Why is my boyfriend so paranoid?

My boyfriend is completely jealous of every guy I ever talk about, friend, cousin, brother, celebrity, whomever. Especially ex-boyfriends of course,... Show More

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  • He probably had a rough past relationship or he may be a really tough critic on himself or towards his self esteem/ something; but it's getting to where it creates some anxiety. that's the paranoid type responses you're getting from him. And he doesn't know how to deal with the anxiety. He probably doesn't even see it as anxiety (this can be super important, because when you bring it up, he may get defensive). And he just feels a tension gnawing at him, and he doesn't know what to think. So he assumes the worst-case-scenario. Which would be the case of you cheating. Instead of just saying to himself "that's just the anxiousness again, I got to get-a-hold of myself." But the next time he goes to the doctor, he should mention something about it. His actions, that is. The other thing that you can do is just to let him know that you Choose to be with him. Nobody's forcing you. But because of his good qualities (that you got to, you know, name some to reassure him) that's why you choose him, and because of his potential you see in him, is why you want to stick with him (or something like this, you get what I mean). And because he's a good person, you don't treat him like he has accusations to follow up on, so he should see you the same way. Hope this helps. Best of luck.

    • Ahh, thank you! That helps a lot, I appreciate it.