I think it's the way you approach it that makes it weird (to you), but personally I don't think it's weird at all, it just is what it is. Before I got to high school I had never had a close male friend of any sorts really, and I thought that was weird at the time, but I know a lot of girls a lot older than me now even and they've never had any sort of friendship or relationship with a guy period. I think you'd probably be surprised at how many people are out there in the real world that are in the same boat as you.
Anyways... onto your actual question. I'm all into the "gradual step" process with a lot of things, but with this I think you should just grab the bull by the horns and engage in a fair amount of initiative. Once you start it'll be a lot easier each time you continue with it. If you see a cute girl? Ask her out. No harm if she says no since no one ever has a 100 percent acceptance rate anyways. Maybe try to go to a few more group social events or whenever you hang around with your guy friends ask them to invite a few of their female friends along as well, chances are you'll get along with them too since friendship often times is built on common interests so if you're friends with the guys who are friends with the chicks (I sound like a gigolo here lol) then you'll probably have something in common with them as well.
And if all else fails, volunteer. I do a lot of volunteering when I can and I find it's a great way to build some common ground with people you wouldn't otherwise meet. It may not get you to a "true friend" level with some of the females, but it'll at least introduce you to the socializing aspect of it all which could prove as a nice way to ease yourself into something different and familiarize yourself with interacting with girls.
Anyhow, best of luck with it. Oh and I saw your comment about "I blush so much close to girls that they think I'm weird". You're not alone, I'm the biggest blusher in the world to the point where it really is just terrible. If someone I don't know gives me a compliment or something like that I always go red as a tomato lol. I guarantee you that there are girls out there that will find it endearing, so don't get too hung up on it. And you're super young I'm assuming since the category is "under 18", do you really think you're going to go the next 60+ years without ever hugging/befriending/dating a girl? Slim chances ha. My advice would just be to relax a bit and if you can must up some courage, then just take a little more initiative, even if it doesn't work, no one can fault you for trying :)
Aww, I want to give you a hug so much right now!
Yeah, like the previous answer said, guys are much more likely to find that 'pathetic' than girls.
Just don't go OTT when you finally get a girl and you'll be fine.
My first kiss was just before my 18th birthday and a fair few of my friends got their first boyfriends when they were 19 ish (obviously there were quite a few before that too) so it's not really that odd..
Well that is not pathetic.
You should just hang around more girls and not a group of guys because girls won't usually jump into that unless they are either 1)super nice or 2) a flirt.
You deserve attention from a lady it's just up to you to make one.
Girls aren't really that different from guys...they're human too. When speaking to a girl, remember that she's human and probably just as insecure/shy as you are. If it helps, think of the fact that they have to use the bathroom just like anyone else (lol, not trying to be disgusting, but trying to get you not to put girls on a pedestal).
Go to school clubs, etc. where you can talk to girls about common interests without the pressure of thinking, "Does she like me? Am I boring?" etc. Also strike up friendly conversations with girls you aren't attracted to, and you might feel less anxious.
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Wow, dude, you need to meet some girls and hang out with them... casually. LOL. I'm kidding. But you don't hug your girl friends? It's definitely not pathetic so don't worry. For dudes, it might be, but for other chicks, they might really appreciate it ( : Geez, I wish I could give you a hug!
Intrigue them, any talent you have develop it, any strange quality you have express it. Be you, even if you don't like how it is right now, once you get out there as a person you will have a chance and if you show your attraction and compliment girls you like there will at least one girl out there who accepts you. Every man deserves a women.
College will be your time, my friend. Don't worry. It might seem like all the girls and guys are ahead of you but I promise you aren't alone.
I think it's a huge plus that you haven't been out there making out with every girl that comes your way. I feel like this dry spell you've gone through will either have taught you to respect or objectify women depending on the types of interactions you've had. If it's the former, then you'll do very, very well in a year or two :)
Well I don't believe guys and girls can be friends so no problem there. You just need to find a girl that you think would be interested in you.
I'l hug you! lol
aww *hugs*
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