great about them? What do they have that other girls don't? Will the guys ever change their opinion of these girls when we get into highschool?

[melissarose8585]

Oh, I hated this period, even if I did end up as one of the "popular girls." I cringe looking back. I missed out on what are now great friendships because I thought people were too far below my social level. But anyway- The reason the guys back then paid more attention to my little clique than to some other girls was because we were populsar, hence it boosted their ego, we had a little more forwardness in expressing our feelings for guys, were more involved in school and sports, and, it has to be said, a lot of them were easy. Not all popular girls are, mind you, but many in my group were having sex long before they should have been. It won't change in high school, unfortunately. I found high school was worse. People were even worse about being mean and cutthroat.

But like the other poster said, you have college to look forward to. And while yes, there are still some little cliques and you always have someone who is known throughout campus because they are so involved in everything, it's not bad at all. You'll find the most popular, well-known sorority girl will have normal friends, too. It's as if the lines start blurring when you get there. There is no popular/not popular. There's "oh, she's in my economics class, he's in my study group, I know him from a sor/frat mixer." And if you go to a public university or a smaller one that takes non-traditional students, it's even weirder because you'll have friends that are single, married, older, younger, etc. I had friends as young as 17 and as old as 48. Clothes brand become less of an issue, people understand why you can't afford a new car, etc. It all changes.

And those popular people? Well, half of them don't make it through college. Partying in high school takes over, leads into college if they go, and they fail out. It's not always true, as many of my high school friends are like me and graduated college, but many didn't even get there. They were too busy having fun and getting into trouble.

So what to do now? Well, hang tough. Find a good group of friends, and ignore it all. Do what you need to do, have fun, enjoy your time there. You don't have to be popular and win every award to have a memorable experience. A good group of friends will make high school what you want it to be. And keep your grades up, study, do good on you ACTs and SATs so you can get the university you want.

[marcusisburning]

Guys like confidence (this is true no matter how old they are). Popular girls are swimming in fake confidence. Most other girls don't even attempt to fake it. It doesn't change in high school. It changes in college. College is when the unpopular girl takes her revenge. High school and grade school are based on pack mentality. It will be generally accepted that certain people are popular, and though people can move up in the ranks, it is rather difficult. Basically what I can suggest is in those years in grade school and high school you mold yourself into the person you want to be when you grow up. Cause all those popular girls aren't doing that. They are concentrating on being popular and getting boys. When they get to college, they won't know what they want to do with their lives, they also might have been pregnant and had a child, basically about 70% of popular people have a horrible rest of their life. So be happy your not popular. Popular people have and will have way more problems then you will ever have. So life takes it's own little revenge on them.

When you grow up you will probably be successful in whatever you choose. Have stable relationships and friendships and such. They won't have any of that. And you'll find they get uglier and will actually look exactly the way they look right now for the rest of their lives, while you will change. You will get prettier, more confident, and probably look hot.

In college there is no pack mentality. Everyone is scrambling just to get by. So in college you can just be attracted to a person and then they might like you back. Relationships in college are much simpler.

Don't worry, you'll be fine. Just wait it out.

If you feel the need to attract a boy now, just be confident in what you do and who you are.

hope this has helped.

[butterflyskye]

Urgh, I can't stand these girls. Some of them aren't like what you described above but some are just bubbleheads with no sense of self-preservation at all. I guess what I'm trying to say is, the guys who go for looks over personality probably aren't worth your time :)

[Blake26]

Not all guys do, don't assume that. They are easier to notice, whether that's in a good or bad way. The key words here are "middle school". During these years it's all about you (at least that's what they think) and people get attention even if they are cocky, stuck-up and arrogant people. Hopefully (?!), the boys will get smarter.