Why do I find relationships so lame now?
Ok so I've been hurt and taken advantage of,unappreciated..yeah all that...
But so have many out there right? But you people still seem to believe in relationships and all...
The thing is now I cannot take the thought of any relationship seriously..I always feel people are just wasting time and stuff...even though I am such an emotional person..yet I still can't manage take these stuff seriously or act interested when a friend of mine talks bout his/her love life...
Is this normal?
What's Your Opinion?
Most Helpful Opinion
It is normal...especially if you were just recently hurt. You get to that point thinking you're just so sick of dating people and don't understand why people even bother with relationships and the thought of being tied down to someone is just "crazy!" Most people feel that way after a break up or being hurt, but as time goes by, you heal and somewhat recover from the pain and you'll know when you're ready to move on and date again.
What Guys Said 7
At some point, you begin reassessing what it is that you yourself were looking for in the first place. Somehow, you know deep down that relationships are supposed to be about something. But you've lost sight of what that could be. Being hurt over and over again can do that.
I'm always falling head-over-heels for girls who are far too emotionally immature to handle me. The trick has been learning to accept that the girl's fatal flaw should be a deal breaker, and to give someone else a chance sooner. I need a future wife who can raise children, but not be a child herself. I'm finding that maturity comes later and later in life for way too many, so I might be a bag of bones before I find someone who can behave like an adult with me.
On top of that, as much attention as I'm willing to give, I expect a little in return. I find that one side effect of falling for emotionally immature women is that they seem to think one-way-street romance is acceptable. They see no problem in me doing all the work, while they behave passively. That's unacceptable. I require at least a fourth as much attention as I give, and the ladies are tax evaders in that manner.
It's the welfare culture that's developed, I'm convinced. Gals think love is supposed to be a mere commodity, another free handout in an entitlement-obsessed society. It's not. It's a sacred duty, requiring sacrifice and hard work before it can yield its true benefit.
Not sure where you rank on the political spectrum, but Rush Limbaugh probably said it best when commenting on Obama's reelection: "It's very hard to compete with Santa Claus."
Only this time, in reference to Weird Al, it's the gentlemen looking for mature wives that are getting the raw deal.
Because only MARRIAGE is a relathionship. Yeah, let the down arrows come. Blind will stay blind.
Most girls don't take relationship seriously, it's only the lame guys that do, girl get into relationships and act on the play just because they want to experience the emotions, but deep down girls don't really love anyone, they just want whatever enhance their life experience.
On the other dumb guys do fall in love and have big ass crushes, etc.. Not all the time of course, because if they legitimally like the girl, must likely he will act dumb around her and he won't be able to get her, unless he is mad rich and good looking.
BECAUSE YOU ARE LAME YOURSELF!
lol, just kidding! but anyways, I know how you feel. but if you cut your emotions by at least half you would notice that is not that bad. you just gotta have fun and keep looking and the right one will come to you when you least expected. and if the longer he takes to show up the longer you try to have more fun out of life.
but yea, I think the main reason why relationships suck so much ass today is because people don't know how to be themselves now a days. I make post of these topics all the time and that is that maybe people don't know how to be themselves now and make their own life interesting, so they mirror everything they see in these corny shows like jersey shore, keeping up with the kardashians and all. but don't worry, just try to make a difference yourself
People are stressed because of no money no jobs electronic media is confusing, the over population is a bad scene, lack of affordable housing, diseases, cultural differences are at a high, socially people are cut off in their cars and houses, bedroom communities, the streets are vile, there is a lot of danger out there. Its wildly expensive now. Food is toxic and people are on meds and stuff. Its a mess. Nukes and wars and stuff. The air is not good.. Water is filled with junk. The ground is being messed up by petroleum tracking and benzene. The government is a bunch of crooks. Nobody can lead the country and the world doesn't have a leader at all really. etc, etc.
We are an invasive Take-Over Species in a J curve toward extinction. Sorry.
Yes, its not a good idea but sometimes we need people. Usually we do. We always do. So we all go down together. How do you want to be when it all comes down? Alone or with someone?
What Girls Said 1
I'm pretty jaded when it comes to relationships. I've been hurt so many times that I simply don't believe in relationships anymore. I'm happy for others, but I've reached this point where I can't be bothered to invest feelings, time and effort into some guy who's just going to make me feel really sh*t like all the ones before him have.