Does being in a cool off relationship mean you can flirt heavily with another girl?
A guy has been giving me numerous signs that he's into me, even fallen in love with me, for about 4 months now, though he hasn't said it directly because he still has a gf, although they're in a "cool off" stage, or so he says. He seems to be a nice guy though, and caring, and sweet to me. But he's very cautious and won't answer questions directly when asked what's the real score between him and his gf. He also thinks he's single if he's in a cool off relationship. I would like to ask if I should continue flirting with him since I'm beginning to fall for him a little and would like to nip this in the bud if it's going to hurt me in the end. Thank you!
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Sounds to me like he has two women in his life, which is going to be bad news for one of them, at least. I think, for your own sake, that you need to tell him to look you up once things have cooled off in his other relationship, to the point of being ICE COLD. We all want to have our cake and eat it too. Too much cake is unhealthy! All the best.
What Guys Said 1
Even if your horndawg pal is cooling his heels, he still seems hot to trot. Ok, so he's sweet and he's a gentleman. He's also evasive about the relationship he's abandoning to pursue you. Besides, what kind of emotional maturity can you expect from a man who maintains a failing partnership while sniffing about for other possibilities? If you want the truth, talk to his "frosty cool" girlfriend. I suspect she'll have a different take on the situation. The cynical damage-free approach would be to use him just like he's using you. Enjoy the sport, then drop him like a handful of warm fertilizer. Of course, in so doing you would be slithering down at his level. Or, you could just place him the same box where you store all your bad memories, and concentrate on a healthy friendship with a man who isn't so emotionally selfish. It's your choice.
What Girls Said 2
Sounds like a bad situation. A relationship is a relationship cool off or not. Sounds like he wants the best of both worlds; to date his girlfriend and have you as well. If he's not willing to break it off with his girlfriend and commit to you then you need to break it off. Just sounds like he doesn't want to commit to you but just likes having you there if/when he wants you. You can't let him have you just when he wants to; you need to tell him he gets all of you or none of you.
Um, I have never heard the expression of being in a "cool off" relationship. To me that sounds like a cop out. Especially if he's so cautious about things. Personally that is one guy I would stay far away from. Why even be in a relationship if you are "cooling off"?