I am 24 years old and never had a boyfriend. This situation is particularly infuriating to me as I'm told I'm extremely attractive. Whilst not an arrogant person, even I must admit I know it's not a looks issue. I've had random people on the street (even women) come up to me and tell me I'm gorgeous.
I'm friendly, bubbly, good social skills, people say I seem confident, a good communicator... I had no inner left-confidence due to an abusive father who laughed at me; told me I was cr*p (and everyone else around him) my whole life. His insults were limitless and it took me a long time to realize that none of them were true. An absolutely awful guy. Yet I've worked a lot on my confidence and self-esteem and am proud that I've kept myself together - held down a good job and excelled at school.
The one area that I have not excelled in - or indeed, have no experience in - is on the romantic front. Men flirt with me when they first see me - I am very blessed in that most guys find me attractive initially. But after that... nothing. I'm very friendly but not too much (I let him come after me - yet he never does).
I have experienced a lot of sadness due to the emotional abuse that I sufferred, but I am outwardly friendly. and smiley. Can men sense this deep down?
I used to have a specific type… but now despite the fact that I make good money; am well educated; attractive and a nice person… I’d accept at least a date with almost anyone, provided I found him adequately attractive and he was nice enough.
But I never get asked out. One of my friends told me that I'm so attractive that men are too intimidated to ask me out... but I don't think it's true, as guys ask me out to places as part of a group/as a friend, and they're not afraid to have a joke at my expense.
I don’t want to be this desparate. I want to learn how to be the pursuer - go after the guy I want with confidence. How do I do this? Just be persistent?
Usually, if a guy looks uninterested in me on more than 1 occasion, I give up. Should I keep going?
I'm friendly, bubbly, good social skills, people say I seem confident, a good communicator... I had no inner left-confidence due to an abusive father who laughed at me; told me I was cr*p (and everyone else around him) my whole life. His insults were limitless and it took me a long time to realize that none of them were true. An absolutely awful guy. Yet I've worked a lot on my confidence and self-esteem and am proud that I've kept myself together - held down a good job and excelled at school.
The one area that I have not excelled in - or indeed, have no experience in - is on the romantic front. Men flirt with me when they first see me - I am very blessed in that most guys find me attractive initially. But after that... nothing. I'm very friendly but not too much (I let him come after me - yet he never does).
I have experienced a lot of sadness due to the emotional abuse that I sufferred, but I am outwardly friendly. and smiley. Can men sense this deep down?
I used to have a specific type… but now despite the fact that I make good money; am well educated; attractive and a nice person… I’d accept at least a date with almost anyone, provided I found him adequately attractive and he was nice enough.
But I never get asked out. One of my friends told me that I'm so attractive that men are too intimidated to ask me out... but I don't think it's true, as guys ask me out to places as part of a group/as a friend, and they're not afraid to have a joke at my expense.
I don’t want to be this desparate. I want to learn how to be the pursuer - go after the guy I want with confidence. How do I do this? Just be persistent?
Usually, if a guy looks uninterested in me on more than 1 occasion, I give up. Should I keep going?
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