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How can I get a response from guy I fell in love with at the beach?

Over the summer I met this guy at the beach and it was like love at first sight. I dint have a phone at the time, so he asked me for my name so we... Show More

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  • maybe I'm just getting old and out of touch, but I have a hard time understanding the idea of falling for someone via the internet. sounds to me like you just have a heavy crush on the guy. people throw the word "love" around too loosely. I'm not sure I could fall in love with someone if it wasn't mostly in person, or at least through phone conversation. but I don't think the younger crowd even have phone conversations anymore, just texting, Facebook, etc. the world has passed me by, hahaha. but I'd just play it cool. you messaged him, the ball is in his court. for all you know, he already has a girlfriend and he's just playing with you. from what you wrote, it sounds like you're infatuated with his looks more than anything. I'm a sucker for a pretty face too, but you can't make a fool of yourself over it. good looking people come a dime a dozen. and I see that you live in Beverly Hills. every idiot that's the best looking person in their small town in Iowa or wherever goes to LA to try to "make it." he's not the last looker you're going to meet. you live in a city of 4 million people, they'll be out there, I promise you.

    in unrelated news, I went to LA a couple times last summer...you must know Sprinkles cupcakes down near Rodeo Drive, right? had a S'mores cupcake with dark chocolate ice cream...possibly the best thing I ever ate. I would weigh 400 lbs if I lived out there, hahaha.

    • Thanks I think he really is just playing with my head and I'm not the only girl that he sweet talks to. I knew iit was too good to be true. :(

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    • ...will too. my mom told me along time ago, "over the course of your life, you're going to get your heart broken, and you're going to break others' hearts, sometimes without even knowing it." the good news is, it's not the end of the world. in high school, everything seemed so urgent. I thought it was the end of the world if I didn't get the girl I wanted. trust me, you'll barely remember this kid's name in a year or two. older people tried to tell me stuff like that when I was your age too...

    • ...and I didn't believe them. but one thing I've learned as I get older is that most of the advice I got from older folks when I was younger turned out to be true. you don't want to hear it and you think we don't know what it's like to be a kid, but I feel like I was your age just yesterday. we're not as out of touch as you think! so my advice would be to hit up Sprinkles, take in about 1500 calories, and forget this dude. the next one will be along before you know it! good luck! :)

What Guys Said 14

  • What do you do? Relax.

    I don't mean to undermine your feelings, but you've got to get your head out of the clouds so to speak and see the bigger picture. It's been just about 6 months since you met, conversation has mostly been online, and you two love each other? Love is an incredibly strong word, and it does not equal having a complete crush on someone.

    Simply put, it's too much too soon, especially given your age, so relax a bit and take things slow, don't fret over him not responding for now.

    • Ok

  • He told you he loves you after seeing you in person just one time? Seems legit.

    • Well we've been talking a lot too

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    • Deep in like?

    • Yep.

  • Hahaha Taylor you use this site? Oh wait so do I T_T

    • Who are u?

  • Which beach?

  • You haven't spent enough time around this guy in order for you to call it love. Is it his looks you're falling for? If so, looks will fade with age. Maybe you should take the ignored text as a good sign for you. Bottom line: He sounds like a player.

  • If you really want to get a reply, saying something like, "I really liked you when we were face to face, you were so nice and true, and I really respected you. But since we've talked online you're like a different person and I don't think you're actually that for real."

    He''ll kick off and be nasty but then it will start to bug him like crazy and he (probably) won't be able to resist trying to find out what you mean and get you to switch back to liking him again.

    (Basically what it does is tell him that you have lost respect for him - men HATE that and almost can't help themselves but try to get it back).

    But seriously, why bother with the jerk?! He's clearly been playing you and if you kick it off again what you'll get is a compulsive liar trying desperately to find a way to be the one that comes out the winner.

  • Did you talk a lot, for a long time? Just wait a day or two and see if he answers or not. He may have been online and did not have time to answer. don't freakout ;)

    • Yeah we did and thx I will do that

  • Nothing. You have to wait on him. Anything you do now will seem desperate and will annoy him.

  • If he doesn't respond, there's nothing you can do to change it. But do let him know you're interested. If no response, there are plenty of other fish in the sea :)

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  • I do that a lot of times when I'm interested in a girl's looks NOT her...so pretty much he wants to make out and some sex with you, he's doesn't really wanna be in a relationship...I would've responded if I'm really interested in her but I wouldn't respond when things get serious...But hey that's just me so I'm not %100 sure if he's doing the same...but I have a feeling that he just wants sex and he thought you would want the same but you proved him wrong..Its just my opinion NOT a fact

  • If he's as hot as you make him out to be, he has other girls probably crawling all over him. It is the same thing with a super hot girl, guys that are smart ignore such women, as they have men banging down their door as well. Seriously, if he's ignoring you, he's moved on and it is time you did as well. Block/unfriend him on Facebook and talk to new men.

  • hey did you know all your pictures are sideways?

  • !st off that is not love. You can fall for someone online but from what I gather you and him did not speak long enough and know each other long enough. Secondly he just used you as an ego boost. Move on as he only wanted to get a girl to say she loves him.

What Girls Said 2

  • When did you send the last message?

  • give him a bit of time, don't message him though - until he does. If he doesn't say anything, move on :)

    • Ok but it would be hard to move on

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    • Thx this helps

    • anytime :)

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