CONT FROM LAST RESPONSE ings got deeper, I started reacting as if it was my ex. And he had been hurt by his ex, she cheated, so imagine how it was, bith of us defensive, both with walls from the past. It wasn't our time, but I always appreciate him, and vice versa. I am sure she is not feeling this way because the sex was not good, so don't worry. Its that when a woman has sex with a man, it is the most vulnerable you can be, so the act itself can open up emotions you didn't know still lingered...When you said to her you could have all the space you want, it probably hurt her more. Obviously you didn't mean it, your pride and heart were defending themselves. But, you should really just send her an email or text or call, and leave a message that you want to take her to dinner or have some coffee so you two can calmy discuss. And give her the option, say, if it is too hard for you, I understand. I don't agree with it, but because I care about you and us, Id rather us stop now, than continue and not work. ...You have to understand, us women don't need advice necessarily, that's why we have our friends...though her friends may be saying, what's wrong with you!, Us womenWANT A MAN TO EMPATHIZE--ACKNOWLEDGE that we have a right to feel this way, and just respect it. Because she said she needs space, don't feel the best DECISION for you both is to end it, just respect her unsureness, and ackwoledge that she opened to you and said she needed space, and give it to her. This guy prob made her feel crappy about herself, and although you have every right to be mad, to make rash decisions and make the decision to "take away" a trip that needed to be postponed, probably made her feel like , OK, this is what I deserve..But remember, she was with you after this other guy because she knew she deserved a good one...text her a sweet acknowledgement, stay calm, she appreciates you. she needs you to be the bigger man, and give her some space.Bt you shouldn't end the relationship...she never said she wanted to end it..and you want advice because I think deepdown, you don't want it to end...loves not selfish, its patient...dont end a good thing soon, let it grow slowly! I am a woman that speaks from experience...with some regret!Shes hurting, she cares, she just doesn't want to be unfair to you...
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It sounds like although you have been doing all in your power to please her, she has not gotten over the feelings of being hurt. It may not be her ex that is getting in her head, but his past actions towards her, that she accepted in the past, have made your sweet intentions possibly seem suspicious.Also, he may have been trying to talk to her again, since she said she was happy and with someone else---jerks tend to be that way. If you really care about her, then before you just throw your hands up and walk away---which you wouldn't have since you wrote in detail!--see if you can meet somewhere public, like a restaurant, etc. If she says she needs her space, than express to her your feelings, etc, and walk away.This does not mean the end, but she will need to feel what its like to not have you, that way she can sort out her emotions, without it affecting how you two feel for one another. Anger, sadness, etc, go away with time, but what you say to someone never does, so, maybe the timing is off for one or both of you.But, you can always pick up where you left, and if you really care about her, respect her wishes---let her know you are doing this for her--and walk away. I am sure she will come back, with a clearer head, and clearer heart. And if you welcome her back without resentment, it will make for a great reunion.Remember, better to walk away with great memonries, versus bad ones...If she is testing you, you don't need it. And if she is younger than you, she just needs time...Its hard to go from bad boy to good man right away.
TELL HER IF SHE THINK SHE NEEDS A BREAK THAT BAD AFTER SAYING ALL THE CRAP BEFORE AND SHE'S UNSURE MAKE IT A PERMANENT ONE YOUR NOT PLAYING A GAME OF WAIT AND SEE (SHE'LL EITHER SAY I'M SORRY I WANT YOU) OR (I'M SORRY BUT THERE'S THIS OTHER DUDE THAT SAYS HE LIKES ME TOO AND I JUST WANT TO MAKE SURE (MAYBE EVEN BE HER EX)
YOU DESERVE BETTER AND IF SHE WAS THAT INTO WHY PLAY THE MIND GAMES NOW.
THIS WAY SHE'LL AT LEASTWISE WILL KNOW SHE RUNS THE RISK OF LOOSING YOU COMPLETELY IF SHE CONTINUES.
THIS SOMETIMES IS A COMMON THING THAT SOME WACKED OUT GIRLS DO ESPECIALLY IF LOOKING FOR A LOT OF ATTENTION. THESE TYPE SCENARIOS DO NOT GENERALLY END WELL .
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