Girls, Do You Like Guys You can Boss Around? Guys, same question!

[ZenSpace]

Hey girls, do you like a guy who you can boss around, or do you like guys who have more self-respect?

Be honest.

Guys, same question.

I'm a girl. I like it when guys do what I tell them

I'm a girl. I like it when guys don't do what I tell them.

I'm a guy, I like it when girlls do what I tell them.

I'm a guy. I like it when girls don't do what I tell them.

[tohrment]

Neither - I want a guy who does what is right to him. I don't want him to do something because I told him to OR because I told him not to? I definitely DON'T want a doormat, but I want someone who considers my opinion/feelings on the matter at hand.

Someone who challenges me, but not just for the sake of it.

[ZenSpace]

Very politically correct. Do you ever test him? Tell him to do things, just to see if you can control him?

[tohrment]

I'll admit, I did it when I was younger with my first boyfriend - that was when I realized I want a guy who will stand up for what he believes in rather than someone who will be leashed.

[ZenSpace]

Thanks very much for the honesty of your comment. I think more guys need to hear that.

[tohrment]

You're very welcome :)

[Anonymous]

None of your answers... I don't want a doormat, or someone that's going to try to own me. Relationships need equality, like society in general.

[ZenSpace]

Well good luck with that. But I have found most of the so-called "equal" relationships" are really the ones where the girl is in charge. I watched my mom boss my dad around his whole life, and I think that is very common.

[Opinion Owner]

I have been in an equal relationship for over 3 years now.

[ZenSpace]

Interesting, can you think of any time in the entire relationship when you did not get what you wanted? When you fight, does he usually apologize to you, or do you apologize to him? Is he afraid you will leave him or are you afraid of losing him? These questions will tell us if you are truly "equal" or if he is your bitch, and you both just pretend he's not.

[Opinion Owner]

We haven't ever fought to the extent to which either of us needed to apologise. We both make sacrifices as they come up. Neither of us are afraid of losing each other. We're kind of more mature than that. Of course he isn't my bitch. Don't act so jaded, it doesn't suit you. How come you don't assume it isn't the other way round? If anything I'm his bitch, what with me being a woman and all.

[ZenSpace]

haha. You give me hope for humanity. You are right. I am very jaded. Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe there are people out there like you, in genuine happy relationships. I have simply never met anyone in a happy relationship. My Parents, and their parents before them, were all miserable. Everyone in my family is like that. I hope that I am wrong and that what you say is true.

[Opinion Owner]

Heh, to be fair, I think it's pretty rare. And we're getting a house together soon, so who knows, it could all change for the worse!

My trick is picking people with intelligence and ignoring what they look like :)

[BananaPeelZ]

i love girls that make me sandwhiches but ones that make me cook one myself give me proper orgasms because they fearless when my gatling gun sprays all over em right rite. In all truth if they have self respect its cool but, if they care enough to be your bitches than that means they really like you I like both.

[ZenSpace]

So you are saying sex is usually better for you, when its with a girl who will NOT let you boss her around? Is that correct?

[BananaPeelZ]

It's really situational if we're foreplaying/roleplaying etc than mmmmmm could go both her boss or me boss but, sex is always better with foreplay from both her and you changing roles don't you agree?

[ZenSpace]

I agree about the foreplay and role play. But I never like to bottom, I have some bad memories from my childhood that makes it not fun for me.

[BananaPeelZ]

everyones got their own style and sh*t. its past if you let it affect your future you just wasting your own life by being miserable

[ZenSpace]

hmmm. BananaPeelz, I must admit, I respect your answers. You are very direct, but I think you might be right. :-)

[BananaPeelZ]

:) awesome

[Anonymous]

i said I would like her to listen but that's how I am I generally take charge of situations because I believe sh*t goes better when done my own way. it is nice when a girl will challange my crap though if I am wrong she is not scared to put me back into place

[jhpua954]

I don't like the word "boss" around, I prefer the term dominant. I wear the pants in the relationship. What I say goes. We men are the superior of the human race and should be treated as such.

[ZenSpace]

You are either a joke, a troll, or an idiot.

I think you disgrace men who truly are dominant, yet who treat women with compassion and respect. No gender is superior to the other, we are merely different.

[jhpua954]

You asked my honest opinion, so I gave it to you. I attitude gets me laid and my relationships cost me nothing. What's the purpose of asking the question?

[ZenSpace]

I get angry when I hear any talk of "superiority." Peoples are all different, I do not condone any beliefs that allow people to think their are born into some superior class and other people are inferior to them. Rascism, sexism, any belief system which thinks that one group is superior and therefore the master of another group is wrong.

If 2 consenting adults enter a relationship where one is dominant and the other is submissive, that's fine, but calling an entire group "inferior" is wrong.

[ZenSpace]

As for why I asked th question, I wanted information. I was curious to see if my own beliefs were similar to other peoples. Your answered angered me (which is not easy to do), but if it is truly your honest opinion then appreciate your giving it to me. I have hard time believing you get laid if you talk to women like that though. If I am wrong, by all means let me know.

Also, if you think you can prove that men are superior to women, by all means, go ahead, I will listen to your opinion.

[stillagoodgirl]

No things get boring that's no fun to control him.

[Anonymous]

I'm a submissive type so no

[NewClassic]

No I don't like being in control