The More Men I meet, The More I Love my Dog......:-)

[Anonymous]

I am really sick of making excuses for the opposite gender. Is it because I am right about how stupid men are, or because I would rather be alone the rest of my life then settle with these so called "men" of my generation? how hard is it understanding that women are not gadgets, not tools, not objects. This is even more sad because I am not ugly, jealous, or insecure. Purely speaking from the truth of observations and experiences of my own. I have no reason to feel this way and I am not bitter.

Either your too scared because you care what your friends think, or you have not met the girl of your dreams. Even if you had the perfect girl right in front of you, Most guys would still find something wrong with her.

Think beyond your world and your expectations for a second, I know its hard to do, but did you ever think women do not need your crap? Your scared to deal with your own emotions, so when a woman gets involved, all she does is make it worse.

If a Non-judgmental, strong, independent woman can not make sense of a man's mind, can someone else enlighten me?

Stop thinking about what a man should be, or what a man is supposed to be, and just be yourself---I get most men think women are very much replaceable but did you ever think that some people in your life are not meant to be replaceable?

[ThunderFox]

I am really sick of making excuses for the opposite gender. Is it because I am right about how stupid women are, or because I would rather be alone the rest of my life then settle with these so called "women" of my generation? how hard is it understanding that men are not gadgets, not tools, not objects. This is even more sad because I am not ugly, jealous, or insecure. Purely speaking from the truth of observations and experiences of my own. I have no reason to feel this way and I am not bitter. Either your too scared because you care what your friends think, or you have not met the man of your dreams. Even if you had the perfect man right in front of you, Most girls would still find something wrong with him. Think beyond your world and your expectations for a second, I know its hard to do, but did you ever think men do not need your crap? Your scared to deal with your own emotions, so when a man gets involved, all he does is make it worse. If a Non-judgmental, strong, independent man can not make sense of a woman's mind, can someone else enlighten me? Stop thinking about what a woman should be, or what a man is supposed to be, and just be yourself---I get most women think men are very much replaceable but did you ever think that some people in your life are not meant to be replaceable?

[Asker]

Okay, I was asking for that to happen. I get your point. Women are the problem too. Maybe I am just meeting d***head guys.

[Anonymous]

"Even if you had the perfect girl right in front of you, Most guys would still find something wrong with her. "

A perfect girl with flaws is not a perfect girl.

This is logically flawed.

"If a Non-judgmental, strong, independent woman can not make sense of a man's mind, can someone else enlighten me? "

You're reading too much into it. Men generally say what they mean. Its women who generally do not.

"Stop thinking about what a man should be, or what a man is supposed to be, and just be yourself---I get most men think women are very much replaceable but did you ever think that some people in your life are not meant to be replaceable?"

Its nice to see a woman for a change see what its like to be a man.

Welcome to the mind of 80% of men on this planet.

I want you to remember all the men who've approached you who you've rejected.

Now I want you to remember what you just said.

Rejection is rejection whether or not it comes right away or later.

Its still rejection.

And now you know what it feels like for all those men who youve done the SAME SHIT to.

[Asker]

Would she still be perfect and flawed, if those flaws were perfect? They can go hand in hand as long as you expect her not to be perfect right away, and you understand her flaws. I never said perfect could NOT be flawed. If you got everything you ever expected (perfect), and she stood in front of you, there would still be something wrong with her.

[Opinion Owner]

"Would she still be perfect and flawed, if those flaws were perfect? "

This is illogical. Flaws cannot be perfect.

I understand what you're TRYING to say. I think.

That since a woman is "his type" then he should just be with her since that's what he likes. But eventually he finds something wrong with her and "his type" no longer matters.

My rebuttal is this:

Obviously he's dumping her because he thought she would be something she's not.

You only THOUGHT she was his type.

[Opinion Owner]

Dumping a woman who does not meet your standards is FAR better than what women do to men.

Women date a man hoping he will "change". Typically that SHE will change him.

Men date a woman hoping she will stay the same.

People change with age, so neither one really gets what they want. Both people wake up to this reality and its only the strong people that realize this that make it through.

[Opinion Owner]

i would recommend you start dating nice guys. But then that's like telling men to start dating women that look like Quasimodo.

[Asker]

What is a standard though? is it needed? is it realistic? change is inevitable, change is the only thing guaranteed to happen in life. I do not date someone hoping he will change, that has to come from him, not me. Women are stupid that way. Changing a man does not necessarily make him "better". And I would stay the same for me, not for anyone else. I am not prone nor do I do well with "change".

[Opinion Owner]

Yes women are stupid that way.

Standards come from personal preference. But they typically stem more deeply from evolutionairy hardwiring.

Even womens desire for money comes from this place.

Their "standard" for wanting resources to provide for their children its a evolutionary benefit to mate with a man with the standards.

Just as it is for a man to mate with a woman with youth and beauty. Its provides greater chances for his offspring to attract a mate, because they will also be attractive.

[Asker]

I do not even know what a "nice guy" is. I am used to douche-bags to be honest. Does a nice guy know he is nice? Does he say he is nice? or is that a douchebag covering his tracks?

[Opinion Owner]

A nice guy tends to think he's nice. Sometimes nice guys aren't nice. The true nice guys that know they are nice and who are nice are the ones I'm speaking of.

You only can judge someone on their actions. Not on what they say.

But alas, compliments and treating women with respect and being nice, does not work.

id say 75% or higher of the women I meet respond positively the MORE I treat them like sh*t.

I called this woman FAT once and she wanted to date me.

:/

[Opinion Owner]

most nice guys are going to pretend to be a**holes and treat women like crap.

WHY?

because it works.

they have a better chance pretending to be someone they are not than being "themselves"

Because being nice does not work.

Sure there is lie that 20% of women int he world that actually LIKE nice guys.

But then men might as well cutt off both legs just to attract amputees.

You don't alter behavior or do something to attract a majority.

That would be impractical and dumb.

[Opinion Owner]

i mean minority.

You don't alter behavior or do something to attract a MINORITY.

[Opinion Owner]

Congratulations manipulative women who like bad boys have ruined it for the 20% of women who want nice guys.

The only women who are going to complain about it are those 20%. And the 80% who get fooled into thinking he's really a bad boy a**hole and then sleep with this nice guy.

You mean I got tricked by this genuinely nice guy! I SLEPT with this nice person! well damnit I wanted a badboy! well I'm pissed off!

Well that's what happens.

[Opinion Owner]

And its because of WOMEN, why now we have a bunch of nice guys pretending to be someone they arent, and then when they get into relationships with these women it falls flat.

Because these women are in love with a MASK they put on, not their true self. So when their true identity comes out of being a nice guy the women dump them for being "dishonest".

Then these nice guy start HATING women. They hate women for liking these terrible qualities in people.

[Asker]

What? you called her FAT? that is so mean. I do not like mean guys. :-( why would you want to date someone who makes you feel like your not good enough? like your critiquing them?

[Opinion Owner]

All of this just reinforces their belief that who they are as a person is not good enough.

So women become less trusting of nice guys, and guys in general. (because they already don't trust bad boys) and they blame men.

When in reality its WOMEN'S fault.

Men are just reacting to women's behaviors.

So women will just keep sleeping with bad boys, until they get old an ugly and settle for a nice guy because bad boys no longer look at them.

Because at least bad boys are a**holes to the core.

[Opinion Owner]

Most women respond to dominating aggressive behavior. If a man shows that he doesn't care about her in the slightest, she has no power over him. If he takes it one step further, she thinks oh he must be doing better looking women than me. (subconsciously of course)

I didn't outwardly say fat, rather I asked if she lost weight. (you look good, did you loose weight?)

Its these backhanded compliments that tend to work instead of outright OBVIOUS a**hole behavior.

[Opinion Owner]

Womens logical brain won't let them be attracted to guys that are OBVIOUSLY mean.

Most women wont. And some will. That's why you see women with dudes that BEAT them.

[Opinion Owner]

Am I saying that women deep down are attracted to guys that treat them like garbage?

Yes.

Yes I am.

[Opinion Owner]

i don't WANT to be a d***, but if when I'm nice I never get laid.

EVER.

As soon as I'm a f***ing a**hole, I get laid constantly.

And the more of a d*** I am, the more I get laid.

So why the f*** would I treat women with any-kind of respect and niceness?

Why would I do that?

To be genuine and have credibility so that I can be with a woman who likes me for who I am rather than this fake persona I'm using of being an a**hole?

Sure I can do that, and then I can also be celibate.

[Opinion Owner]

my mother married my father because he stood her up for their date.

TRUE STORY.

[Asker]

Don't you ever get sick of being someone your not? Is getting laid the most important thing other than what you stand for? I am just saying that I would never want a man to feel he has to be anything other than himself, not what he thinks I want to hear, or what I want, just himself, what he likes, what he doesn't like, what he enjoys, your not being you then, how long will that last?

[Opinion Owner]

"Don't you ever get sick of being someone your not?"

Every f***ing second of every f***ing day.

"Is getting laid the most important thing other than what you stand for?"

No of course not. But when I want to get laid, then that's what you do.

Otherwise you don't get laid.

[Opinion Owner]

"I am just saying that I would never want a man to feel he has to be anything other than himself, not what he thinks I want to hear, or what I want, just himself, what he likes, what he doesn't like, what he enjoys, your not being you then, how long will that last?"

Of course you wouldnt. NO woman does.

Every women wants the bad boy to be the true bad boy. They don't want to be "tricked".

Being manipulated is a horrible feeling.

[Opinion Owner]

Being yourself doesn't work if, "Yourself" sucks.

The only alternative is hope one day you find the small percentage of women that like nice guys. Or you can be proactive and sleep with the 80%.

[Asker]

I do not think "yourself" sucks. That is the stupidest thing I have ever heard. Being manipulative is a horrible feeling. I understand what you are saying, but one day you will get sick of that because that is not who you are. As much as you say women like "a**holes", you compromise what you believe to become that "a**hole". Women do not know what they want, Are you going to ever think you are enough to fill a spot in a woman's heart without changing?

[Opinion Owner]

"I understand what you are saying, but one day you will get sick of that because that is not who you are."

Im sick of it NOW.

Ive been sick of it when I started doing it.

"Are you going to ever think you are enough to fill a spot in a woman's heart without changing?"

No. because I know women like a**holes.

Im not an a**hole.

so there you go.

[Opinion Owner]

i tried for 20 years being nice. Well for 20 years that got me nothing.

[Asker]

why would you convince yourself that that is right? I do not think that is right, that is saying more about those women in particular, I would not date someone who called me fat. Or who was late for a date. I never expect a man to treat me like a princess because I am not a princess, I am a human being though and I demand respect. Women are stupid people, Some women know what they want and there is nothing wrong with a woman who will not put up with a**holes.

[Opinion Owner]

So yeah I resent women for a lot of things, and now I resent them for liking something that I'm not and forcing me to be someone I'm not.

[Opinion Owner]

"why would you convince yourself that that is right? "

I know its wrong. I do it because I have to. Because the alternative is celibacy.

"I do not think that is right, that is saying more about those women in particular, "

It says it about MOST women. Studies show 80%. My experience shows that is true.

my 20 years of being nice to women without ever getting laid, proved it to me.

[Opinion Owner]

"Some women know what they want and there is nothing wrong with a woman who will not put up with a**holes."

One of the hardest questions for people to answer is what they truly want for themselves.

Most people don't even know who the are, much less what they want.

Women are not consciously going out there and saying "oh gee let me go find the biggest a**hole to f***!" no they simply respond subconsciously to a**hole behavior.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't sit there and say "im attracted to her because evolution says her hips to waist ratio is 0.7 so therefore ill decide to be attracted to her.

Rather its subconscious. its because she has 0.7 ratio that I'm attracted to her, but I don't go out there with a tape measure.

[Asker]

I wish you had more faith in women. I am sorry you resent women. Resentment is a horrible feeling too, just like manipulation. I hope you know you deserve to be yourself around a woman and not have to question if its really "you" or the "a**hole you" or the "nice" you. One day you will meet a woman where you can be yourself and not something you do not like to play.

[Opinion Owner]

Well that's 20% of the female population of the world.

Will I be attracted to a woman in that 20% I hope so.

So far the only ones that I've been attracted to that seemed to be genuinely good girls were not attractive.

Ill keep looking though.

[Opinion Owner]

I really hope all the numerous studies that show its about 20% are flawed, or wrong in some way.

Either way I guess we all live different lives and who knows what will happen tomorrow.

20% of every woman on this planet is still a big number so it could happen I guess.

[Asker]

It will. Have some faith in women. :-) Believe in that 20%, please? If you do not believe in that, I can not believe in nice guys and my chances with them. I am a polite, sweet, and nice girl, I just need to understand what I deserve because I let myself be manipulated into thinking that what I want, I do not deserve.

[Anonymous]

It seems to me, if you keep having the same problem with men, maybe you should stop going out with those same men and try a different type of guy.

You say that women don't need to deal with men's crap but the inverse is true too. Men don't have to deal with women's crap either.

[Uglyfatass]

Amen may a nice caring guy is what she needs. Oops that a very slim chance like a -1000000

[jmr2191]

Grouping the good guys who actually care and understand that women are NOT pleasurable furniture that do dishes and make sandwiches (minority or not) with the idiot sex obsessed players is grossly unfair. That would be like me saying that guys should always avoid women when their on their period because they are complete b*tches or that any woman who wears a g-string is a slut.

Hypothetically, Let's say 65% of men are sex crazed players who do treat women and there are 3 billion men on this earth. That means over a billion men aren't like that. Stereotypes are never 100% true.

-Jay

[Anonymous]

Got dumped, eh? That's too bad.

I enjoy hanging out with my dog rather than conversing with women. Men too for that matter. There's a reason why they they call them man's best friend.

There seems to be flip flopping by some girls on how men should be. One minute, they are saying that you should just be a person. The next they want you to abide by gender roles completely. There are "men are becoming more like women" type of questions on here.

Also, maybe you being a strong, independent woman is hindering you as well. If you have your crap together, why are we needed? It seems like men need to be needed and not just wanted and desired. How many times is that thrown around by girls on here that can't get a guy or have trouble holding onto a guy? Must be something to it.

[Asker]

I did not get dumped, and they are more like woman's best friends. I would rather have a dog than a boyfriend. A man makes his own definition of what a man is supposed to be, not societies, not culture's expectations, or even shaped by what a woman wants. I just want a man who knows that, and stands by something he firmly believes. A woman makes her own definition of what makes a woman. It is the same thing. I have my crap together and your not needed.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, and you have that vibe about you. How many guys are jumping at the chance to get you?

[godsgift]

"A woman makes her own definition of what makes a woman"

So if a woman has gender reassignment surgery, gets a penis, and cuts off her boobs, talks like a man, and looks like a man, and SAYS she's a man., She's still a woman because she's still got a uterus and can't make a baby like a man does.

So I guess a tranny is still a woman?

[godsgift]

"A man makes his own definition of what a man is supposed to be, not societies, not culture's expectations, or even shaped by what a woman wants."

Nature and nurture shapes the definition of both.

Its socieity that takes what is already there by evolution and labels it man or woman.

If you disagree with that, then you disagree with science and evolution.

You have every right to call a man with a vagina a woman. But I'm going to say, well evolution says its a man.

[Asker]

Yes, I agree with you based on biological anthropology, the study of people's behavior through time and the evolution of the physical aspect of humans. I was not talking about biologically but through evolutionary development meaning Bigger changes, I think you were thinking about it literally, I was speaking more figuratively, but yes, you are correct.

[Asker]

and I have about 3 different guys looking to "get at me". Whatever that means...none of them know what they want, so I inevitably look like the "bad person" because I tell them I do not hook up with anyone for any reason. That changes for no one. I stand for something. I can't deal with people who stand for nothing. You should know yourself well enough to know what you need and want. I WANT a man, but I have NO NEED for one.

[Opinion Owner]

"chance to get you" Notice there is no "at." Even if there was, you clearly would have known what it meant.

So you're saying that the guys that the guys interested in you are mostly aiming for a hook up?

[Asker]

Yes, I am a difficult person to get to know but every guy takes it personal and is just watever about it. I do not have the personality to hook up, I just stay away from men in general because I am so scared one will actually be interested in me. I have an indifferent attitude about it.

[Anonymous]

I totally agree with you but at the same time some guys just want to have sex with as many girls as possible and some girls wanna have sex with as many guys as possible. To each their own

but all I am asking is you don't lose hope in guys because I haven't lost hope in girls

[Asker]

It just sucks because I do not want to be a defensive female always looking out for douchebags. I am just a naive women who got taken advantage of. I am usually the quiet girl who stays away from guys in general, this time I got screwed over. I like doing my own thing, keeping to myself, but asking me to trust a man with my heart is like trusting a glass on the edge not to fall and break.

[Opinion Owner]

I understand how you feel. You just can't get life get to you.

Am going to be honest and say I have met those defensive girls and they are annoying its like I have something to prove to them because I specifically did something to hurt them. Like why should I get the blame for something another guy did. I'm sorry but how does that make sense?

Every one has gotten hurt by the opposite gender before.

I'm sorry you got screwed over. If you would like to talk/vent. Feel free to message me.

[Asker]

Yes, and I do not want to be that annoying woman in the room everyone is telling shut up too. Everyone has gotten hurt, your right. Its not fair to blame one mans mistake for another mans. It is just a scary feeling starting to realize that you would be okay if you were alone the rest of your life--and never take a chance on a man.

[Opinion Owner]

I've thought about that too.

I've thought about settling if I get too old.

I've thought about just adopting kids and not getting married.

I understand you are hurt but the path I think you are going towards is not a safe one

When life gives me hard times I like to think if I had anything to do with the outcome

Did I have control over anything? Because I can only blame myself for things that are in my control and everything that isn't in my control I have to accept because I had no control

[Opinion Owner]

Over it so how can I be upset over something I have no control of?

Good Luck Miss.

Feel better :)

[Asker]

Its funny, between the safe route and the "don't go" route, I always take the hard way. I always have. Its so stupid. I wish I had more control over my faith in people. My experiences with people have been pretty crappy. I have given more than received kindness from people. People take advantage of nice people. I keep justifying--i think I just get sick of men getting away with hurting women and women hurting decent men.

[Opinion Owner]

I can relate to how you feel. Believe me. But you can't expect people to have the same morals that you do.

I read this some where

I learned the hard way that I cannot always count on others to respect my feelings, even if I respect theirs. Being a good person doesn’t guarantee that others will be good people, too. You only have control over yourself and how you choose to be as a person. As for others, you can only choose to accept them or walk away

[Opinion Owner]

I know how you feel about nice men and women being treated like crap so that's why I try to be the change I wish to see in the world

I have more quotes if you would like :)

[Asker]

Haha I like the quotes you have, you seem to be a very wise man. I definitely try to be the change in the world that I want to see. I am such a passionate person--so when I see someone treated badly, I just react, sometimes that can be a bad thing. I am starting to realize that people may not have the same morals as I. I can not count on others to respect my feelings either. I always put myself out there to be disappointed. Starting to lose hope:(

[Opinion Owner]

:( you shouldn't ever lose hope. I said that in my original answer.

Can I ask you a question? Have you ever looked up to someone and thought they were great but once you really got to know them, you thought they were just alright?

Its kinda like that. You shouldn't lost hope in good people. Like they are still good people. They just do things in a different way. Everyone does things in a different way.

I'm sure you'll be back on your feet in no time. You just need some time alone to think

[Opinion Owner]

Don't let other people change you.

Don't let other people change your smile. use your smile to change the world :)

Because at the end of the day the most important thing you can do is look in that mirror and like what you see and if you don't. You have all of tomorrow to fix it.

Just don't let anyone get to you please

If you don't mind me asking. What happened between you and the guy?

[Opinion Owner]

Believe me. The world needs more nice and sweet girls like you.

I've been looking but its really tough to find one of those.

Don't become like the rest. Stay rare :)

[Asker]

I hate the idea of no hope. I always have hope when all is lost. I am a very positive person. I hate negativity and I am not a negative person at all. I just turned to the wrong guy to, I was doubting myself, which I never do, but I was at a weak point. I lost my virginity to someone I thought would be there for me, but turned out to be a disappointment. Is it stupid that I waited til I was 21 to lose it?

I am just nice to those, even those who do not deserve it, I just do not see it that way

[Opinion Owner]

Well I'm 21 and I'm still a virgin. I like that I am waiting and always thought if for whatever reason I did have sex and regretted it I would become a virgin again. Almost like I'm not going to have sex till I get married or something similar. (Do you get it? ).

I'm sorry this guy took advantage of you when you were in a rough spot. Just think of it this way. Now when you're in another rough spot you'll know to not succumb to jerks who just want to use you.

[Opinion Owner]

I think the fact that you are nice to people who don't necessarily deserve it speaks volumes of your personality. I personally love that about people. It gives me hope that this world isn't filled with cruel people like that guy.

When I'm feeling down I go on this website: givesmehope.com

[Opinion Owner]

If it helps watch this video

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[Anonymous]

How can you categorize all men into one 'a**hole bin' just because of a couple of guys that have screwed you over. I say either you learn how to pick your guys that aren't a**holes, go lesbian, or get into bestiality and live happily ever after with your dog.

[Asker]

This is not categorizing men into a**holes, I think most men can be a**holes when they want to be. It is being able to control it. I think most women can be a**holes too. Tell me where to go where there is no a**holes, They are everywhere. I am not asking for perfection, just knowing when to stand up and say something and working/earning respect. This generation of men are lazy entitled losers.

[Opinion Owner]

You have a problem with guys not saying something and then leaving you because you don't listen to them. That's all I'm getting from this and I know there's a**holes everywhere but it's also up to you to know how to choose them.

[Asker]

How am I supposed to know an a**hole from a non a**hole if you guys all say your nice? I sure as sh*t know not every guy who says there nice is nice. Trying to differentiate is hard.

[Opinion Owner]

Well then try looking in the 'friendzone'. You probably left some nice guys in there somewhere and try not to give up sex too easily. If you tell a guy you want to wait about three months to have sex and they stick around that means they *probably* want a legitimate relationship.

[CoffeeCoffeeCoffee]

Beastiality is not the way to go =\

[crazybastard]

you obviously haven't met me

[swimmerchik]

Hahahaha so true

[Anonymous]

Forget the d***, get some p*ssy :D

[Anonymous]

Bitter much? FYI and men are not ATM machines.

[Asker]

Okay, I knew there would be some responses regarding money and ATMs, now did I say anything about men's money, their wallets or how they think women can be bought? Okay yes SOME women use men for their money, but NOT all women care about money. You measure women by their responses regarding money, you will disappointed, most women want to be taken care of, but that is a preference. Your letting her, and you like to feel needed. That is you, not the woman.

[Opinion Owner]

LOL why do all women say its not about the money? when in fact it is?

[Asker]

Yes, women care about money, try finding a woman who does not care that your a loser living at home with your mom still with no future. Yes, women care about how much money you make because it reflects who you are and your determination. It is NOT everything though, you are trying to make a argument when I am agreeing with you. I agree with you.