This sounds like you are going to play mind games with him. Games almost always blow up in your face. If this is how he was raised, then mind games are not going to change him. He would possibly need years of therapy, to get back into touch with his emotions. It is not a switch, that he can just flip on and off. If he could do that, then I am sure he would have already have done that for you.
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That which retreats is pursued...
I don't think its healthy to revolve your day around another person.. of course once in a while but.. not all the time. that is more an issue that you have. then a problem about your relationship. Sort that out& you guys should be OK. Do not make something you are not a priority for- a priority. it soff balance.
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I wouldn't do that if I were you...
Psychological problems are NEVER fixed by ignoring them and going all silent-treatment on him. You'd be better off getting rid of the root of the problem than you would be pulling away.
Worst case scenario would be him going 'well f*** her if she's gonna play it like that'.. Game over..
If anything, he'd need attention (to the problems) more than inattention.
Then again, if he doesn't want to change or even look at things from your perspective, then why not pull away entirely? I'm not sure living with such a person would have a future to begin with. But that's just me.
FWIW,
TimRead The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.
It's a book explaining exactly what is going on with you and your man. Different ways of showing love and how to relate better to each other in the others Love LanguageThis is my thought process when a woman withdraws. "she doesn't like me, I better withdraw so I don't get hurt any more than I already am.", be it courtship or relationship, play games with me and it's guaranteed to be over.
It is a bad idea to withdraw. Communication is the key, just copy and paste this into an email and send it to him. That would be a better idea.
Don't overdo it. He might think that you no longer love him and that may lead to a break up.
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