Ok first things first. You don't have a right to tell him not to see his family. Just as he has no right to tell you that you cannot see your family. It sounds like he just needs some time away, what's so wrong with that? He probably wouldn't sneak around and would want to spend more time with you and the babe if you didn't freak out anytime he wanted to see his family. You sound like you are jealous of them. The truth is though, that you aren't enough for him. Everyone needs people outside of there marriage, it isn't healthy to not have relationships with other people. So what if there are other girls at their parties, do you trust him? If you don't trust him you shouldn't have married him. Have some faith in the man you call your husband, give him some breathing room and give him some PEACE when he comes home to you, not bitching. If all you do is bitch then he's not going to want to be there, which is sort of how it looks to me with what you wrote. Is the problem that he doesn't want to see your family or that he doesn't want you to see them? If he doesn't want to go, go without him! If he doesn't want you to go, tell him it's not up to him and go anyway. You sound to immature to be married, let alone have a child. Grow up and stop being selfish. Trying to keep someone away from their family is the BEST way to push them AWAY from you!
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its okay for a guy to go out with his friends or cousin. but its what he does when he goes out. people still can be married and still have a social life aslong as they are still spending meaningful time with there spouse because at the end of the day if he loves you he does need to be spending time with you.
you could go out with your friends when he goes out with his. you could find a babysitter or ust bring your daughter along and do something with the kids that's also fun for adults..like a park or arcade...etc.
some people are just closer to there family then others especially when you grow up around them. but at the same time no man should threaten to leave you just because you object to him going out with his friends. he just might be a no good man.
you might have to be another single black woman raising kids by herself just like most of the black population.
They shouldn't ask a married man to go out and party? WTF woman, he's married, not dead! The more I read the more agitated I get. This is the kind of behavior that makes guys NOT want to get married!
YOU need Marriage counseling! LIKE yesterday! You guys are clearly not on the same page...maybe not even the same BOOK! You two cannot fix this yourself...you need a 3rd person to talk with the both of you about these things...GET HELP quick... If you want;;; send me an email...i might be able to help a little...but long term... you need proffesional help or you will be divorce in 3 months...more than likely.
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