Guys, how important is a woman who can cook?

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So I was hanging with my guy friends the other day, and we were just talking and most of them said that when they settle down, it's imperative that their woman can cook well, and if she can't she should get lessons or something. I wasn't really surprised by this, but more or less concerned because a lot of girls in our generation can barely cook (I'll admit, myself included) and never bothered to learn from either their mum or their grandmother. My dad also told me that my mum stole his heart with her cooking skills. The question: Is a girl knowing how to cook a necessity, or an added bonus?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I won't lie, I never thought twice about women who cook being somehow better since the far out feminist propaganda that boils down to knowing how to cook = subservient or something. So as a young 20 something I didn't care if they didn't know how to cook. But... the first time a young lady cooked me an amazing dinner (have had girls cook easy food before) with multiple courses, it rocked my world. Im a guy who loves to eat so I learned how to cook from a young age but I've come to understand that a woman who knows how to cook and surprises me with a dinner now and then will put her a full point above other women. Its just nice to be taken care of sometimes, it lets you know that person is worthy of your love and its hard to find that quality in some of the women I've dated in the past few years. I wouldn't want it all the time though, I'm more than fine cooking up a dinner most nights since I know how to cook what I like to eat as well. Shout out to all the mothers out there teaching their sons and daughters to cook though. People should really stop treating cooking as some kind power positioning in the household.

Atomizer · Accepted Answer

To me, cooking skill's aren't a necessity or an added bonus: they're a way to set yourself apart, to distinguish yourself from other girls.

Like you said, most younger women can't cook.

Partly, it's due to feminist objections to the traditional cooking-cleaning-barefoot-and-pregnant-in-the-kitchen stereotype.

I agree that the feminists have some valid points. But I also think they're missing a few points.

Think about it from a guy's perspective. These days, so many girls jump into bed that being a great lay is not unique. Any woman can learn to be good in bed. But how many women can cook from scratch? How many women will take a few hours a week to make a new meal for their boyfriend or husband?

If you can be a good sexual partner, and also do more traditionally girly stuff for a man, that's a rare combo these days. He'll look forward to the weekends with you because each Saturday night you create a new surprise dish together. He'll take the the leftovers to work, and remember you.

missnicole · Accepted Answer

I don't cook...not because of some crazy feminist movement..Im not one... I don't cook cause my mom didn't cook. The few times she did..it was so awful..dinner time was full of tears, cause I couldn't barely get the food past my tongue. Seriously. The whole idea that women can cook and should..simply because they are women is crazy. Cooking is a skill, and for some an art. Not everyone can do it and do it well.

Anyway...no guy I've been with has had a problem with this...We either cook together, or they proclaim, that's what restaurants are for... If yet to meet a guy to whom cooking was a dealbreaker...that would be like me saying...you need to make x amount of salary, or its a deal breaker. Then again, if I'm in a position where a guy says something like that to me, maybe I should say that...all those pots and pans and appliances and ingredients can get kinda pricey no? ;)

Lavenderdemon · Accepted Answer

I love cooking food. And I wouldn't mind cooking it for my future family. but I think that it's cool for a guy to be able to cook too.

however, if I was going to do all the cooking in my future home with my partner, he'd have to be a good doctor because I continually forget oven mitts. ^^

usernamegoeshere · Accepted Answer

Its important for everyone to be able to cook. If you are slaving away making dinner for a man who is sitting on the couch having a beer, you're not his girlfriend, you're his mother. And vice versa. Don't even get me started on the obesity epidemic.

fudgey · Answer

The fact of the matter is... it all boils down to how you were raised!!! When you grow up as a young man in a household with a mother that cooks... you learn the importance of a home cooked meal and I personally learned how to cook so I'm never dependant on a woman for my meals in adulthood... NOW being an adult... I've dated more women who have culinary skills in the kitchen than those who don't... and I must say there's NOTHING SEXIER than a woman who can put it down in the kitchen... I don't mind cooking every now and then, especially special occasions... but like I stated I've dated both kinds... the woman who knows how to cook vs. The woman who's allergic to the kitchen... and the latter is NEVER gonna win that contest... that will lead to a whole lotta take out and HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE if you two spend a lot of time together opposed to the woman who knows how to prepare protein, starch and vegetables!!! TRUST ME... I KNOW... with the exception of guys who are professional cooks/chefs and guys who just love to cook for fun like myself and can whip up some pretty delicious meals... NOTHING BEATS A WOMAN WHO JUST LOVES TO TAKE CARE OF HER MAN... you walk in the house and she's like "dinner's on the stove for you" that's just SEXY, SEXY, SEXY!!!

palek · Answer

What are ya, retahded! 'Course ya gotta cook! Nah, when two people fall in love, they take the pieces that they each hold, and mold them into one. I happen to like ta cook, and the woman that I love doesn't. But she likes to clean up, which suits me 'cause I'm a bit of a slob. So it all evens out. If both people don't like to cook, they just have to work a little bit more so they can afford to eat out alot. It's all secondary.

shf84 · Answer

I have never once even thought about a woman's cooking skills, It never crossed my mind. Furthermore the idea that a woman should cook my god damn food for me is asinine beyond belief. Should she wipe my ass to? What the hell is wrong with those guys? Stay away from men like that get a decent guy who can act like an adult and cook his own f***ing food.

AJtogo · Answer

Gotcha has a good point. With the availability of food from any fast food place, the skill of cooking isn't necessary. If you're hungry, go get a burger. If you desire a more "homecooked" meal then you go to a restaurant with that on the menu. It's only the "poor people" that cook and then they can't afford the good ingredients.

I believe that you find cooking skills are developed more in places where getting cooked food from a supplier isn't available. Kinda takes away from our independence don't you think?

oTuna · Answer

Women who can't cook are about as attractive to me as men who can't lift heavy objects are to most women. I know feminism has painted the kitchen as "oppressive" but honestly, when someone tells me they are independent, then continues to tell me that they can't cook their own food, I raise my eyebrow in a skeptical fashion. Independent people should know the basics of cooking, cleaning, sewing, home repair, and first aid regardless of gender.

Gotcha · Answer

Your guy friends sound like they're looking to marry their mothers. I suppose they want cleaning and laundry on the list too.

I guess it's the wide availability of fast food today that has let the development of cooking skills lapse. It's too bad, because knowing how to cook (guys included) is a great skill to have whether by yourself or with a partner. It is both a necessity and a bonus.

Your friends are wussy momma's boys :)

Traditional7206 · Answer

Look it's not a deal breaker if you can't cook. I'd prefer you did or at least were willing to learn. I'll put it like this if two females were applying for a wife position and they both were beautiful and they both possesed, loyalty, honesty, dedication, had careers, great in bed, but only one cooks. Guess what one has a quality the other doesn't. Does that mean she is going to get the position no. But just like getting that position you want you should wann be able to stand out from the crowd. Ijs

maumau1000000 · Answer

It's not a necessity. Since I don't know how to cook, it would be a bonus for me personally, but I think it's better for both men and women to learn how to cook, at least a little bit. It's healthier than takeout or microwave dinners.

Blake26 · Answer

For other guys it may be somewhat important, but for me it's not needed at all. I love to cook and do it all the time. It's enjoyable and would be even more so if I could get her help in the kitchen. lol =)

maximusprime · Answer

For me it's not a necessity.  I like cooking myself and would be glad to cook meals for my family when I'm older.  I'd love it if she knew how to cook so we could do so together, but it wouldn't be necessary.

G-Daz · Answer

To be honest. .. i know far less men who can't cook nowadays than women and that's pretty sad because it used to be the other way around. At the very least people should be self sufficient

TheGuyFromMiddleEast · Answer

You know, there is a saying "Key to a man's heart is his stomach". Yeah it is actually a dealbreaker when it comes to stuff like settling down or marriage.

theonedrluv · Answer

i do almost all the cooking and cleaning, she has a tighter schedule than I do .are agreement is just keep me happy in the sack and I will do the rest

IStarrr · Answer

It'd probably be nice if the girl could cook.  I find guys who can cook very sexy, but it's really not going to be a deal breaker.

Dargil · Answer

Critically important. Domestic skills for a girl (and a guy) are essential, just not in style.

Rowaway319 · Answer

It's so insignificant and overrated. We don't live in 18th century anymore.

KHaskins · Answer

Seems like a good way to bond. I suck at cooking, but I'd love to learn from my partner.

FireryRage · Answer

personally, it's an added bonus. A rather big one, but not a necessity.

abhifri133 · Answer

Its very important, a girl who can't compromise on such a small thing can never compromise for major stuff about her husband.. In love people die for each other n here dumb people are crying over cooking.. Numbnuts

genericname85 · Answer

not at all :D i like to cook and if she wants to we can get better at it together :)

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