Should I be offended if my boyfriend has really inappropriate posters of "models" on his wall in his bedroom?

Ok, so my boyfriend has really inappropriate posters of "models" on his wall in his bedroom. As a modest girl, it kind of offends me. Should I tell him politely that it offends me, or should I just suck it up? If you think that I should tell him, what should I say? I just don't want to be an annoying, controlling girlfriend.Also, he says that he respects me a lot because of my modesty... But if he has these posters in his room, does that mean he really doesn't respect my modesty? I'm confused.if somebody could just try to explain to me what he may be thinking... That would be great! thanks! :)

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  • First off, I am a guy, so I know how men work emotionally.I would say that he is deceiving himself, and thereby trying to deceive you. If he says that he respects your modesty, yet is so hypocritical as to even own those posters, he is not owning up to what he really wants to do: Be sexually stimulated. I believe, that if you were to marry him and he still has the problem of needing pornographic images (yes, pornographic, images that sexually stimulate him in his lust), you will never be sufficient for him (unless you were just as immodest and always around for him to look up at); he will always desire to fill the lust of the flesh with pornographic images. I believe he has a problem with lust and that he has a great deal of work on self control to do for himself first and foremost, not to make anyone else happy, but for him self. Pornography destroys families. I've seen it happen to people I know. If you can recognize that the posters are inappropriate, I am glad for you. This is not the sort of thing that you should just "suck it up" for and ignore. It is something very serious that should be addressed. If I was you, I would let him know my discomfort and why I am uncomfortable with it. For me personally, it would be a matter of: I believe immodesty is a sin. Passages throughout the bible show that a man is only to be [sexually] satisfied by his wife. That means, not by a girlfriend, not by a man, not by anyone but his wife. If he isn't married, that means nobody, until he marries her. If he tries to put you down, you don't have to take that and I would strongly say that he isn't worth pursuing. Standing up for what you believe is right is not being controlling or annoying. If he thinks you are worth it, he will consider what you have to say and do what he can to Not offend you. Hope that he isn't just doing it to satisfy you though."Also, he says that he respects me a lot because of my modesty... But if he has these posters in his room, does that mean he really doesn't respect my modesty? " - Yes, I believe such a statement can only be a cover-up, that is, something to please you without actually addressing the matter.I wish you luck in this matter. Seeing that this answer is over a year late, I know that this situation may no longer exist, but I wish you well in you relationship pursuits. I hope my answer was helpful.JDS

What Guys Said 3

  • Just tell him that you don't really like the posters and would like him to take them down. If he respects you he will take them down. Just ask him politely, if he dosnt then he really dosnt respect you that much.

  • You should talk to him about it. The biggest thing is that his comments about himself respecting your modesty and his actions of putting the posters up in his room totally contradict each other. You should put him on the spot, like does his relationship with you not satisfy him enough where he has to put the posters of the models up? Make him really stop and think about it. If he really has to think about his response then something is wrong. If he has that much respect for you and your modesty (which I think is attractive too) then he should back up what he said and not have the posters up on his wall.

  • You have a right to stand up for what bothers you. I suggest you simply tell him that you're uncomfortable with the posters in his room. Don't make a scene, but also be firm. Say that if he wants to keep those posters up, you'd rather hang out someplace else. Only he knows what he's thinking. But his idea of "modesty" might simply disagree with yours. It might not be a matter of his disrespecting you. If _you_ want to be modest, that doesn't automatically imply that you expect _others_ to be modest. So tell him where you stand.

What Girls Said 1

  • He should take them down but I bet he's had them there just to look at for so long that its like my cousin's Jones brothers wall. Just tell him that his having those pics on his wall makes you uncomfortable. He'll probably comply.

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