Do guys REALLY fall in love?

[Anonymous]

It just seems like when girls are in love their just so into the guy. We think about our lives together, we smile every time we think about him or if someone mentions their name, your emotions are just rampant! We picture getting married, having kids, growing old all the cheesy stuff. Women on a scale of one to 10 are a complete 10 when it comes to being in love. But guys on the scale of one to 10 are a 3 in half. They just don't seem as much in love with a girl as they claim they are. They just seem nonchalant, like when they say that they're in love its like they equalize it to loving football or something. So I want to know do guys REALLY fall in love? Cause they definitely don't show it.

[steve0650]

I feel it depends on how much effort the guy puts into his relationship determines if he falls in love. When I date girls, I get to know them, all about them, their likes, dislikes, fears, strengths, goals, etc. And once I know a girl, that's when I fall in love with her. A lot of guys I know don't take the time to truly get to know their girlfriend. They pick the most attractive of their female friends and ask them out and it usually ends bad pretty fast. My best friend asked out a girl once, a good friend of ours and he was her first boyfriend. He didn't really know her too personally, I actually knew her better than he did, just because I'm a curious guy. He just thought he liked her, and asked her out because she's very pretty and one of our funnier friends. And she'd make a great girlfriend for someone one day. But about a month or two after they started dating my friend wanted to end it because he didn't "feel" anything. I told him to try and get to know her, and by the time her birthday came around he couldn't figure out what to get her because he didn't know her. He asked me for help and ended up getting her some chocolate. Pretty generic... and they split a few weeks later. So for me, the more a guy gets to know a girl and the more effort he puts into being in a relationship with her, the more likely he'll fall in love with her.

[jwheyer]

Thats the crazy part though and why so many guys fall into friend zone..because they want to know a girl before they date them...girls on the other hand will date anyone with a cute face, lack of intelligence, and lack of real personality.. and guys are suppossed to be the shallow ones..haha please

[Belgie]

We *can* fall in love. We just don't show it in the same way that girls do.

This leads to a lot of relationship conflict. For example, girls need regular communication to feel loved and to guage the health of the relationship. Like the ping ping ping of a heart monitor. Sending your girlfriend a text during the day saying "Just thinking of you :) " or something like that, can make them feel good.

Even though the guy thinks that is a complete banal waste of a text.

Unless he is somewhat skilled in how to keep a relationship alive, most guys would never understand the importance that women put on communicaiton like that.

But girls are at fault too. The things that a guy does to show how much he loves her, women just don't seem to value at all. (Like the communication, but in reverse.)

I'm sure if you were dating a guy who loved you, he wouldn't appreciate being told that he's only in this relationship a third as much as you are.

[jmr2191]

We most certainly do, but like our genitalia, each gender is different when it comes to falling in love. A guy will not be as gushy emotional and open about it as a girl might be. There's a lot of masculine reputation on the line here.

When a guy truly falls in love, though, he falls like a rock. He won't show it the way a girl does but he will express it on his own unique fashion. Just because one sex's definition of falling in love is different from the others' does not make either definition invalid.

[Konnour]

No, we never actually fall in love. We are cold-hearted and aloof, we function entirely on instincts, we are like machines which lack any kind of emotion as apparently only human females are capable of falling in love.

When our instincts to get laid are kicking-in - we switch to a mode where we imitate sensitivity to attract women and if we manage to find a really hot one we decide to keep playing along it in order to keep her.

You always had such suspicions that it works that way but now it's revealed...

GOSH - people... you know - I'm sorry... but it's like - whoa!

I just really wasn't sure how to react seeing such question, you probably had a really, really bad luck with guys before!

[Spirit156]

Some guys just don't know how to show it, when we don't show it the girl goes in doubt.. Does he love me? Does he love me not?

we try our best to show our love our way, and its not eneugh but if we show too much we come off as p****s and were being dumped

Sometimes no matter what we guys do it never seems the right thing for girls and if we try harder to show our love it still isn't eneugh

[Guppy]

Yes, we do.

However, being in love is a little different for us, and it looks different than a girl when she is in love. Also, men often take longer to realize they want love and complete companionship. They tend to be older when they get to that point. Women get that way almost out of the gait sometimes.

[blacksquall85]

It's not something that guys admit to, but were just as affected by emotions including love as girls are. Guys are just better at hiding it because its expected of us.

[Anonymous]

i only show it with her but the rest I internalize. I think about all those things you do but I don't express them as much as she does.

[Anonymous]

Thats because when men do, they get stepped on.

Typically.

[jwheyer]

Exactly..i still think girls use guys more than guys use girls..girls will get with complete strangers to create jealousy..will lead you on when they have no real intention of getting involved.. girls seek attention.. Usually if a guy likes a girl it is more than attraction...whenever I hear a girl talk about a crush.. its always like he is so cute and this and that... Big misconception...think about it.. how many guys would marry and have sex with a ugly chick because she's rich?

[prophecy]

you don't want a guy that "shows" it. because he's a p**** then.

and yes, guys do fall in love. faster than girls.

[CatsMeow9]

Faster than girls? How so?

[prophecy]

i didn't check the psychology aspect of it - some say because men are more visual (which is not something a would agree with, since some new studies showed that women are really as visual as guys are).

but all the studies/surveys show that men fall in love faster than women.