At some point, you begin reassessing what it is that you yourself were looking for in the first place. Somehow, you know deep down that relationships are supposed to be about something. But you've lost sight of what that could be. Being hurt over and over again can do that.
I'm always falling head-over-heels for girls who are far too emotionally immature to handle me. The trick has been learning to accept that the girl's fatal flaw should be a deal breaker, and to give someone else a chance sooner. I need a future wife who can raise children, but not be a child herself. I'm finding that maturity comes later and later in life for way too many, so I might be a bag of bones before I find someone who can behave like an adult with me.
On top of that, as much attention as I'm willing to give, I expect a little in return. I find that one side effect of falling for emotionally immature women is that they seem to think one-way-street romance is acceptable. They see no problem in me doing all the work, while they behave passively. That's unacceptable. I require at least a fourth as much attention as I give, and the ladies are tax evaders in that manner.
It's the welfare culture that's developed, I'm convinced. Gals think love is supposed to be a mere commodity, another free handout in an entitlement-obsessed society. It's not. It's a sacred duty, requiring sacrifice and hard work before it can yield its true benefit.
Not sure where you rank on the political spectrum, but Rush Limbaugh probably said it best when commenting on Obama's reelection: "It's very hard to compete with Santa Claus."
Only this time, in reference to Weird Al, it's the gentlemen looking for mature wives that are getting the raw deal.