The older you get the more acceptable it becomes. This isn't a double standard, this is about physiological and psychological maturity of the brain. At 17 you may have all your womanly parts but you are far from a full fledged adult. You are still developing in certain areas of higher order thinking, most importantly logical and rationalized thinking. As easily told by many a college kid, these don't seem to finish until well into the upper 20's if then. :D Also, experiences in your life are significantly different and limited compared to his. Myself, at 17 I knew very little of the world that's out there. Especially sexuality and dangerous manipulative people (not saying this guy is one). Tread carefully, but in any real sense I'd look for someone at your school and less towards someone old enough to be ready to start a family.
All this being said, my earlier point is and continues that as you age, it is more acceptable. My grandparents were 10 years apart. However, they met after my grandmother finished college (24yo and 34yo). Likewise my girlfriends parents are 13 years apart but met when her mom was 23yo.
You're 17? That makes it gross. Very gross. Ugh. That being said, there does come a point when people are all grown up so it won't matter very much. But it's not like you're 25 and he's like 35. You're a kid; he's well into adulthood.
first off that's illegal. secondly you are a young naive girl, he isn't interested in you he just wants sex from you. trust me I'm a guy I know. I'm sure you think he's mature and you think he thinks your special but you're just easy prey for him. if you actually do it, when you get older and closer to his age you will realize how young and clueless 17 year olds are and you will realize that he took advantage of you. so don't do it.
My boyfriend is 36 and I am 26 and we have been together for 3 1/2 years and have a 1 year old so for us it works. Age is only a number, with the exception that both people are of age meaning both people involved should at least be 18 years and older.
So your 17 and he's 29, I don't think its that much of a deal because its how you feel and you can't change the way you feel. But I think you should wait until you turn 18 because your brain will mature more and you will understand the real world. If he's a nice guy and isn't inappropriate with you, then its fine to be with him. Age shouldn't matter and 12yrs apart isn't that bad. But you're still young, I think you shouldn't rush because your future awaits. And most importantly, don't let him force you to do any of that.
i would say to wait until your at least legal & to think it over a bit. I can't be hypocritical at the moment I'm 19 talking to a 28 year old. Because of the age difference I'm much more wary of him, and I don't take everything he says for face value. Its difficult for us to be together because for 1) he's always working 2) in the day time he watches his niece and nephew and he works night shift.
If you really like this guy one way to tell how much you like him is this one question " would I be okay with him meeting my parents" " how would my parents react to this man dating their 17 year old daughter". though it sounds like a " lame " question your still a minor and most 17 year olds are still living with their parents.
Proceed with caution, he's been more places and done more things than you can ever fathom. Protected your heart, don't be easy when it comes to him, make him work for it.
Good luck with your endeavors of the heart.
Also don't mistake my rant above as me saying don't trust him, just be logical with him, if you gather something doesn't seem right, follow your intuition.
Well when I was 23 I talked to a 33 year old who really liked me. I mean, if you are of legal age and so is he then why not? There's always Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore who has a huge age gap, or look at Catherine Zeta Jones who was married to Micheal Douglas, huge age gap and I'm sure soceity is OK with it. As long as you are both of legal age and both really know and love each other there shouldn't be any big reasons why it can't happen.
Only bad thing that could happen is if you are like 12 and he is like 25 then if he has sex with you, I think in certain states... you know you and him could get in trouble and with your parents etc.