Girls, If a guy makes you mad, how long you stay mad?

[Anonymous]

And what can he do to be forgiven? Me and this girl got into an argument and I called her some names (not nasty ones, but offensive). I apologized and always try to be pleasant and stuff but she keeps telling me she won't forgive me. We are not really friends but we spend a lot of time talking to each other and I kinda like her but we also fight a lot. If a guy gets you that mad, what can he do to show you he is sorry?

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I say we ate not friends because that's what she keeps telling me. I mean, we hang out with the same people so we see each other a lot. The fighting is more like playful teasing but since we are both so stubborn and always try to outsmart each other, an innocent chat can escalate into an argument. I like her and sometimes I feel she likes me but doesn't want to admit it and that tension leads to this. She says she doesn't care but she remembers every single conversation and detail, so I don't know.

[jujubeetzzz]

give her time to miss you and figure out what's causing the fighting...you could just tell her she's right with a smug look on your face when you have innocent fights. or just don't play along with the fights by not being insulted. like I've had guys say I'm stupid before and if you just choose to not respond in any way emotionally or verbally its as if it never happens and then their words lose their power and you can continue being friends...

you're giving these fights power by fighting back. just let her words wash over you and hug her when you get into stupid fights. and maybe you should talk to her about letting go of stupid fights too.

if fights are reoccuring maybe you should wait for a time when neither of you are angry to bring them up and talk about them PEACEFULLY. don't fight her but try to persuade her to see things your way or at least to see your point of view so you can compromise.

i don't know if you should really pursue a relationship with a girl who fights a lot with you over petty things...it sounds like she doesn't respect your opinion and isn't really making an effort to improve things between you at all, even if she likes you she doesn't own her responsibility to feelings...i think her responsibilities would be to act upon them and tell you and so forth and take responsibility on how theyre making you feel confused.

i think you're both kinda new to this kinda intimacy...it takes time to learn how to deal with any one person in particular. everyones different but acceptance is really the key to love, and effort would be the key to understanding how to accept.

i think you gotta romance her if you want to make this into a relationship tho. basically all you're making her feel now is bitterness and emotional turmoil...not exactly the most romantic feelings ok? maybe you can lift her emotional burdens by being her friend but now you gotta take it a step further and make her feel fantastic around you!

good luck bro <3 get a psychologist or counseling if this doesn't get better...or just go ahead these things will take time anyways and you need some support.

[Anonymous]

Good timing. I got mad at my boyfriend tonight. He was standing in front of me and had one hand kind of under each boob and was pushing them up. I asked him what he was doing and he said he wanted to see what they looked like when I was younger. I thought that was pretty insulting and insinuating that my boobs are saggy (which they're not. Granted, I'm not 18 anymore but I'm not 90 either.) So I was actually kind of hurt and told him that he hurt my feelings. HE got mad at me!

So I asked him how he could be mad at me since he was the one that insulted me. We didn't talk for about 1/2 hour and then he just got up and said he was going home. I didn't say anything and he left.

So I do not intend to call him. He'll have to call me. I will not initiate any convo until he makes the first move to apologize. So he will call tomorrow am before he goes to work most likely and he'll apologize. I'll still be mad for a few days but I won't show it.

[Asker]

That last part is interesting. Why do women feel the need to "hide" that they are mad? It sounds like what she does. She says she doesn't care, but she is obviously mad.

[Opinion Owner]

I just try not to show it because I'm trying to get past it. Once we've argued about something, unless one of us feels as though it wasn't resolved, it's best not to bring it up again.

[LJHam]

Girls have the ability to remember conversations fairly well, don't read anything into that part. If she truly likes you and just won't admit it, that's a sign of immaturity. You don't need that. Stop talking with her or hanging out with her, see how she reacts then. If she honestly likes, then she'll miss you and will come around. Remember the old phrase, "If you love someone, set them free. If they return, they're yours. If they don't, they never were."

[Asker]

I know. Its just that she expects me to stand there and take all that b*tching and not say anything because "i deserve it" but if I try to mind my own business and just ignore her, she says I'm being childish and "avoiding" what I deserve, its kind of ridiculous.

[LJHam]

well, you said it, it is ridiculous. why do you want to be with someone who acts that way?

[snowangle]

It really depends. Like my boyfriend forgot Valentines Day and I was upset, but I stopped being mad after a day or so. But my guy friend who I used to be really close with.. we had a big fight one day and I stopped talking to him for months. But that was kind of unavoidable... we fought a LOT.

[clarasauras]

Keep apologising, as it shows how much the argument was unnecessary and that you did not mean what you called her. I would tell you to say "I don't want to lose you this way", but you said you two are not really friends, but I suppose it's safe to say?

[LJHam]

I think the more appropriate question is why do you want to be with a girl you fight with a lot? Wouldn't you rather have a good time with a girl when you're together, than argue?

[gummybear888]

lol sadly I don't stay mad at my man for long, probably 2 days at most till I saw hey we need to talk and then he's like 'um ok' lol