At this point I'm confused. What's going on with him?
I don't understand my best guy friend, anymore?
At this point I'm confused. What's going on with him?
So are you happy that you called him? I'm glad that he picked up the phone. And that is good that he missed you. He shouldn't be throwing his girlfriend in your face and also he shouldn't be saying that girls are all over him. I still feel he tries to make you jealous when he says things like that to you. And if you told him guys were all over you I bet he wouldn't like it. He should be happy that you even called him. I know he trusts you with his secrets and you seem like a good listener and stuff. I also think a small part of him likes you but he never wants to admit it. You are right about what you said he is having problems with his girl being immature.
I mean, of course I am happy that I called him lol. But idk, I told him that we needed to talk and he called me the next day but hung up the phone once I answered and so I don't know what's going on. But during the phone call I told him about having class with his girlfriend and he was just really quiet and he said he felt awkward, I don't know why and yeah. Idk, lol.
That is good that your happy that you called him. He shouldn't had hung up the phone on you that was rude. Yeah I notice he doesn't like to talk to his girlfriend. Whenever you mention her he doesn't want to discuss what is going on. I think things is not going good between them that is why he doesn't talk about her.Im glad he is still talking to you and communicating.Do other guys in your school try to talk to you or flirt with you?
I guess you're right about the whole things aren't going good with his girlfriend so he doesn't tell me anything but it's too early in the school year for that lol so no, I don't think any guys are trying to talk to me or flirt with me. I'm pretty cool with some of the guys in my school, and like one of the guys that used to like me I liked him a little bit and then I discovered we're like water and oil and he doesn't get it sometimes, you know? And see him as more of an annoying brother who cares 2 much & annoying
Yeah I don't think things are good between him and his girl and it makes him hold back more. You seem like a great friend which is hard to find. Lol maybe guys are secretloy flirting with you and you don't realize it yet. But that is cool that your cool with some of the guys in your school. Also your right water nd oil doesn't mix well. And your right sometimes guys who will like you will seem like a brother who cares to much and it annoying. They have to give a girl space sometimes to breath.
He shouldn't be ignoring your message. I think maybe he was busy.But tht still is no excuse for him to be sneaking online and not replying back. I didn't see nothing wrong with you missing him dearly.Maybe he mistook it for meaning something else. I think a part of him likes you and he doesn't want to admit it. I also think it's tough because he moved away. People always change when they move away. I hope one day he realizes how truly special you really are. Your a great friend.
Yeah, you're probably right. And the thing is, he knows that I'm a great friend and that he isn't as great but he doesn't even try to fix that. And I understand that OK he likes me but he doesn't want to admit but when I would bring back up the whole do you like me situation he gets extremely upset and always deny it. I just learned to never talk about it with him anymore. I don't know why I still care because he's not even here anymore :/
Yes it is possible guys do this when their turned on. They pull girls closer and grind on them. Since you said you was almost hugging him I'm surprised you and him didn't kiss and make out. Guys like to do this with girls as well.
Ignore my last response it was for another response.Im updating now.
I think you care because you miss hanging out with him and seeing him. How long has he been gone for? You are a great friend. You care and you try to keep in contact when you can. I think he can do better on his part of keeping the friendship intact more.If I had a girl as a friend like you I wouldn't take her for granted or push her away. And it is weird that he doesn't admit if he likes you or not. Do you have other guy friends that your close to? I think your doing good keeping in contact.
Lol, it's cool. And I don't know about the whole do you like me thing when I first told him how I felt the only reason why he turned me down because he didn't want to ruin our friendship and it wasn't until now that I realized he was speaking to his current girlfriend at the time but NEVER told me about her until like a month when he said she had asked him out but he didn't like her at all. And idk, like he cursed me out once because I talked to her about something and she went and told him and he was just like I never
cared about you , I never liked you, f*** you and etc. BUT HIS ACTIONS ALWAYS SAID DIFFERENTLY but he was just like you need to stop listening to people and so that is why I'm always like in denial when people tell me he likes me because he would tell me about his sex life and all so I'm just like no he doesn't. And I'm not that close to my guy friends as I was close to him and they kind of hate him too because even tho they think that he cares about me, they don't like the fact that he makes me cry.
He should had been more honest with you. He didn't even tell you about the girl to begin with and only later he did.Wow he flipped out when you talked to her.He shouldn't had cussed you out. That was not cool. And a true friend tries not to get mad at a best friend. He does trust you if he told you about his sex life and other things. It's hard to trust people and gain trust. Yeah he shouldn't be making you cry. Your a beatiful and sweet girl and you seem very caring.He should be happy you talk
That is very nice he called you and talked to you.Im very surprised your having problems with your guy friends. You have a nice personality and seem like a nice girl. Guys shouldn't be giving you any trouble. That is also good that he said he loves you and he still enjoys talking to you.And that nick name thing is very cute. Texting is alright but sometimes talking on the phone is better because it gives the words more meaning.How are your guy friends giving you trouble?
The problem w. my guy friends is over I thought they were upset w. me but they were just gving me space. Apparently my best friend is coming back for a week in Nov. I'm not getting my hopes up and I'm not too sure if I want to see him when he comes back but I feel like I owe him that because we never got to see each other b4 he left. And I'm just scared as to what's going to happen if we do end up hanging out would it be on a good or bad note? I don't know maybe I'm paranoid.
Im glad that thr problem with your guy friends are over. Even though they were giving you space they still should had been their for you and not treat you funny. I don't think your being paranoid. I'm glad your best friend is coming back. A lot of things could happen. I think it would be good if you and him saw each other. The thing is how is he going to act? Is he going to be the same or act different or funny. Don't be scared if you meet him just be yourself and go with the flow.Don't
(continued) over think it. And only hang out with him if you want to and if he wants to see you. Don't force yourself on him if he doesn't want to be bothered. I'm assuming he would want to see you since you and him do text and talk. I just hopes he doesn't act weird around you and stuff. But Ithink things will work out. Be yourself and don't be nervous or shy.
Thanks, and I really do hope things aren't weird when he comes back, too. I mean I feel like he's acting sort of weird or that he's kinda upset because the other day I called him about his transit and he was thanking me and saying that he misses me a lot but he can't stay on the phone because he has company over and I was just like I didn't want to stay on chat I just called to tell you that and just get off. He just kind of quiet and said oh well thanks and said that he will call back later and never did
(con.) I was talking to one of my older guy friends, and he just telling me stuff about my best guy friend and his girlfriend and he knew he was lying when he said he didn't like her and that you can feel that something was there when they first met and it got me upset. I don't know why but it did. And then the next day the same guy was just like I think he misses you more than he misses his girlfriend and it was just like you're not making things any better for me.
Your very welcome. Your right I feel he was acting weird or he could had been upset or stressed. I think it was good that you called and checked up on him. He should not had gotten rude with you and he should had called you back later. And your guy friend should not had said those comments to u. Maybe he didn't mean it the way he said it but your right it didn't make things better what he said. He should had been more supportive for you.He didn't have to say the girlfriend comment.That was rude
(Continued) I can't blame you for being mad at your best guy friend for saying those smart remarks. And I hope that when your friend comes to visit that things don't become weird and awkward. Also when he used to live in your state what did you and him do for fun?Like hango ut stuff?
When my best guy friend and I would hangout we would just go to his rooftop and chill or watch movies together and talk A LOT. Like we would have a lot of heart to heart convos. Or hangout with his friends sometimes. That's about it. But one of my guy friends keep pushing me to like talk to my other guy friend the one who's like water and oil and it's like no. It's kind of those things where I just KNOW its not going to work out. And idk, they're making me feel bad :(
Well it sounded like you and your best guy friend did have a nice time hanging around each other. You talked a lot and watched movies which was cool. And also he made you feel comfortable. Not all guys can do that.For example you and your other guy friend who is like wateer and oil.Their seems not to be no spark and no chemistry. And your right you just know. It's that gut feeling.:( don't feel bad about not liking him. I feel you have the right to like who ever you want.Don't force it if you fee
(Continued) like everybody is giving you a hard time for not wanting to go out with him. You have to feel a connection with a guy. And you have to follow your heart and gut feelings sometime Don't feel like he doesn't care about you. He does in his own special way. I think you care because you have strong feelings for him. It just sucks because I feel he picked the wrong the girl.Yeah him liking her things more then you over instagram just sucks. But you do talk to him and communicate which is
(contnued) good. I hope he hangs out with you. Your a really good friend. I'm surprised that more guys don't try to flirt with you and stuff. Hopefully he will see you when he visits. That is very tough to see him tagging things about his girl. And your right you shouldn't care but's it hard not to care.Just do the best you can and things will work out. Their has to be single other guys out their who want to talk to you.
Thanks, and who knows maybe there are guys who want to talk to me but I'm just completely oblivious to it or they're just scared who knows. I didn't talk to my best friend for a week, I've been too busy and it was national boy/girlfriend day so of course him and his girl posted pictures of each other. Yeah. Idk, lately at this point I want closure. I want him to just tell me everything and maybe then I can just go, but I feel like in a way he's holding me back and this week the same guy who was
(Con.) who was trying to get me with my friend who is like water and oil, came out of nowhere talking about my best friend and was just like I think you like him and I think that he likes you a lot, too but it's like he's too manly to admit it. And he went as far to say that he thinks that I really love him. And mind you he doesn't like my best friend and he was just like if he just stopped the weed and having sex with so many females things probably would be better for him. I don't know I just miss him
True I think guys can be shy and scared like girls to make a move. Maybe they are scared to talk to you or to shy.That sucks that you didn't talk to your best friend for a week. I can't blame you for wanting closure. I think you deserve it. I think he is holding you back. Maybe a part of him doesn't want to let you go yet. He should tell you everything on his mind. Wow and your guy friend said all of those comments to you. Do you think you love your friend that moved? Missing him is normal. So
(Con) when is he coming to visit? And when he does visit do you really want to see him? I think it's tough to see all of the things he posts about his girlfriend. And your friend said a lot of comments saying that he likes you and he is not manly to admit it to you. But you did ask him a couple of times if he liked you and he denies it every time. Sometimes letting go of the past is hard to do. I had to let go of best friends when they moved away. I didn't want to but people change sometimes.
Idk if I still love him. I haven't seen him for almost 3 months, and the last time we actually spend time together was like 4 months ago. So idk, one of my best friends thinks I still do she just thinks its because I haven't seen him in so long I just feel like I don't love him anymore. Idk, when he told me that he loved me and I said it back he was quiet a bit, as if he was smiling on the end of the phone because at some point I stopped telling him that because it was weird. But anyway, he's coming back at the
(Con.) at the end of November, for like a week for Thanksgiving. And even though I'm not going to get my hopes high on him officially coming, but at this pint I would like to see him. And I secretly hope that he wishes to see me too more than I want to see him. I really do miss him more than anything and I feel like because I don't publicize that to everyone, I guess all of our friends except a small few, probably feel as if I don't care because I'm not on Instagram or Facebook stating how much I miss him
I think it's tough because he has been gone for a couple of months. I think you still care for him which is good. Maybe your feelings might change when you see him. I'm hoping he sees you in November. And maybe he was smiling when you and him said the love thing on the phone. I could imagine how awkward that must had been. And I think you don't have to publicize to everyone that you miss him. It's your buisness and I feel some of your friends should be more supportive for you instead of always
(con) saying things about him and his girlfriend and stuff. Your friends shouldn't be teasing you about it. They should support you more and listen to you.Im hoping he wants to see you just as must as you want to see him. I think it would be good to see if he still acts the same in person.
Thank you, and you're completely right. He messaged me and apologized for not doing so well in keeping in contact with me. I told him it's alright and then I ended up writing this really long letter I suppose telling him how things are and it got heartfelt towards the end. He responded with not much to say but that he is planning to come back here next year. And yeah. I was suppose to call him but he went out and came back but I think I'm annoying him so I'll just talk to him in another 3 weeks
Your very welcome. That is good that he messaged you and apologized. Wait so did he come and visit already?Why is he saying he is coming back next year? I don't think your annoying him.Maybe he is going through things and problems. He might need space and I'm glad your going to wait to call him in a couple of weeks. I think your doing the best you can keeping in touch with him.Long distance things are very hard and rough to do. And your a very good friend he should see that and respect that.
No he didn't visit yet, lol. That's until next month but I didn't get the chance to ask him if he still is visiting but he wants to move back here next year to go to school here but idk. And I suppose you're right because he made it seem as if he really wanted to talk to me and I guess I kind of failed because I was suppose to wait until 20 min to call him but I fell asleep and when I called he went out so. And when he got back I asked if he still wanted me to call but he just ignore me.
Well if he moves back that would be a good thing hopefully. Maybe he doesn't really like his area he lives in and he is homesick. I'm hoping he still visits next month. If he does move back and go to the same school do you think things will be the same between you and him again? Don't blame yourself for falling asleep. I fell alseep lots of times when I was suppsoe to text somebody or call. It happens sometimes. You are doing the best you can keeping in touch.
If he comes back and he starts going to our school again I can't really say things will be the same between us because I've adjusted to not seeing him in the hallways all the time or hearing his voice in the staircase when switching classes so idk, I think we'll try out best tho. And you're right I shouldn't feel bad about it, because after all it probably happened for a reason.
Your right. You make very good points. If he does come bak things may or may not be the same. You are right about having to adjust not seeing him in the hallways or even hearing him in the hallways. I think you would try your best. And I hope one day he really appreciates how great of a friend your really are. I feel your doing your best trying to make it OK and also by staying in touch and contact which is very hard. Do you have any plans for Halloween? I got invited to a club party by a friend
Lol, you should go I'm not really huge on Halloween so I'm not doing and neither is anyone else I know. But yeah, he broke up with his girlfriend. She was crying for most of the day, I tried to make her feel better. I felt bad for her. Idk. I don't understand as to why he would do that weeks before he's coming back up for vacation. I don't know how to feel to be honest, but yeah.
Lol I might go. I'm surprised nobody is huge on Halloween there. Near my area the kids love it. They love trick or treating,etc. But wow so he broke up with his girlfriend. See I told you he was having problems with her and I told you he that he would break up with her.Now this is weird. Yeah that is good that you comfort her.Yeah her crying must had been sad to watch. I feel bad for her to. Maybe he felt he didn't love her no more. But now things will be different.Maybe he likes somebody else.
(Continued) But wow so how do you really feel? Do you feel happy or sad that he broke up with her? This is shocking news. Maybe he wanted a change. He probably likes another girl or maybe he felt like he didn't love her.So maybe that stuff he wrote about her and him online wasn't the truth and was all fo show and tell.
Idk how feel. I just feel bad. He broke up with her because she said something about talking to someone else but she realized she just wanted him and he ended up breaking up with her a couple days later. I called him, I didn't like the way he was speaking to me. It was like at first he was happy to hear from me but then it would be kind of annoyed if I asked a certain question. I asked if he was OK and he just said I've been better. And idk, I feel like crying because my own best friend can't even talk to
me anymore, and I just want to help him you know? And I feel like maybe things really aren't all too great there. He told me I can talk to him again at 8 but idk, we only spoke for like 3 minutes and he just kept mumbling and switching topics. I feel like I'm losing my own best friend :(
I think you are right. :( I think you are about to lose a friend. He has no right to treat you the way he does. You did nothing wrong to him. Your a very great friend. I think he could be acting moody because of the break up which is not your fault. I think he is taking out the break up on you. You just trying to be nice and be their for him and he should realize your a great best friend and that you care. If he doesn't want to bothered with you then he should just say it. I don't even like
(continued) the way he is treating you and talking to you. And even if he doesn't like to spill his feelings to you then he should trust you. Yeah he is going to need time since he just broke up. He shouldn't be taking out his frustartaions on you. I hope you and him remain friends. and I think you care about him because friends care what happens to other friends. I hope he treats you nice the next time he talks to you.
Thanks but I told him that I felt as if I was loosing him and he reassured me that it wasn't like that and that he just needed time. I think I'll just give him that space and focus in other things in the meantime :/
Your welcome. I'm glad that you spoke you mind and told him how you felt. Your right giving him space is a good thing and it gives him time to think. I do think your losing him because of the distance thing. If he moves back I hope things can be like they were before. People change when they move away. And true you can focus on other important things.
He's back. For good. And he's planning to come back to our school. Crazy how you literally asked what if that happened and look it's happening. I talked to him yesterday for like half the day, he said he "got" me since he's going to hang out with me soon. Idk, the only person in his little group of friends that he saw first was his male best friend. I think he's seeing his girlfriend today, I'm assuming they're officially back together. I guess I'm last lol. He just told me that he can't wait to see me.
Wow that is good news. See Lol I told you what if he moved back and go back to the same school.And look it happened :). I'm glad you and him are talking again. And I hope you and him can have what you once had with the friendship. I knew he would miss the area and his friends. Moving away is always hard and tough. That sucks that your the last he will see. You should had been first. :) That is good that he is seeing you.Keep me updated on what happens.Im glad that he closer now.Which is better.
I ended up seeing him yesterday and then 30 min later his girl came. But when I first saw him and he tried to hug me the first time I didn't. When he tried again I did and I tried to give him a I miss you hug but there was nothing there, honestly. And when he tried to talk to me I was so distant and I wouldn't really look at him. But when she came she hugged for like half an hour and he tried to push her off but she wouldn't let go and so I told him bye, and suddenly I saw him chasing after me
(con) and said how can I leave without hugging him goodbye. But I was on the phone with my friend and he took the phone and was telling her how he's with me and his other friend, matter of fact his ex girlfriend. But moving on, he wanted me to leave after awhile to talk to her alone but before I left he was like it's funny how the people you don't care about embrace you with so much love after they haven't seen you in awhile and the ones you do care about it, it's like they don't care at all. I don't know :|
Yeah things are different now. He has been gone awhile. And now you see him in person it's like where do you guys go from here. He was the one that was treating you funny on the phone and stuff.So how does he expect you to feel. He also said he doesn't like you no more then a friend. So what does he expect. Maybe he wanted you to be al lover him and hugging him and kissing him. I think it's going to be very hard for you and him to get back what you once had. He is back in your world now. He
(Con) should had treated you better over the phone. Your a very good friend. And I feel sometimes your friends take you for granted. I'm glad that you saw him. Like you said you can feel vibes from people when you hug them or even kiss them. You didn't feel the love from him. also how does he expect you to look him in the eye when he was talking a lot of crap on the phone. Now he wants you to roll out the red carpet for him.Life doesn't work like that.If he really cares about you then he needs to
show you more. And he should treat you better.
That's exactly how I felt at first! Like we're just best friends like do you expect to be crying all over you? Like I didn't understand at the time, until I really sat down and looked at the way I was acting towards him and I realize that I was wrong. Like he was probably really happy to see me after not seeing me for 5 months and instead of givin him a warm welcome and pushing everything aside, I shoot him down and didn't bother to have a convo with him so I apologize to him :/
Well I don't think you was all that wrong. You can look at it two ways and you did what felt right to you. Even though I guess it was good that you apologized. He is the one that said you guys were just best friends. When you asked him if he likes you he always avoids the subject and makes a big fuss about it.True he probably was happy to see you after 5 months. I hope things don't change between you and him.And I hope you and him can get things to the way they use to be.
Things are just things I suppose. He's officially enrolled back into our school, on his first day back he wore the beanie I gave to him last year. But idk, our convos are short and have no emotions. He just expressed his fear of going back to his old habits. However, when I was talking to one of my guy friends he kept walking past us before coming up and made a smart comment saying "you two talk to each other a lot" which says a lot for one person who JUST came back for only 2 days.
Well that is good that he wore the beanie you gave him.Yeah things are going to be weird and it's going to be hard for you and him to get bak what you once had. I think it's possible if he stops ating imatore like that comment he made about you talking to that guy alot. How dare he say that and like you said he hsan't been their long. That sucks that you and him are having short conversations with no emotion. Do you guys at least hug each other? I hope things get better between you and him.
We hug lol. But today I found something new stuff about what he did while he was away and over the summer but that's a whole another story. But afterward I was like you obviously have a lot to tell me and he was like no because you aren't my diary and I said but you used to tell me everything and he was just like used to. So when I was speaking to the same guy yesterday he came up to me and throw water down my shirt, in which I just ended up punching and kicking him. And when I was speaking to
one of his friends who was checking up on me because I was crying earlier because of me being upset with what my best friend said, he tried to like butt into our conversation like seriously? It's none of your business. I don't know at this point I feel like pushing him away.
That is nice that you hug.Lol. Yeah you have to tell me what kind of new stuff he did over the summer time? I'm curious as to what is was. I was afraid somthing like this would happen. He seems like he is changing and he isn't the same person as before. He seems more secretive and doesn't want to open up to you anymore in a friendship way. I'm sorry he made you cry. :( I felt what he said to yo uwas very harsh and uncalled for. He also seems to want to be noisy and get in your buisness but doesn't
want you in his buisness. Your right what you do is your buisness and not his. It seems like when he sees you talking to other guys that he gets jealous and can't handle it. That is why part of the reason I feel he poured water down you shirt.Maybe he misses you play fighting with him. If you push hm away. I can't really blame you because it is his fought. If you ignore him he will crawl back to you. Your a good friend and a great listener. He shouldn't take you for granted.
Let's just say he wasn't as faithful as we thought he was when he was living in Michigan. But we hadn't talk to each for a couple days until today. He wanted to use my iPhone, he just mostly took pictures of himself and listen to my music. It was weird because before since he has come back, whenever we talked I wouldn't feel anything. But today I did. And I think he kinda did, too. I don't know lol he came out of nowhere and was just like I had a threesome this weekend. And then he came during my lunch
period to give me back my iPhone and he was telling his friend about some girl he was sleeping with and how she'll do anything he wants or whatever. I didn't really care. When I look up he was just looking at me and smiling and he started to play with my hair. I didn't even notice, but my friend did and she was just like how at one point he touched my neck idekkk. And yeah idk.
Well I'm glad you felt something this time when you let him use your iphone. It seems like he says and does things to get your attention like talking about the threesome, and about that girl letting him do anything he wants. He looked a you to see your reaction or to see if you were jealous.Then he tries to touch your neck and hair shows that he likes to flirt and joke around with you.How do you feel when he talks like that around you about his personal life about threesomes and that girl?
(Continued) Also to even though he claims he doesn't like you he still seems to flirt with you and joke around with you alot. He seems to do things now to get you to look at him and pay attention to him. Your a very good friend and he should be happy that you even talk to him and acknowlege him.I felt you have been nice to him and your the one that tries to keep the friendship going.You called him and texted him and really cared for him. Not all girls do things like that.
When he talks around me about his personal life I don't care, at least not like before when I used to feel a way about it. But we don't talk as much anymore to be honest, I barely see him since we don't have any classes together so the only time I see or even talk to him for a little is when we're switching classes. We're cool though I suppose.
Yeah sometimes a person can change your feelings for them. I mean he should even be happy that you talk to him. I'm glad that you don't care about things he says about his personal life. I think he says those things to try to make you jealous.I think when he sees you talking to other guys it gets to him. That is cool that you still see him. It sucks that you and him don't have classes together. But at least your talking. Your a very great friend.And he should realize it.
Thank you! But yeah I think he does feel a type way like I haven't told him about me liking this guy because he always acts weird when I talk about other guys and so I guess he overheard me and my friend's convo when I was telling her about the guy I like because he just stared at us and was like weird. And then out of nowhere he was just like that guy who was with me the other day thinks your cute and I was just like oh. Lol, but I mean I want to tell him about the guy I like because I do need advice but idk.
Your right. He always wants you to listen to him. But when you need advice about liking another guy I think he will act weird again if you tell him. He claims you and him are just friends so friends listen to each other and help each other out with their problems.Lol him over hearing what yo uand your friend was talking baout probaly stumped him and he didn't know what to say.But him telling you about the guy liking you is good.Hopefully if you do decide to tell him about liking the other
(Conitnued) guy then I hope he would be matore enough to give you good advice or even listen to you talk. Yeah he might act weird it's hard to tell because he does random things sometimes I think that is cool that you like another guy. Does this other guy know you like him?Do you have any classes with him?
So, I told him about the other guy and at first he was just like Idk, it's really up to you. And when I told him who it was exactly, he started to laugh and was just like you definitely didn't like him last year like what does that have to do with anything? And he keeps bringing up the fact that one of his friends think I'm cute like what? Lol, the new guy doesn't know I like him the only problem is that he definitely has a girlfriend of 2 months but he shows like huge signs of interest in me.
(Con.) like before we were really cool with each other and we would give each other friendly hugs and all of a sudden like lately lI realized his hand placement has change from my upper back to like my lower back and often times he would pull me closer to him as well. He took one of my favorite pins and wears it on his hat. The other day he rested his head on my shoulder and was leaning against and he usually stares at me quiet weird sometimes.
Lol that is cool that you told your friend about liking the other guy. Lol why does he keep bringing up his other friend liking you?If his friend likes you that much then he should be trying to talk to you.Lol.But wow the other guy you like has a girlfriend? But the way he is acting seems he kind of likes you.You make good point and good observations like the hand placement when hugging and pulling you close to him.Also the pin he wears on his hat.Hmmm he might be crushing on you.Maybe he might
(continued) Break up with his girlfriend. You never know. It seems like maybe something is lacking from their relationship.He seems to be really flirty with you.I can't blame him because you a very nice girl and also maybe he finds you hot and attractive.Sometimes with different people you feel different chemistry with them.Your also a very good friend as well to.It seems like flirting to me that he is doing.
Lol thanks you're so nice. I don't feel anything for my best friend anymore, I don't think about h much anymore. It's weird. But anyway, with the new guy, I really like him. Like he gives me butterflies and that electric feeling. Friday, I was sick and he gave me a hug and held me for a little asking if I was alright. After school I saw him and I called him to ask h something we were standing so close to each other. After the basketball game we hugged each other goodnight. But I'm worried.
(Con.) He has a girlfriend, and I honestly respect that so much. But I don't want to get my hopes up and think that he likes me and it's not even like that. I really like him lol, but this whole thing is huge obstacle you know? And not to mention his ex goes to our school and I'm cool with her so like imagine her take on it you know? Ugh I don't know man.
Your very welcome. Yeah I can't blame you for not having feelings for your best friend anymore. I think he killed it when you kept trying and you was very nice to him.Calling and checking up on him when he lived far away.Now he acts weird around you saying weird things and stuff. But anyway getting back to the new guy wow that is cool that he gives you that butterflies and that electric feeling.Not all guys can give a girl a feelng like that.That is so nice that he gave you a hug when you were
(Conti) sick.I hope your feeling better now. :) Yeah he seems to really like giving you hugs.Yeah the whole thing does sound like a huge obstacle. Even if he breaks up with his girlfriend and dated you.Then you still would have to deal with the ex.Since she is friends with you it would cause drama.But I think your not doing nothing wrong in this situation.It's always good to have a crush on somebody.And you respect that he has a girlfriend.And you andhim are just friends for now.Im glad he
shows you attention and cares for you.He seems more caring then your other best friend. He should be calling and texting you checking up on you.
My best friend is just there. We went from giving each other hugs to handshakes. Yesterday he was fooling around with one of my friends picking her up and playing around with her in front of me, but Zi didn't feel anything. Not a thing. The guy he kept talking about, we're talking now. My friends don't like him at all, he's interesting but I just want a friendship with him. Nothing more. The new guy is just idk, I suppose it's because he has girlfriend but still. He would still hug me from my lower back
(Con) but we would make very little conversation, mainly because we don't have any classes together and every time we do make some sort of conversation, his friends are always there. Like he asked where I was going but it didn't even matter because he was going out to eat with his friends. And I was planning on telling him how I feel, but he wrote a status saying girls in our school are terrible. And now I'm just like greaaaat, I'm just not going to tell him a thing.
Wow it seems like a lot has happened. That sucks with your best guy friend just giving handshakes and no hugs.It seems like he has changed.But I'm glad that you over him.He should cherish your friendship with him. That is cool that you talking to the guy he kept saying like you.That is good that you just want to be friends with him for now. That sucks that your friends don't like him. And getting back to the other guy that sucks that he would post that on Facebook.I think he is terrible
(Contiued) for writing that status. That sucks that you don't have any classes with him.Now I guess why ucan't tell him how you feel since he wrote that comment.Hopefully it wasn't directed to you.
So, I told the new guy about how I felt about him lol. When I told him he was like "so I'vve been told" and he put his arm around my shoulders and we walked around for a bit and he was just like what took you so long and I told him because I was just really shy and he laughed. He asked how I was getting home but I already was going home with one of my friends so he said bye and we hugged and he held me for a little bit. Ahh, lol. I just don't want to get my hopes up.
Wow. I'm very impressed with you. :) I'm glad that you took a risk. I know how hard it is for girls to tell a guy if she likes him or not.Now if he asked you what took you so long?It's like what took him so long. If he liked you then he should had said something to you face to face.Sometimes guys are so imatore. I'm glad he hugged you and held you.I hope things work out.And your right about getting your hopes up.But I think it's a good start so far.Have to see what happens.Keep me updated.
Thank you! :) Yeah, things have been dead since I've told him. Idk. His friend just explained to me that it's like pointless because even if anything does happen between us, they feel as if I won't be handle it meaning I would feel guilty for like making him break up with his girlfriend to be with me so it's just bad. And that nothing is wrong with me, it's just for that reason. Another girl likes him but his friend was just like how she likes everyone so. My best friend is talking to me again though.
(Con) We actually hang out and he actually gave me good insight into my problem. We're alright I suppose. But with the new guy, I feel like I'm being impatient and thinking that things are suppose to suddenly change after I told him how I felt but I have to remember that it's only been 4 days and that he has a girlfriend so things are just weird. So I'm trying not give up even though people he's close to are like move on and that he's an a**hole but idk, I just want to get to know him before anything else.
Your welcome. I don't think it would be your fault if he breaks up with his girlfriend. If it ain't meant to be it isn't meant to be. Don't feel guilty or bad if it happens. And I agree with you since yo utold him it's hard not to be impatient. I get impatient to sometimes. And your right you should get to know him more.Sometimes your friends are right on some thigns but their are not right on everything.Im glad your best friend is talking to you again.He probably misses your company.I think
(Continued) the whole situation will pan itself out. Just try to be patient if you can. And I think it was still good that you told him you like him.At least he knows that now. If he does break up with his girl don't feel bad. If he lieks her then he will stay with her. If he doesn't like her then they will break up.Just be strong and hang in their.Good thigns are bound to come for you.
Hi! Hope you had a wonderful holiday season. Uh, things have been okay. The new guy and J and all of his friends hung out together not too long ago it was chill. I notice that he doesn't really talk about his girlfriend around me unless someone brings her up to him and you can feel just the awkwardness in the air and he'll just look from the corner of his eye for my reaction lol. He didn't come to school on the last day before the break, but I ended up seeing and being with him for most of the night at
this party so it was nice. Even though at first we were sitting at two different places, when it was time to go on the dance floor we were by each other for most of the night talking and laughing with all of our friends. At the end he was playing with my hair when we were outside until he had to go and we did this awkward hug thing until he hugged me tightly from my lower waist and told me goodnight. It was nice, I suppose. Lol.
Hi I hope you had a wonderful holiday season as well.That must had been awkward if j and the new guy hung around you at the same time. Lol J seems to still flirt with you even though he as a girlfriend. The playing with your hair thing at that party and the hug thing lol seems he still likes your company.Im glad you had fun at the party.Did you even dance with anybody?also how did the new guy act when hanging around J? Also how is the break going for you?Im glad things are going pretty good for u
J was a typo lol. After the party and the whole holiday break, the new guy and I haven't spoken much. He just made 4 months with his girlfriend so I respect it and besides the guy my best friend kept telling me about, we have been texting each other almost every day and I enjoy talking to him. My friends thinks he's crazy but I actually talk to him so I understand why he may come off that way to people lol. But things are cool, I'm going to let the new guy go and just focus more on the senior.
My best friend made a year with his girlfriend not too long ago lol and we're cool. He still will like weirdly tease me about the senior and that guy who used to like me and would try to read my text messages and tell me to tell him about the senior I'm talking to but then just tune me out or just change the subject when I just started. Idek I stop bothering to understand him lol. But that's just about it.
Thanks for the update. :)That sucks that you and the new guy don't talk that much. I'm glad that your over him and that your moving on. Also I'm glad that your texting that new guy and that you enjoy talking to him. That is good you understand him. People always judge.Lol. I'm glad that your still talking to your other friend.He still likes to tease you.I see.Lol.I think he is jealous that your talking to the senior guy Maybe he might ask you to prom..Im hoping things work out.Your a very sweet girl.
Hi! Things have been alright. The senior guy I've been talking admitted that he does like me and that he thinks I'm really pretty but he doesn't want to rush into things and wants me to wait until I'm ready and until he's ready to go there. However he did admit that he's into another girl but he just thinks that it's most likely a phase he's going through. Lol idk. The guy that I used to like with the girlfriend is treating me weirdly now and so I'm guessing his friend told him that I moved onto the
senior guy instead because before when I would ask him for like hw help he would help me out but not too long he was just like just do it yourself. And then I asked him yesterday to hold my water as I signed something for someone and his class if literally right there and instead he gave someone else my stuff and said I definitely have class. I realize that every time I would pass him in the morning he would stare at me to see if I'll say hi and when I'm going to class he would purposely bump me
Hi! I'm very glad that the senior guy admitted that likes you and that he thinks your pretty.You are cute.Lol.I think he wanted to see your reaction by mentioning the other girl.Maybe he might ask you to prom if things work out. I hope the other girl thing is a phase.You seem way better then her.That sucks that your guy friend is acting up again. I agree with you that the other friend told him what happened and that you moved on to the senior guy instead.Your guy friend should not change.Im very
(Continued) disappointed in him the way he has been treating you.He still should help you with your hw.And that was rude when he held your water and gave it to somebody else. Maybe you should give him the cold shoulder and ignore him for a while. I bet he will not like that. Lol. If he stare at you in the morning he could say hi first.Why you have to every time? Also I think he purposely bumps you so that way you give him attention. When you ignore him he craves his attention.
Hi! So yeah. The senior guy didn't talk to each other in like 2 weeks after we got into a petty argument and pretty much once we started talking again he told me that he likes another girl who connects with so much and blah. The other girl he liked he doesn't really like her anymore. I told him that I'm happy that we could be friends and he was skeptical and thinks there is some reason behind all of it when really I'm being genuine lol. And yesterday, he told that lately he's been having
wet dreams about me lately A LOT and he rarely ever has those. The last time he had one , it came true. And so I thought it was an April Fool's joke to which he responded saying "It wasn't but now it is" and I felt really bad and ask him to please explain but he started to act as if he didn't know what I was talking about so I just dropped it. Ugh. Lol. Idek at this point.
HI! I'm glad that things are alright with you. That senior guy keeps sending you mixed signals. At times it seems like he likes you then at times he is very hard to read. That sucks that you and him argued and didn't talk for 2 weeks. I think sometimes he tries to make you jealous by saying he likes another girl. I'm glad that you told him your happy about being friends.I also think he was serious about having wet dreams about you.Maybe he really fantacizes about hooking up with you.And I think
(Continued) that he really wants that fantasy to come true.Have you thought about hooking up with him? I also think he pretended not to hear what you saying because he likes to play dumb.And yo ushouldn't had felt bad asking him to explain. I felt you had a right to ask and he should had gave you a clear cut response. I feel he does like to flirt with you,but he is confused on what he wants.If you talked to another guy in front of him I bet he would not like it.
I haven't thought about hooking up with him lol, I don't know that's weird. But yesterday I hung out with him and some friends and I think he was trying to make me jealous or test me because he kept on bringing up the girl he wants to sleep with A LOT and asking where she was and how he wants to hang out with her. HOWEVER he knew about the other guy I liked the one with the girlfriend, and so he came up to me when I was sitting with the senior and hugged me placing his hands around my waist again and he makes music
so I told him that I really liked his music and he started smiling and blushing and rushed to class because he was late. And I was just so estatic because there's part of me that still really likes him and think that we definitely do have something there but of course, he has a girlfriend so. And so I was smiling blushing and the senior guy just looks at me with a blank face and is just like "what?". Then my ex best friend came and we were talking and laughing because our birthdays are in 2 weeks and the senior
guy was behind us like staring idek. And even when I left to go to class he brought up the girl again and yeah. Idek. Even when we were texting I told him if ever felt like that was some was right for him and he said sometimes. The whole textin thing was weird. I think he was upset with him and so I just left him alone for the rest of the night. Lol either that or he was just busy.
Lol I think he was trying to make you jealous and test you. The whole texting thing seemed like it was awkward. He could had been upset. You can't help it if guys want to flirt with you in front of other guys.Lol. So he still tries to hug you? I still think things ain't going right between him and his girlfriend because he still seems to flirt with you alittle. I agree with you I think something could still be their. But he never wants to admit it. I think even if a guy has a girlfriend
(Continued) doesn't mean that he is happy and that things are going good or even working out. I think a lot of guys are attracted to your personality and of course looks. You seem like your a nice girl to be around. Also happy early birthday. I hope you get nice gifts and also enjoy the B-day and go out with a big bang.Lol Maybe you and teh other guy can do something fun since our b-days are so close.
Hi! So the senior guy and I have officially stop talking to one another. Even though he was nice enough to send me a happy birthday text message on my birthday lol. But yeah, he's now getting really chummy with the other girl so yeah. Lol, even though I feel like he misses me. Lately, for some reason every time my gym period rolls around he's there with his girl and all of her friends. Like from class periods 1-5 they'll be somewhere else and then randomly decide to show up at my gym period KNOWING
that I have that gym period and they would all strangely as soon as that period is over as well. And even though he's like sitting with her I still feel as though he's like watching me. And for the first time on Thursday he shows up once again during my gym period but this time by himself and he sits directly behind me and I feel as if he was still like watching me and even my best guy friend came by and he was messing with me and I think he probably noticed because he kept looking at the
direction he was sitting in. And it was all just very strange. And so I decided to just wwave and say hi to him and so he just looked at me blankly, and did a little wave and that was that. And even like a week before, he came into my gym period to look for someone, said hi to my friend and walk straight passed me. Then he came back and he slid his hand down my arm and said, "Oh I forgot to say hi" and I didn't say anything back so. Idk. He's weird so yeah. Lol.
Hey, well first off happy belated birthday. How was your birthday? What did you do for it? And how much gifts did you get?Lol. I would had gotten ou somethign if we lived closed. Anyway I'm sorry to hear that you and the senior guy stopped talking. Yeah I have to agree he is acting very weird. It seems like to me that he is kind of stalking you in a twisted way. First he stops tlaking to you but feels the need to come to your gym class. I think when he brought those girls in he was trying to make
(Continued) you very jealous. I like how you don't let things like that get you jealous. Your a very strong girl emotionally which is very good. I don't remember you ever mentioning crying over guys and stuff.So I'm assuming little things don't get to you. He must really miss you for him to then stalk you during gym by himself and sitting near you and trying to get your attention by the brushing the arm thing. Yeah he is weird. If he misses you that much all he ha to do is just tell you and also
(Continued) talk to you about it.These guys seem to play so much games.If they told you and girls what was on their minds then their wouldn't be none of this cat and mouse stuff.Lol. He is trying hard to get you to notice him.Since he stopped talking to you he owes you an apology and he should just be like hey I miss talking/hanging out with you.Lol. Also by him being a senior he is enjoying the last days of being in school.
Heeey! So yeah school ended, senior guy is graduating in a few days and I haven't spoken to him in awhile, I'm over him anyway lol. Things are pretty great on my end though, lol I'm kind of just done with guys and the whole relationship thing or whatever. I mean there are like two guys I'm sort of, kinda interested in but one of them I just rather have a friends with benefits type of relationship with him since it is the summer and the other guy my friends like love him and yeah. Pretty much lol
And the one my friends love, he's weird because it was literally the last week of school and we were just talking and fooling around and he said he wanted to "talk" to me basically get to know me and so the next day we were hanging out in school and he was laying down on my lap and making me play with his hair and then after that day he was acting off-ish. He would see and wouldn't say anything just stare lol, then my friend made me invite him to this talent show I was having, never showed up
but he would comment and continue to like my stuff on instagram and Facebook and it was just weird. lol, idek but yeah that's it!
Hey,well I'm glad your out for school for the summer.No homework.Lol I'm very glad that your over the senior guy.He was acting to hot and cold. Now I guess it doesn't matter since he is graduating and you haven't spoken to him in a while. I'm glad that things are going good on your end. Yeah relationships are tough to have and guys are always confusing and tough to fgure out.Lol.Girls are the same.Im glad to hear you have two guys that your interested in. Two is betetr then one.Lol
(Continued) So the guy you want a friends with benefit thign with are you and him close?Do you guys talk?Is he hot? And the other guy does seem confusing and tough to figure out.He does seem to like you and showing alittle interest.Commenting on your Facebook and instagram means he is into you and he must think your cute and hot since he was laying in your lap.Sounds romantic.Lol.But yeah he should not had been acting weird and offish. And he should had went to your talent show.
(Continued) Anyway how was your talent show? So you set the talent show up yourself?Wow your multitalented.Lol Anyway things have been alright with me.Summer is here.Yay.Keep me updated about what happens with the two guys. I hope things work out. Your a very nice and sweet girl. And I think eventually you will find a guy you like. I hope the fwbs thing works out to for you.
Hi, how is your summer going so far? Mine is OK. I didn't set up the talent show myself, it was like a huge group of people who helped create the whole thing but it was cool. But thank you that's very sweet of you. The guy who I want to be FWBs with we're pretty close since we both worked together on the talent show and so we were practically together after school and during the weekend like over 4 hours a day. And yeah we text each other from time to time, not everyday more like at least once a
(con.) week, or so. And I find him pretty hot lol. And the other guy we talked like 3 times this week but it was just about music and he sent me two songs to listen to and I guess he was trying to tell me something but idk. And then I told him I have a small crush on him and he just said that he never knew that and that he finds me really attractive lol. So I invited him and the other guy to a bbq and idk, I think he was upset because he ended up leaving really early like we didn't really talk
(con.) while on the other hand, the guy who I want to my FWB, actually ended up staying at the bbq the longest. Like him and his friend that I knew but we never really spoke to each other at school much stayed at my bbq until like almost 4 in the morning with all of my other friends and close family members and we just laughed and had a good time. And idk, it made me not want him as a FWB anymore like I think that I like him more and it sucks because he's good friends with the other guy :( And today
(con.) I was talking to one of my family members and he's close to FWB guy and out of nowhere he was just like "do you like him?" and I'm just like I think he's talking to someone already and besides I like one of his teammates, but my feelings are on and off about him, really. And sigggghhh, idek. Because I don't want to give up on the other guy but it's like if you like me you would put in the effort to like have my number, etc. How is your friend doing that but your not? Ugh. Idek. Everything is ugh
Hi, I am glad that your summer is going well.My summer has been hot and very sweaty.Lol The thing I had wanted to say first is if you have a crush on two guys and like them never invite them to the same party because things will be so awkward. Tha was probably why the other guy left because he got jealous because maybe you were not giving him enough attention.It's hard to balance giving both guys you like attention and add to the fact that family and other friends were there makes it even tough.
(Cont) That sucks about the fwbs guy. I think feelings can be on and off and by him being friends with the other guy does suck because if you and him did do something I'm pretty sure he would run his mouth to the other guy just to rub it in.You do make a very good point that the other guy should be putting in a goof fight or even effort for you if he really likes you.I think maybe he might be shy and if that is the case then it will make him be clueless about what to do or even to express
(Cont) himself right.It is a hard to decide. Well the fwbs guy had to like you if he stayed so late for your bbq party.It sound liked you guys had a lot of fun.Like I said the other guy probally got jealous and felt hurt because he sent you songs and you told him that you have a crush on him and he complimented you telling you thatyou was attractive so he probably thought you would talk to him more or be around him more at the party. I think party settings are tough because when you have so
(Cont) many there like friends and family it's hard to give everybody attention.And when you have two crushes their somebody is going to be left out and feel hurt. But you are right sincey ou admitted that you had a crush on the guy he should be trying to impress you more. I think it depends on what you like. I think most guys like flowers. He could you a rose or something.Don't feel like sigh and ugh.I think things will work out for you.You have guys giving you attention.Now they just have
(Cont) to impress you more and show interest. Your a very nice girl and if the other guy said your attractive then that is a good thing. I think it will take time for the pieces to fall into place.I think it will happen soon.Just have to be patient.
Hi. Lots has happened. My best friend the one who the original question was about he passed away almost 3 weeks ago. I'm alright, I'm still partially in denial though but I'm getting by The sophomore boy I've been interested in has been there for me, when he could, of course. We re doing alright too, we talk to each other almost every day and I like him. And I believe he likes me too. He isn't too open but I believe with patience Ill get him to open up more. Other than that I'm just trying to stay up
Hi, wow that is crazy. I'm so sorry to hear that. :( I hope everything is alright and I hope you are alright.Did they say what he dies from? I'm very glad that yo uand sophomore boy is talking more and yes I agree wtih more time he should open up more. I'm glad that you like him and I hope thigns work out for you with the up and coming school year with school work and sopemore boy.What grade are you in now?Are you happy to be returning back to class?Sorry to hear about what happened again. :(
(Continued) If you ever needed anybody to talk to. You can always talk to me or even text me if you wnated. I'm just shock that your friend died. :( Sorry to hear about it again. It just goes to show how precious life is and one thing I have learn is never take no one or nothing for granted.I can't believe we have been talking for almost a year.Your my vitual pen pal.Lol :)
hello, and aw thank you :) that is very sweet of you. he got shot after coming home from a party. I'm in my last year, sophomore is going into his junior year lol and not really, it's going to be weird going back to school and not seeing my best friend anymore really.
Hello, You are welcome :). Wow that is so sad how he died. :( I'm glad that this is your last year. I didn't even know you was a senior.Time flew by.But congrats on being a senior.You have to have fun this year and enjoy every moment of school. The year will fly by so fast.Yeah it's going to be different not seeing your friend around.I knew he was a big part of your life and he meant a lot to you.I lost a lot of friends.Some died others moved far away across country.etc.
Hello, it's been awhile. Things have been okay, I suppose. It's easier as the days go by. Actually it turns out the sophomore boy, well now a junior, is actually talking to another girl lol. And the guy who I wanted to be FWB, I actually have been spending A LOT of time with him lately. But like a month ago, when we were hanging out a bunch of guys were calling him gay because he said he didn't want to f--- me because "he doesn't see me that way" and he told me about it and it was awk. between us for
(con.) awhile and I decided it was best that we didn't hang out so much anymore, and he laughed and said he didn't think it was that serious but he eventually understood where I was coming from and I didn't want him to go through with that. And so I just pretty much took it as we were simply friends but his actions at times would say completely otherwise. Like he would sit really close to me sometimes, to the point where his entire thigh would be pressed against mine or he would let me lay on
(con.) lay on him sometimes, like rest my body against his, and he gave me one of his pins and checked to make sure I still had it. And I realize he would often observe me a lot, like he would report back to me that he saw me with another guy on a certain floor and realizes that I wear green and maroon and asked me out of the blue what my favorite color was one day. And he always waits with me at the bus stop whenever we go out for lunch before I leave work. And about two weeks we were together
(con.) and he felt kinda bad that I was late for work so as we were walking he offered to give me a piggy back ride and run with me all the way to work just so I don't have to be late. And even though I was late, he still walked with me all the way to other building and yeah. And he said if I end up going to the college I want to go to, that'll he definitely apply and go with me. And idk, he's really sweet and I actually like spending time with him lol. But I don't want to push it or anything
(con.) because I'm afraid of making the same mistakes I did with my best friend in the past and so that's why when we told me that he "didn't see me that way" I just sort of took it face value and didn't bother to go past it or didn't believe him. But it was confusing when one of his close friends came up to us and said how he cheated on me and I was laughing because I didn't hear him until he told me what he said and then it was just awk. for me, and I expected for him to change whatever he was
(con.) doing but he liked continue anyway, like he was making me help him with some of the work he was doing and asking me to because I didn't feel like doing it after that, and then he came with me to my locker and was just like standing really close to me like he always usually does and then he told me to be sure I wasn't late for work. And his friend is always asking me to come to his games and support him and it's all weird because his friend KNOWS that him and I are friends and idkkkk.
(con.) but yeah, I'm so sorry all of this is really long or whatever lol :( but it's been so long lol. how is everything on your end though?
Hello,yes it has been a while. I'm also very glad that things are alright with you.I miss chatting with you.Also wow the year is flying by so fast.And it's all good.I like when you write a lot so don't be sorry for it.LOL. But wow so much has happened. That sucks about sohpemore boy.And that's good that the friends with benefits guy has been spending time with you. But his excuse on not wanting to sleep with you seems lame. I don't think most guy would turn a girl down if she wants them.I could imagine how
(Continued) awkward things are now since the other guys are teasing him about it. You make a very good point if he doesn't like you like that then yo uand him shouldn't be spending so much time with each other if his friends are making fun of him.He should take it serious and not as a joke.But yeah your so right his actions speak very differently he seems to like you but maybe he doesn't want to admit it to hmself. From what you describe it sounds like he really likes you from sitting very close
(Continued) where his thigh is against yours.Or resting on each others bodies and the piggy back ride to work. etc. I think he really enjoys your company and spending time with you which is alright in a friendship type of way. But waiting for you at the bus stop,etc seems more then a friend.Im assume when others see you and him together they might assume that you and him have soemthing going on together. Yeah the whole situation is so weird and awkward. Lol are you going to go and support him
(Continued) at his games? Yeah his friend should mind his buisness and stop puttign pressure on you. I really think you should do what you want. You told him how you felt but he still seems to want to hang out with you which is ok.I think you should still keep your options open and talk to other guys if you can. I'm hoping he isn't blowing yoru chances of having other guys talking to you by him spending so much time with you which isn't fair either. Like I said other guys would look at this like
(Continued) you and him are a couple. But if you like his company then keep things the same. I think in the end you have to do what's right. Since he wants to be just friends then I don't see it as a bad thing if you kept your options open. He does seem confused because he says he doesn't want a fwbs thing but he hangs out around you like he is your boyfriend.Doesn't make sense to me from somebody who just wants to be friends.I know friends hang out etc.But I don't as so much.
(Continued) I been doing alright. I been up to the usual.lol.Happy belated everything.And I hope you have a fun Thanksgiving recess. Are you going to homecoming? Also I know it's to early maybe he wants to be your prom date.Lol Like I said before try to enjoy your last year and make the best out of it because time and the hwole year will fly by so fast.
Hi, and thank you so much! Happy Thanksgiving to you as well. Our homecoming is next month but yeah I'm going and he is actually my prom date lol. Other than that, things are going okay. The other day him and I were waiting together at the bus in the cold talking for almost 2 hours even though like 40 buses passed us. He opened up to me a lot and told pretty much stuff he never told anyone before at all and he said that's because he feels as if we have connection and I'm the only person he has that
connection with and it touched me lol. And now I feel like he has even more of an attachment to me and I realize that now when we see each other it's a little bit more intense and idk. I find myself kind of developing feelings and I'm kinda scared because I don't want to scare him off or anything or ruin our friendship and I don't know if he feels the same because he isn't big on showing his emotions so sigh idk. Lol yeah.
Hi and your very welcome.But wow so he is your prom date?That is very nice and cool.Lol. But yeah from what you wrote it seems that the chemistry and the connection is really their. It's almost like you and him are a couple except without the label. I do agree wth you if you bring it up that your falling for him and having feelings with him it will mes up what you and him have and then he may start acting weird and different. I do feel strongly that this could work if you and him was a couple I
(Continued) think maybe he is not ready or he could be scared to be in a relationship.Some guys don't like committment or are very afraid of it.But his actions really shows that he lieks you. I think maybe with time maybe he might change his mind. I think with time he may come around but its hard to tell. I guess just try to enjoy what you have.Your a very nice girl.And I remembered when we first started writing I always wanted you to be happy with the right guy.Time will tell what happens.
So. I told him how I felt. Same results as usual. "I think we're better as friends" not confirming whether or not he has feelings for me. I decided to just continue treating him as I would normally before since he said he didn't want to tell me how he felt because he felt as if I would treat him differently. And so now he has become a little more touchy I suppose and instead of like I don't know falling back, I realize he is started to hang out with me in school more often and ironically a lot of people even
strangers are either asking or referring us as couple which is just strange and idk, like I just treat him the same basically. Like we still hang out one on one and I just can't explain the situation basically. Lol so yeah that's about it really.
And I forgot to add but I got him a Christmas gift, a t shirt of his favorite band and he's getting me something with the help of his friends of course which I find sweet of course lol. But yeah lol, how is everything on your end? I hope the holidays are treating you well :)
Happy early new year's and happy early Christmas! I been doing pretty good still up to the same old ish.lol Yeah that is so weird it seems like you and him are a couple without the couple stamp or label.That's how others will perceive you if you and him spend a lot of time hanging out with each other. It sucks that he doesn't want more.I guess you have to enjoy what you have sometimes. Lol nice I'm very glad that you guys are exchanging Christmas gifts.The t-shirt gift is nice.I hope he gets you
(Continued) something nice for your Christmas gift.But yeah I guess it's good that you and him hang out a lot and that you treat him the same and stuff. I hope this continues all the way up to next year.He should ask you etc.I know he is not at that point or level.It just sucks that he is kind of like your boyfriend with out the label.
Happy early Xmas and New Years to you tooo! And aw, at least nothing too drastic change about your life. Other than that, yesterday was our school dance. I practically avoided dancing with him the whole night. I didn't want to dance with anybody really, especially him. He couldn't get my gift since they closed early but it was a camera. And I don't know I feel like my emotions are on high and I'm just confused by his actions since his words say a complete diff thing. Like he would complain if I didn't
(con.) text him back or whatever and he would like awkwardly hit on girls or hug girls then look at me like can you not lol. and idk, it just annoys me because I've been through this before and I don't want to make the same mistakes and NOT believe his words but his actions are so contradictory, honestly.
So wow at the school dance you didn't want to dance with one guy?He should at least danced with you for a couple of songs.Geez..Lol. I hope for porm you and him dance more because that's your last dance and you have to have fun and make it count.But how did you find out about your Christmas gift from him? He shouldn't had told you it defeats the purpose of it being a surprise.Lol. That sucks he couldn't get it for you :( Yeah but you do make very good points.He is so contradicting himself.
(Continued) And also that sucks that he flirts and talks to other girls in front of you. I know how high your emotions can run and stuff.He can't get mad if you don't text him back o ntime.He is not your boyfriend.But he does boyfriend thigns sometimes. I agree with you I don't want you to make the smae mistakes if you made them in the past. I guess you have to enjoy the situation for what it is and try not get your heart and feelings embedied deeply in it.Just go with the flow and have fun.
HAPPY NEW YEAR! And you're right about not getting my heart too involved. Everything is really hazy for me at the moment. Like I'm not entirely sure of everything, like what he means to me and what I mean to him. Like we spent NYE together at my house with a couple of my friends and he stayed until 2am and we were laughing and playing games at it was fun. Before that, my cousin, whom he is best friends with kept like referring to me and him as a couple and I told him stop because his friend
(con.) doesn't like me, he doesn't want to ruin our friendship. And my cousin, who pretty much knows him better than I do since they've been friends since middle school, came out of nowhere and was just like "trust me he like, like you. he's just hiding it" and idk, I couldn't just take it heart because I didn't want to go against the guy I like wishes so yeah. And for like the majority of the break we would text each every day, all day and before that we even went XMas shopping and he helped me
get a Christmas gift for my mom and he got me a camera for Christmas and he liked the gift I got him. His birthday is coming up this month so I'm trying to figure out what to get home honestly. But other than that, it confuses me because I'm just not sure what he means to me and vice versa. I think it's because my cousin asked right in front of him if he's my boyfriend or my best friend and I couldn't even give either answer and he just looked at me quiet. And ugh. But how are things on your end?
HAPPY NEW YEAR. And yeah try not to get your heart invoved and try not to be emotionaly confused.It can drive you crazy if you allow it to get to you.But wow your cousin had no right to put you on the spot like that in front of your friend. The way it looks at the outside like you and your friend are a couple. Even if your cousin is right about your friend liking it seems like your frend will never admit it. Or he could be afraid to admit it. :( But yeah I'm glad you and him exchanged Christmas
(continued) Gifts with each other. The way you and him do thigns liek text everyday and buy gifts for each other and now your buying him a birthday gift.It does seem kind of boyfriendish even though your friends.And yeah friends can do those type of things as well.I think thigns get blurry when you start liking a friend a lot and it makes things complicated sometimes.I think you couldn't answer your cousin because he caught you off guard.Don't feel bad I freeze up to sometimes when caught
(Continued) off guard with an awkward question. Things on my end I am doing alright. My new years was very fun. I went to a casino with some friends and had fun.I din''t get to drunk. Now we got 10 inches of snow dumped on us and it's like below 0 degrees out. Winter sucks. :( I hope thigns are goign better on your end.Happy new years again. ;)
Hi, your New Year's Eve sounded like a lot of fun! How is January treating you? As for me, it's been okay. I was upset with him on his birthday to the point where I barely spoke to him and didn't bother to hand his present to him, and he was disappointed in how I was treating him. I just let one of his friends give it to him. I found out that he kissed another girl. At this point, I don't really believe it's entirely true considering the source and even if it is, I realize that there's nothing I
(con.) could do about it, even though it still kinda bugs me. Anyway, he invited me to come watch one of his baseball games and I did. On the ride home I was with the rest of his team and it was kinda cute we were sitting next to each other and he kept trying lay down on me but it was too awkward so by then he kind of just stopped. But then the next day at school we were hanging out and he was laying on me and I was just holding onto his arm and it just felt really comfortable.
(con.)then on Tuesday night, I had a issue going on and we ended up speaking on the phone for 6 hours mostly with him helping me out, opening up a little bit and then just making me laugh and telling me stories until we both got tired. I was shocked that he was on the phone with me for that long and he said he was too because he hates talking on the phone. Like during the entire time of our conversation he didn't like rush off the phone or anything even when his phone died he called back lol
the next day at school we were hanging out with his friends just talking and laughing and one of his friends I'm cool with came and gave me hug and for whatever reason he came again and gave me another hug and then my guy he was just like "alright you hugged her like 47 times already" and his friends just looked at him and said it was only two times but he ended up walking away and I was quiet lol.
Heh, Yeah January has been cold snowy and very bad for me.Lol Also it's been very cold with this winter vortex.Im pretty sure your area must be just as cold as mine. But wow so much has happened to you. Yeah I can't blame you for being mad at him for his birthday and for kissing the girl. It kind of sucks because he should be kissing you in a fun and flirty way. Also I feel your the one who spends so much time with him etc. But the funny thing is when your guy friend kept hugging you in front
(Continued) of him he didn't like it. And he got alittle jealous lol. But wow I think that is good that you went to his baseball game and rode on the bus with him.Also that is good that you and him talked on the phone with each other. I think something can develop if he stopped being to shy and to scared to just admit that he likes you.I know this year is flying by so fast.I really hope that your enjoying your last year. Enjoy every minute of it.Also thanks for updating me with everything.
(Continued) I really appreciate it the updates like I said before. Also I think you and him are bonding more and I'm glad that when you was mad at him that you let him know it.Never hodl back your feelings or emotions for anybody. And your right you couldn't control him kissing the girl whether it's true or not and he couldn't control the guy hugging you. I still feel a part of him likes you and if every confesses up time will tell. But I'm glad that you guys hang and spend time together.
Hello, how is everything going? I'm doing pretty okay, a little stressed about senior year but I'm getting by. Lol other than that lots has happened. On VDay during our school's play we were cuddling and then we went out for lunch even though we weren't each other's Valentine's, we didn't bother to bring it up lol. Then over the break he came to my house and we made fried Oreos together and cuddled and watched Netflix until he had to go it was sweet lol. But of course there were a couple issues
I found out he went to the movies with another girl and we talked about the kissing issue. Appearently, it was just a dare and he didn't understand why I waited so long to like talk to him about it. And as for the movie thing he admitted going without me having to ask him about it but we didn't bring back up after that. We've been getting into little arguments here and there and he was just kind of upset b/c I told him I felt like he doesn't care or take things seriously and he was just like
"just because I don't show I care doesn't mean I don't care about you. And just so you know I really do care about you" and how he really does take me seriously and yeah. It's been kind of difficult dealing with him and the fact that I'm going off to college soon is all a bit stressful so yeah. Like he's really different from all the guys I talked to. Like the other day I asked if he could walk me to class and he said sure and I was going to my arm around his arm and he kind of jerked away from
me and said I was "doing too much" which was strange because we cuddle here and there in school so it was like what. But then I found out he was high and he often acts like an ass when he is but when I texted him about it later he said he wasn't I don't know why he would lie about that but I just dropped it. But like since then I kind of been second guessing everything I do with him, like he was upset b/c I didn't give him a proper hug I just sort of stood there when he hugged me or whatever.
Like I have to remember that he becomes really affectionate at random times, he's more affectionate in private then in public. And he doesn't like opening up either. And that's about it really, I like him. I don't love him or anything like that. I care for him and I like him and spending time with him and stuff I just wish he would tell me how he feels rather than showing me because I feel like sometimes he does and I don't even notice or whatever. It's to the point where idek what we mean to
each other because we're definitely not just friends, nor are we best friends and we definitely act more than friends and I mean he referred to me as his girl during VDay but I wasn't too sure if I should've taken that to heart or whatever. It just sucks because people are starting to ask what are we and I just don't want to give the wrong answer. But I'm sure things will get better for us, I know it will.
Heh, I hope all is well with you. Wow a lot has happen. Well im very glad that your enjoying your senior year and that your going to college soon. You ake very good points. From the outside people would assume that you and him are a couple. You act like a couple without the label. Also I do think it's weird that he gets hot and cold. At times he seems like he likes you then other times he acts cold and distant.
(Continued0 That sucks that you and him are fighting and arguing. You guys are definitley acting like a couple. Also you are right he should tell you how he feels about you. At times I think he tries to hide his feelings or he says things that you want to hear. Also you are right about the public displays of affecting. When you show it to him in public it likes he gets scared and pulls back. And if he shows it more in public
(Continued) in private I meant to say then he is obvioulsy trying to hide his feelings from people. Yeah he is hard to figure out. I think it just sucks that is you liked other guys in your school that your focusing to much time and energy into him. I just hope you not messing up other chances you could had being with another guy. The year is flying by so fast. I hope your enjoying your last year. :) also since your
(Continued) going to college im assuming that you and him may or may not talk or see each other anymore. I hope you and him can still keep in contact. I do really think he likes you. He is afraid to admit it to himself and to his heart. I think he tres to play it cool and that is why he drifts like bringing girl to movies and kissing girl as a fdare. I don't think he wants to be tied down with a relationship. I think he thinks that in his mind.
(Continued) Thats another thing you spend so much time with him that you become attached to that person which is good and bad. You guys do enjoy each others company. I think he should be our boyfriend because the year is almost over. Being your bf wouldn't hurt. at least you could enjoy the couple if months together. Also I hope your classes are going well. And i hope prom goes well for you to. And college will be fun. I hope you and him still talk.
He probably is acting different because he moved. Did he moved to anoher state? It seems like he wants you to chase him and stuff. He is the one who said he missed you but now he is nto acting like it. Give him some time and see if he responds back on his own.
Yeah, he moved to Michigan. And lol that was what I was going to do but I decided to just message him anyway to see if he would respond but of course he didn't.
Yeah wow that sucks that he moved to another state. If he moved farther away from you then it will make it harder for him to keep in touch. I had so many friends move away to different states and when people mve they change and things change. But their is a chance Lol that maybe he might respond back randomly. Guys like to do that a lot to. Do you miss him?
Lol, yeah of course I miss him a lot he was always there for me. And I told him that was afraid of him being in different state would affect friendship and that he'll change or whatever and he just told me that he was going to miss me a lot and to keep in contact and that even if either one of us changes as long as our morals are the same we will still be friends. And he did respond back randomly but he's been busy I suppose.
Yeah so he was always their for you? Yeah it's hard to find friends like that. That is good that you told him how you felt. And yeah true never let people change your morals and values. I hopes he keeps in touch with you. You sound like a good friend. But yeah moving and distance will make the friendship tough. And also if you guys wanted to see each other one day that would be tough as well.It's just finding time to make it work. I think it can but he has to try.Im glad he texted you back.
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The guy is head over heels in love with you. The special treatment, the mind games, the jealousy, the hot and cold, it's all a little overwhelming. He doesn't know what the f*** he is doing. His natural response is deny, deny, deny.
Youre like the 13h person to tell me this, even though he's in a relationship people tell me he still does. I asked him once over the phone if he had feelings for me & he paused & said no & that I need to stop listening to people so much. Once he was really angry at me & he cursed me out & said that he never liked me & never cared about me but a month later he's just like your my best friend I can't let you go, so I do the best I can to avoid even asking if he has feelings because he gets really upset.
Is there a way to take back my question so I stop getting update notices? When I made my response I wasn't anticipating an entire season of teen drama. Reminds me of days when the smallest thing used to seem so big.
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