Yesterday me and my boyfriend got into an argument, and we said a lot of things that we didn't mean, one of the things he said was..
"I feel like I'm on edge every time I talk with you, because I'm afraid I'm going to say the wrong thing and I'm gonna set you off and your gonna start your attitude"
By my attitude he means, I tend to take things in a very insulting way when he talks. Like he'll say things "I like my alone time, I'm at peace when I'm alone" so I take that like he's almost trying to say he's not at peace with me... am I wrong for thinking like that.
Another thing. I don't like any of his friends, they are all raging alcoholics and he's really trying to stay away from drinking because he has the same problem. People said that since he's been with me, he's changed a lot, he doesn't go out and drink everyday and his family said they really like the change they've seen in him
When he drinks, he's a different person. I've told him I won't be with him if he continues to drink and yesterday during the argument he said "I feel like I have no freedom" that's not true.
I don't care if he wants to go to the gym with friends, go to a movie, go play a sport. But he can't handle booze. He's even admitted to me he doesn't like himself when he drinks and he needs help.
If my boyfriend can't talk to me about stuff because he thinks I'm gonna freak out, that's not a good thing.
I asked him "Do you see a future with me?" he said "If you change your attitude a little bit, yes I see a future with you and I want a future with you"
But I don't know if I want a future with him if his idea of freedom is go drinking with his buddies.
What do I do? Am I wrong?
"I feel like I'm on edge every time I talk with you, because I'm afraid I'm going to say the wrong thing and I'm gonna set you off and your gonna start your attitude"
By my attitude he means, I tend to take things in a very insulting way when he talks. Like he'll say things "I like my alone time, I'm at peace when I'm alone" so I take that like he's almost trying to say he's not at peace with me... am I wrong for thinking like that.
Another thing. I don't like any of his friends, they are all raging alcoholics and he's really trying to stay away from drinking because he has the same problem. People said that since he's been with me, he's changed a lot, he doesn't go out and drink everyday and his family said they really like the change they've seen in him
When he drinks, he's a different person. I've told him I won't be with him if he continues to drink and yesterday during the argument he said "I feel like I have no freedom" that's not true.
I don't care if he wants to go to the gym with friends, go to a movie, go play a sport. But he can't handle booze. He's even admitted to me he doesn't like himself when he drinks and he needs help.
If my boyfriend can't talk to me about stuff because he thinks I'm gonna freak out, that's not a good thing.
I asked him "Do you see a future with me?" he said "If you change your attitude a little bit, yes I see a future with you and I want a future with you"
But I don't know if I want a future with him if his idea of freedom is go drinking with his buddies.
What do I do? Am I wrong?
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