When we were dating, my wife was an absolute total freak -- ANYTHING GOES was her policy. For the first time in my life, I found a lady that could keep up with me -- there were times we took each other to the bedroom seven to nine times in a day. No matter what I did, she loved it and it showed in the way she responded -- screams, moans, sighs, body trembling, cumming again and again and again NONSTOP.
Then. We got married. She didn't want to cum anymore because it 'takes too much energy to go off' on me; she's there for me, not for her; she's tired; she's stressed. Kinky. GONE. Giving me head. GONE. She swears that she loves sex with me, and that there is nothing wrong; she's just stressed and tired.
I sat her down and explained to her that I love her, I am mad-crazy about her, that I don't want anyone else but her; but, I NEED her sex; that I miss her -- the way she looks while having sex; how she tastes; how she smells; how she feels. Talk with her, tell her exactly where you are at -- that you want her and you want to serve her in the bedroom.
What I do for my wife may work for yours:
- Draw her a hot bath in a candle lit room; play some soft music; if you have kids, YOU handle the kids while she chills out -- tell her YOU are taking the reigns.
- Let her soak in the relaxation for as long as she wants.
- When she is ready to get out, come in, gently lead her out, then begin drying her off. As you do, kiss her body. twith her cheek, then her neck, shoulders, then her chest; turn her around, drop to your knees and begin drying her lower back -- kiss her lower back softly, then her legs -- kiss her thighs -- especially the back;
- Bring her in to the bedroom. Lay her down, and explain to her that she is not in her bedroom -- she is in her private massage palace. Have her lay face down, completely nude (Have a blanket handy in case she feels chilled), then drape the area of her body that is not being massaged. Take your time on her. As you begin massaging her, kiss her body some more -- great erogenous zones to be aware of: Back of her neck; shoulders, her arms and hands; ribs; hips; thighs front, back and inside; feet; stomach, chest; front of neck; sides of neck; cheeks just below her eyes.
If she is getting wound up (Turned on) you will know it, gently spread her legs as you are kissing her and slowly and tenderly begin caressing her lips -- if she is wet -- AWESOME! Use that to begin 'covering' her clit. Tenderly and slowly begin rubbing her clit in a circular motion -- SEE HOW SHE RESPONDS -- if she arches her back and moans or begins breathing harder keep going -- slowly. This is when you begin kissing the front of her body as you are moving down the front of her body. You have one goal: Go down on her slowly, passionately and intend on working her G-spot -- she will cum harder than she ever has.
RESULT: She will want more sex -- way more -- than now.