What if one partner is stuck in the honeymoon phase and the other has moved past it?

[ForeverYours39]

This is how my boyfriend of 6 months and I are.. he's gotten past it, but I'm still stuck there. I really liked it...I miss it :/ He used to tell me I was beautiful and he loved me and how much he missed me all the time.. Now he doesn't and I feel less important. :/ I have to say something just to get him to be nice like that. I explain my feelings but the change never lasts long :/

[toulouse]

i do not think, What you are describing having had, is anything outrageous. its not exactly a honeymoon to fee appreciated. its possible, you guys are not compatible. saying something is wrong with u, because you want to feel loved, o are he moved past a silly phase, because he does not seem to care, is pretty simplistic, & undermines what is actually going on, & who you guys actually are,

i don't think you should get past wanting to feel close to the person you are with. it is not clingy, is part of a relationship.

its possible, that you guys are not compatible , if you have to change who you r, to keep someone, you are not the problem. The relationship. is wrong, imo.,

Pretending things that matter deeply to u. do nt. IS changing yourself. if you are in a relationship- what's the point of faking it. why hold onto something that does not / is not able to, respect who you are as a human being?

if you have already discussed things, then it is not that he does not know, or does not understand. its that the same things are not important to each of u.

so you can play by his rules,& disregard large portions of who you r.. or break up, and maintain your dignity.

i think as of now... things are moving in a direction, where you feel like you want too much, he encourages that view, by not taking you seriously you become the problem because you are 'needy'

no one is innately, needy. people can feel insecure in bad relationships, & or two do not want the same thing--so they tend to feel neglected. in healthy attachments, people feel secure BECAUSE they are getting love respect & appreciation from their partner. NOT because they magically don't need it.

imo, f you don't care about your partner, or about your partner caring about u. why be together.

[Anonymous]

The honeymoon phase is actually the worst phase. Yeah sure, it's nice to feel beautiful and whatnot, but let me tell you, being able to speak your mind, dress how you want, and do it all without worrying about shattering this ideal image your partner has of you is pretty great too. You become comfortable with each other and learn to vibe with each other. This is where you find out what your relationship is truly made of. This is also the breaking point for many relationships. Best of luck.

[ForeverYours39]

I was able to do all that stuff and he still thought I was beautiful.. I've always spoken my mind..that's crazy if you can't do that.

I don't see the point in losing all the sweet little things like staying up late talking all night..which he never does anymore.. he just went to bed in the middle of our important conversationabout this like it didn't even happen.. I just don't feel as important anymore

[Opinion Owner]

The honeymoon phase is an extension of the courting phase. Where the relationship is new and you just want to make sure the other stays around. Him moving out it is not a bad thing. Just because you don't feel as important doesn't mean you aren't. You're still important, but hooking you and charming you is not as important to do. He already has you. He's settling into the relationship and getting comfortable. Give it a chance. You'll like this new phase. Promise.

[ForeverYours39]

Just because you say I'm still important doesn't change anything. I always make sure he feels important..I make sure he knows he comes first to me. I just want that in return..I can't help it. I'm not going to be able to see I'm important if he never shows it.

[Opinion Owner]

He's a dude. They aren't mushy gushy all the time. Plus he's not even 18 yet. Odds are he's not even mature enough to be IN a relationship. I'm telling you that relationships have hot times and warm times. They come and go. He'll be all over you again sometime in the future. But, as I've seen in your comments on other answers, if you really don't like this lack of attention, then it looks like your relationship had reached its breaking point and will end sooner as opposed to later. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Then you just gotta roll with things and keep it progressing forward.

[ForeverYours39]

What if you can't deal with that because it just feels like without those things you don't feel important or loved anymore?

[TheUglyOne]

You'll have to also learn to move past it if you wanna keep him.

[3336PS]

yes, men can past that fairly quickly. women tend to stay and long for more. it can become problematic.

[jolee1]

he is right otherwise you become clingy I did this and lost my previous ex, just be carefull he has just started becoming comfortable with you its moving in the right direction just be confident.

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