We went out for 3 months on 10 dates and on the last date for the first time I held her hand and at the end of the night I kissed her which she leaned forward and kissed me back... but after that I noticed that everything changed she stopped using sweet text names and stopped texting me maybe once a day... told me due to her church schedule we won't be able to see each other much...
So I sent her a text and told her how I feel and that she is being distant and this was her reply :
"From the start you knew I didn't wanted a relationship just yet I was very happy that we were getting to know each other... The kiss didn't scare me away but it did showed me that you liked me more than I thought.. my natural instinct was to just back off a little I just want you to know that you didn't hurt me or do anything wrong I just don't feel ready for a relationship and with the kiss you showed me that if we kept going out a lot you were going to fall in love and I don't want to hurt you. I'm just not at that place yet and I feel that before a kiss there has to be more of a friendship and we've gone out ONLY 10 times. I did have some feeling for you but like I've told you that I've gotten my heart broken in the past I am pretty hard to fall in love with anyone. Your not a bad guy and I loved the way you treated me and spoiled me but because I care for you I'm slowing things down alot... I don't want to be fckd up and lead you on and once your in love tell you that I like you a lot but I'm not feeling this and tell you goodbye because that would be wrong. You can have my friendship and hopefully you can still offer me yours knowing that for a long while I don't want a relationship or anything like that AND IT'S NOT BECAUSE OF YOU Because you would make a great Boyfriend but BECAUSE OF ME I just want to do things right when I'm ready for it."
What should I do?
Why did she showed me signs of affection and even told me she was attracted to me in the past and that I was beginning to win her heart and everything changed in a matter of 24 hrs?
I'm at a loss for words and lost complete motivation and feel depressed and feel like I should just never date again... she was the first girl I kissed in my life since I'm a shy guy...
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