Do you believe a relationship without fights is boring?

[Anonymous]

i heard somewhere that never fighting with your signifigant other leads to loosing interest or boredom in the relationship, and I thought about this and I agree. what do you think?

Yes, it would be boring

No, it wouldn't be boring

[LouyJay]

I personally think that a relationship without fights is a little weird... The fact that two people are so close and and open with each other would inevitably lead to differences in opinions, no matter how minor they may be. If a couple argue about a difference in opinion then by many it is actually deemed as "healthy" for the relationship. If you are willing to argue with the one you love to stand up for your opinion then it shows your comfortable enough with them to stand your ground because submission can lead to manipulation, even if you don't realize it until years down the line. It basically reinforces the idea that although your a couple, your still individuals as well.

This doesn't mean that you should fight and argue all the time though. Regular fighting (e.g. on a weekly basis) is a clear sign that something is wrong with the relationship. But an arguement once in a blue moon is normal and understandable. There's also the idea that fighting leads to "make up sex". This could be what you mean by saying that no fighting is boring because some arguments can get adrenaline going and ignite a passion for what you may be defending. This combination aimed towards your partner, someone you already have a sexual connection with, leads to "fiery make up sex".

Hope that helps :)

[UberTroll]

No way. Fights aren't interesting, they're stressful. I can think of plenty of interesting things to do together without fighting. I think the more you fight, the more it drives you apart.

Here's a good example...

My ex and I fought all the time. That's the main reason why he's my ex. My current boyfriend and I have had maybe two minor fights in a year and a half and I couldn't be happier.

It's unrealistic to think you might never fight with someone, disagreements are bound to happen at some point. If you never argue with your significant then one of you is holding back and that's not healthy. That's a whole different ball game. But I think if you rarely fight with someone then that's ideal.

[xobrowneyedbeauty]

I said yes but not so much that it would be boring, but it would lack passion. Maybe you aren't looking for a passionate relationship, but personally I feel like passion is important. If you never argue, you lost your spark. I once read a quote: "We fight with the ones we love most because those are the relationships worth fighting for." I think if you have no arguments, you need to take a step back and reevaluate the relationship. No matter what, you will never find someone you agree with on everything. And we argue over little things. If there are no little things to argue over, are there still big things to love them for?

[wilbur12]

i think it can lead to boredom. a lot of times people simply want to know how much you care for them and how much you love them and unfortunately one of the easiest ways is to fight. if he/she comes back to you after the fight, that usually means the relationship has strength. if not, then he/she didn't really love you that much.

btw: EVERYONE fights. people kill me when they play the perfect couple in public when in actuality they fight like everyone else in this world. no one is truly that perfect forever. fighting comes with love so does every other negative feeling like jealousy, hatred and depression. that's what makes love so unique in our feelings because it is a sum of every feeling we have, in a bubble that shows the other person how we feel.

example: look at why women can't leave men easily after they cheat on them. it causes depression, depression makes the women think more about the guy, and in the end USUALLY, the girl goes right back to him in order to be more "perfect" for him because she LOVES him and has grown more ATTACHED.

so everyone fights, its healthy and if you don't fight...then one day the day will come and if not...something isn't right because a perfect relationship without fights doesn't exist

[GreenWingER]

You said easiest way, so you have to agree that there are other ways. And if a couple does all of those minus the fighting, they can still have tiffs and be a normal, functioning couple. Such a thing -does- exist, but I also want to point out that your theory about the cheating couple is inaccurate when it comes to mentally stable women. . Maybe for a few masochists the fighting brought them to "love" the guy more, but more often it's women who are scared of being alone or insecure that stay.

[wilbur12]

right and you see that very often. a lot of women say they would leave the guy who is the a**hole but unfortunately that almost never happens. that's why people say nice guys finish last. who wants a yes man? I don't think you do. Most women say I want a nice man who loves me and listens and blah blah. then they get that guy and try to run all over him. women want men who have confidence and speak up and not always agree. period

[heavensgift2girls]

My dream is to find a woman that hates fighting as much as I do. The ones I have met seem to thrive on starting arguments over the stupidest of reasons. It is like they are addicted to the high stress emotions that fighting brings, and then they don't feel bad at all after the fight. I hate fighting and then feel like crap long after the fight. Normally by the time I am recovering from the first fight, here comes another fight. Every couple will have arguments, but at least lest them be few and meaningful.

[seasidehermit]

How does fighting with your partner creat interest? If I fight a lot with a girlfriend then I want to break up not keep the relationship going, its counter productive. Interest comes from liking/enjoying the same things and spending time with each other not fighting.

Think of it like this do you want to date someone who is grumpy, irratable, and always trying to fight with you

OR

Someone who jokes around, always smiling , and looking at the bright side of things?

its a pretty easy decision...

[crookthings]

A relationship without fights is fantastic. A relationship without fights OR any disagreements at all might be boring.

"Fighting" conjures up an image of yelling, being mad over petty things, not listening to each other well, etc. My boyfriend and I never do that and it's the best relationship I've ever had, not boring at all. But we do disagree over things occasionally and have opinionated discussions. Sometimes we get irritated with each other but it never gets to the point of fighting, just talking about it. Even if we didn't, I don't know, I still don't think I'd be bored. I like stability :P

[happy_drifter]

There is a difference between fighting and disagreeing. If there are no disagreements, that is weird. Two individuals cannot see everything eye-to-eye, so disagreements are natural and normal.

However, I personally believe that yelling or getting emotionally / mentally abuse means you have lost self control (think a little kid having a tantrum because they can't have their on way). It's not going to solve anything and its just releasing your anger/frustration on someone who doesn't deserve it.

[Hal2002]

It is impossible for 2 people to be together for a long time and not have disagreements, couples that do not have a little conflict in there relationship from time to time are just going threw the motions.

Someone in the relationship is not happy, and is either holding things in ( these are the people that kill their spouse and kids) or is in the relationship because of financial reasons.

I know a couple that have been together for 20 years and have never had a disagreement, the husband goes home from work cleans up and has dinner than is in a bar until closing time. The wife is one of those moms, that their kids love but do not want to be around.

I also know a couple that are always arguing, not the kind of relationship I would personally want. But they have been married for 30 years, and lets just say that when they are not arguing they are ripping each other cloths off.

I go with A.

[GreenWingER]

You make a good case for A, but I know several couples who don't have fights, vent with each other about their days, and can get a little tense about things, sure, but nothing close to yelling at each other, and they're all happily married twenty, twenty four(?) and thirty six years.They seemed to agree fighting did more damage than help with both their mood and their relationship. So it is possible to have B. Like your first paragraph says but with turning disagreements into fights.

[sixstring]

"but I know several couples who don't have fights" impossibure

[HifsMit]

That saying is very misconstrued. It's not referring to fights like we think of them today (lots of yelling / arguing), it's referring to simple conflicts and confrontations like jealousy, stubbornness and trust. If you're -fighting- with your partner all the time, it's time to re-think your relationship.

A lot of couples choose not to talk when something bothers them about their partner to avoid conflict. They would rather just try to compromise from the start.

Worst. Mistake. Ever. In a relationship long-term.

I'm not saying welcome conflict. I'm saying you need to develop the tools to handle and settle conflicts peacefully. Don't force your views during a conflict, as that's just another method of avoiding it. If you compromise too much in a relationship, you devalue yourself in it until it's completely one sided (not in your favor either).

[SmoothOperator1980]

I agree with that. A relationship that doesn't have arguments is probably not a relationship at all. This can mean many things. Boredom like you said, or maybe one or both don't care. It can also mean that a person is too afraid for whatever reason to disagree with the other. Arguments are healthy to a certain point. I'm not saying go out and pick a fight with the other, but maybe you just don't know enough about each other.

[Prettygurl12]

Fighting or arguing? I know I would get bored right away if my boyfriend agreed with me on everything. However, if we disagreed and could debate/argue over that topic, that would be good. I believe fighting strengthens relationships. Not the fighting, per se, but the ability to recover from it. If you can be angry with each other and yell and, at the end of the day, still be 100% in love, then that's a sign of a good relationship.

[Konnour]

I believe that relationships without fights are happy.

There's something seriously wrong with that kind of people who need to ruin the mood for their significant other or/and themselves in order to "have fun"

[MrEM4N]

Fights aren't for fun. I think people that can argue constructively and fight over an issue

[Konnour]

She mentioned fights, it's not the same as constructive arguing.

[ImperfectDVM]

I have no clue.

I think that there will be ups and downs in a relationship.

Everyone is different, so an argument is unavoidable, every once in awhile.

Would it be boring, it would depend on what the argument is about.

[toulouse]

debating different opinions on mutual topics is interesting.

discussing problems & feeling free to voce your honest piniobn-respectfully, is essential imo.

fighting arbitrarily, is immature, passive aggressive, attention seeing, & psychotic.

[sef0181]

Depends on what you call a fight. I think a relationship where you agree on everything would be miserable, however I don't think you need to "fight*, just retain some personal identity/playful bantering

[AmberChick]

I don't think it would be boring but fighting doesn't mean your relationship is going badly. It just means you are finally communicating. And if the fights are constant, then you know you need to comunicate better.

[starlight124]

Depends on what you mean by "fighting", arguments and disagreements are normal in a relationship. We can't always be happy and everything fine, so you need a little "fighting" in a relationship to balance things out

[kairon156]

I don't understand why people who fight stay in relationships. fighting rarely get's anything accomplished and usually ends up hurting the two or more people involved.

[Shameneyes]

I don't want to fight with the guy I like to keep life interesting... I fight with everyone else in this world he is the one person who I want fighting at my side instead of against me lol XD

[sixstring]

No, I don't think it's boring at all. I just think it's very unrealistic to expect there will never be a fight.

[Katy16]

I voted 'B'. Not fighting isn't a bad thing. It's good. That being said, you'll most likely have a fight at some point, but you don't need to have them just to keep the relationship interesting. If you both love each other that should be enough.

[Anonymous]

i believe relationships can be happy with out fighting, I've been with my boyfriend 5 months and we have not had any major fights, just minor disagreements and we are very happy

[snowangle]

Fights shouldn't be a source of entertainment for the couple haha.

[emzy-89]

It wouldn't be boring, it wouldn't be real becawe aren't living in a fairytale