well, I don't like to respond immediately when a guy randomly angrily raises, 500 crimes he thinks I've committed against him- since the time of creation. id rather hear him out. go away, think it over, come back and respond.
BUT id never just hang up, and turn off my phone. id tell him I'm hanging up, now, I need time to think over what you have just said to me. if you want to discuss this, we can so rationally, later.
hanging up is less an issue than him doing it without as you said, any respect towards you.
idk your style of argument, but you might want to make an effort to be calm. and WARN him that you have something ud like to talk about, instead of just attacking him. the less composed you r, the esier it will be for him to believe he has a reason to hang up on you. which is disrespectful. >>he would probably say you are too emotional or something- tho that's just an excuse, as he doesn't tell you anything-he just hangs up.
hes immature.
tell him if he wants to be taken seriously, you guys have to discuss and agree upon a mutually agreeable way to hear each other out.
talking doesn't have to be at the same time as responding-but LISTENING has to be at the same time as talking and responding.
if he's not interested, that's fine. but if you can't take him seriously, you can't be with him.
if you let this go, you guys will never have a respectful relationship-imo, that's not a relationship.
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I'm the same way. I used to hang up my hubby all the time when he started pissing me off. I hang up so the situation won't get worse or I say something I'll regret. I hang up so I can calm down and sort out my words. Arguing over the phone is pointless.. So I hang up and sort out my words in txt.. I NEVER call him. but then again I hate phone conversations.
Maybe he just needs time to cool off. It could be that he doesn't want to say anything stupid and make things worse so he doesn't say anything at all. Next time, try giving him a little time before you try to call him and talk, he might be more willing to talk after he has had time to calm down.
If I'm really pissed at someone I will hang up on them and if they call I will ignore them and turn off my phone. It is a little different with me since I won't call her if she's pissed at me. That is just how I deal with the issue by taking a few days to think it over. Granted I don't get pissed easily, she'd have to do something like cheat, lie, or be verbally abusive.
I'd seriously think about if that would bother you later on. They say love is blind and you tend to overlook things when it comes to loved ones. Do you really think you can handle these actions for the rest of your life?
And why are you guys arguing? I only had one of my exs who liked to argue. She said she didn't but she told me that her dad is always right when he is actually wrong. So she would pick fights to be right once in awhile. The problem was that if I am right, I won't back down. I will admit when I'm wrong though... when that 5% chance comes to fruition.
It means he's immature unfortunately for you my love...if he does it once in awhile when you REALLY p*ss him off, then that's fair enough...but if he does it frequently its because he's not man/confident enough or literate enough to have a conversation with you about the issue at hand...let me guess, he's a stud? ...This is probably a typical example of when you let the guy pick (approach) you instead of the other way round...you have to unfortunately deal with all there character flaws instead of picking someone who is more on your level. x
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My boyfriend does it too. He usually says f you and hangs up and says if I continue to talk that he will turn off the phone. let him. Let him chase you. AND don't pick up on first call- let him think about his actions.
I agree that he's probably just a bit too immature about it, if he only does it when he get's really pissed off that may be understandable, but if he just does it all the time I would agree that he just can't be a man and face it.
my boyfriend does the sme. its so annoying . do same back.ignore him for a couple days after he talks next
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