Can you fall in love with someone you've never dated?

[Rosesss]

Can you fall in love with someone you've never actually dated? As in a girl/guy friend? Could you really fall in love with that other person if you like them and you're not sure if they feel the same?

Does it make a difference in the end wether or not you've ever 'kissed' or whatever?

[YouKnowThatGuy]

I've fallen in love twice, both times with a friend I had gotten too close to and realized my feelings were more than just friends. It happens over time without really noticing it. The mentality towards them changes. You start thinking of them in a more romantic manner. I think it's most obvious to me when I see an attractive woman I don't know because it's all physical. It's just attraction. Sexual. But there's nothing more to it. I can't bring myself to think of that woman the way I think about the person I'm in love with. I just can't do it, the emotions and the connection doesn't exist with that attractive stranger.

There's definitely a bond about it. Hard to explain, but no doubt about it for me.

[Rosesss]

So what you're saying is that you could have known someone your whole life then all of a sudden you start seeing them in a different light?

[YouKnowThatGuy]

Unlikely, but possible. It depends on the person and how close they are. Sometimes you can know somebody for years than enter a new level of closeness with them and things change.

[Impex]

That whole concept is based on love at first sight, which is totally based on opinion not fact. Some poeple feela very strong feeling when first sighting a person but this could be lead on by a very strong physical attraction which they mis-interpret.

Kissing is something that pushes the emotions already placed further along, but once again the whole falling in love at first sight is based upon opinion.

[Drac464]

You are so right! I am so in love with a guy who I met several months ago and it's killing me inside. I found out he was married with 3 kids after I started like him. I was devastated and interacting with him almost everyday I fell in love, even tho we never kissed or touched or anything. The pheromones (smell), eyes, and voice are just as sexual as the genital area, maybe even more so. I don't know him well but he was not even my type so I wouldn't call it lust and now that I don't see him any more it feels like the worst break up ever. I'm devastated because I'm so not the type to dig a guy like this and when I finally decide on a guy, he's married. It is the most intense connection one can have. That first comment above is so wrong. She's basing love on sex and that's as immature as it gets. What if your loved one became paralyzed? Well based on her theory she'd be out the door. the man above seems older since he said his love was 40 years ago and I'm 38 so yes I think can happen.

[Motorcycle_Girl]

No, love is a commitment you make to a person after knowing all their good points as well as all of their major flaws and baggage. Mature love requires that the person return the love you feel for them. I never have and probably never will be able to love a guy that doesn't love me back, I can't understand that concept. You can lust for someone on first sight though. In my opinion sex is very important in a relationship, otherwise cheating wouldn't be a big deal. Sexual incompatibility can be a complete deal breaker in relationships.

[Anonymous]

It is totally possible to fall in love with some that you have not dated, if you don't know that they like you and if you haven't kissed. I think it's possible to fall in love with someone that just walks by on the street.

[Spirit_Eye_Stride]

LOVE is an intense feeling of affection toward another person. It's a profound and caring attraction that forms emotional attachment. On the flip side, LUST is a strong desire of a sexual nature that is based on physical attraction. Lust can transform into deep romantic love, but it usually takes time.

So if your feelings were based on her physical beauty then its LUST
if your feelings were based on her personality then its LOVE..

[Genofied]

yes you can. I fell in love with a girl 40 years ago and still feel in love with her today. I never kissed her, in fact I made her so mad she hated me. You cannot control who you fall in love with or how long it will last, it does not make a difference whether that person loves you back. you wish like hell they did but no. True love isn't necessarily sexual either. True love is indescribable.

[Spirit_Eye_Stride]

Love is an intense feeling of affection toward another person. It's a profound and caring attraction that forms emotional attachment. On the flip side, lust is a strong desire of a sexual nature that is based on physical attraction. Lust can transform into deep romantic love, but it usually takes time.

So if your feelings were based on her physical beauty then its LUST
if your feelings were based on her personality then its LOVE.. and by the sounds of it.. you guys didn't have a reltionship/friendship at all.. so your feelings were LUST not LOVE. sorry but truth hurts sometimes.

[Anonymous]

It's possible but it should be sure that you fall in love with the real image of that person or just the first impreesion but it's not real.