Why would a younger guy be interested in me?

Here's a great story. I met this young guy five years ago, at the time he was only 18. I am 16 years older then him. He is now 23 and I am 39. I am divorced and have two children who are 16 and 15 years old. Guess how I know him...he's my friends son! So for the past five years I see him on occasion and there has always been a very strong mutual attraction and some flirting. Over the past two years he would even give me a late night drunk call and/or text. He would say that he wanted to see me and that he knows that I feel the same way. I would always turn him down and say that it's not appropriate because he is so young AND is my friends son. However, this past weekend there was a BBQ at his mom's house, and he was home from college (yes, he's still in college, his last year)...we started texting each other at the BBQ...attraction and sexual tension was very high...long story short he came back to my house and spent the night. We had an amazing time! The next day he had to go back to college, a good 10 hours away. We didn't discuss hooking up again but no doubt I will see him again when he comes home. Not sure what answer I'm looking for here. Just curious why this very hot 23 year old has had such an attraction for me for so long and now that we slept together what now? or nothing? and that's fine too...just wondering what he could be thinking now. any thoughts guys?


Most Helpful Girl

  • If I were you, I will not continue with this age difference. Even 5 years difference between my ex boyfriend and me, there were a lot of problems with among all the other things..For sex, of course, that will be great but life is just not sex. Plus, as a mother, think about your own kid with your friend, that's not a right thing to do. For a young guy, he might like you the moment he was horny because young guy like experienced woman. (Just like we can eat almost any food and think delicious when we are starving) Then, they will move on. He might be testing the ways he did with you to other girls at his age by now.

    Nothing personal, I also have bad experience with younger bf's (not more than 5 years younger)

    I don't want you to think that he will be thinking about you.


What Guys Said 3

  • It is none of my business...I have seen relationships like these B 4...the odds of them working long term will be somewhat less that average. idk..he will be 43 when your 59...and 53 when you are 69...u will be more aware of possible ramifications than he will...but..if that is what he wants..u two are free adults...

  • Just curiosity about having sex with an older woman with experience. I've felt attracted to older women before. I doubt the guy is expecting anything serious, probably just a friends with benefits situation or either now that he got years worth of lust out of his system he may not contact you.

  • it's the fact that your his friend's mom

    also what guy doesn't like easy free sex?


What Girls Said 3

  • Every time I hear stories like this all I can think is eww.

  • From one Mrs Robinson to another (hehehehe ) now nothing! Just go with the attention you are getting from him. There are countless number of young guys who fancy more mature women. In fact that is all I prefer. I'm about your age group and yeah it can be fun. The only thing I caution you on is that fact that he is your friends son. So tread carefully. The best age group is late 20's to early 30's though. A bit mature and stable.