Was I right to feel used by this guy?
My ex who I had dated for 13 years passed away. One of his best friends needed a ride to the funeral. I offered and took him on the 4.5 hour trip, never asked for gas money and paid for at least three of his meals while there. He had told me that he had no money, however was able to get the money for beer, whiskey and a pair of jeans while there. Then he started calling all the time wanting to hang out. He knew I had a boyfriend the whole time and I never did or said anything to make him think that I was interested in being any more than just friends. Well about a month ago I had asked him if he wanted to go out for drinks and food and if not I would be going out with another friend. He said he wanted to go out. Then when at the bar he informs me that he had no money. I pay. Then on the way home he pulls up at the gas pumps and tells me that he needs gas money in order to get us home. I (reluctantly) agree to pay 10 dollars. He puts in 15 without asking. Then asks if he could spend the night. I told him needed to get up early and boyfriend would not be happy about it. He left and later texted that he was disappointed that he could not stay the night, that he wanted to be with me and I would have to make a decision. I never texted him back. Now I am getting texts from him telling me that he deserves an explanation for why I am avoiding him and that a friend would not do that. I just wanted others opinions on the matter. All I wanted was a friend and felt used.
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