What do I have to offer besides sex?

[Anonymous]

I see girls getting upset at guys for only wanting sex and stuff like that. I am guilty of only being with a guy for sex. But, my question is, what do I have to offer besides sex? Since if the one thing guys want is sex, what else is it about me that is good and desirable? I always feel like I have to prove myself to not just guys, but people in general. No one is happy with what is right in front of them. They have to constantly analyze and make things more complicated than they actually are. And then get mad it's not to their liking. Can someone please help me with this?

[Anonymous]

Are you kidding me; What do females have to offer to the world? Compassion, love, care, positivity, friendship, happiness, improvement, intelligence, inspriation, and vibrant personalities. Let's not forget babies. Being a female means that you can capture the attention of many good guys also, not just the jerks. You will be able to find a guy who does not only want sex from a girl. By the way, guys don't only want sex. Some of them think they are supposed to only want sex, because of status or manliness or whatever they were taught or what they've heard. But when guys get older they see that life is more than just having sex.

Just because some guys make it their goal to have sex with a girl only, that in no way determines whether you are valuable or not.

I am pretty sure that everyone has had to prove something, either to themselves or to others. I've had to prove that I can work hard. That is life; but you do not and should not have to prove that you are valuable to a guy by only sleeping with him. If someone makes you feel bad for not being able to please them, forget about it. Let that feeling go, because you cannot please everybody.

[Anonymous]

you should stay away from dealing with guys unless you get your self esteem up. you don't think you can offer a guy your inner qualities? all you are is a walking pussy? you don't have a good personality? you're not sweet? feminine? intelligent? fun to be around? just sex? wow do you hate yourself? the way you feel about yourself affects the kind of guys you attract. if I was a horndog only looking for sex, I'd go for a girl like you because you'd give me what I want I mean you don't even think you deserve better anyway so of course you'd get used. there are guys who want more than sex but with your current mentality you won't find him.

[curiouskitten]

Be yourself and try that you will meet more people that will like you for how you are and then guys will get to know you first.

[kheserthorpe]

You are confusing two things.

One: all guys desire sex or some form of sexual contact.

Two: in a relationship (not just hooking up) there ARE OTHER THINGS guys value.

Its not a matter of 'sex' vs 'not sex'. If you frame it like that, yes, guys will choose sex. But really what guys who are looking for a relationship want is sex+companionship+emotional support.

Guys tend to talk to girls in a more deep way then they talk to other guys.

Guys are actually, on average, more romantic then women in their attitudes about love.

If you ask guys getting married what they want out of marriage, sex is usually in the top 3. But they also want to grow old together, do things together, hold each other in their arms, etc.

Guys will want to have sex with you. Some guys may _only_ want sex. But there are guys out there who want to enjoy all aspects of you.

[g3a9j7]

A lot of guys are out to hook up and have sex with no strings attached. These people don't care about you or anything else about you so stop going after them. I know you have much more to offer than sex to guys.