Question for white women (and black women and ... everyone)?

What do you think when you see an interracial couple where the woman is black and the male white?

I'm asking because when I saw it, in my past, I would just wonder "hmm, I wonder what he's like and what she's like." Nothing negative, it just made me think more than I would for a intraracial couple.

Being in one, myself, feels so normal and natural, but recently after two years, for some ODD reason, I notice more stares from while girls. I guess we stand out a little more... Don't know...

Haha, I wanna know what everyone thinks actually. Not that it will affect me in any way. I just wanna see if others had similar or differentl thoughts than I did.


Most Helpful Girl

  • I don't care. I know a lot of mixed couples (other cultures as well) and there is nothing awkward to me. I mean when there is a lot of differnces in religional, cultural traditional background it sometimes doesn't work out, but that has never something to do with skin color.

    Actually I totally agree mith Michaelmwm19! Good statement!


What Guys Said 18

  • To be 100% honest ...

    It would make me think of this website!

    There's so much talk about it here, and honestly, I think -good-. For a variety of reasons (I think mainly cultural misunderstanding) this type of relationship is not as common as it might be. And yes, some black women aren't interested in white men, and yes, some white men aren't interested in black women, but hell, I think we've all learned (hopefully) here that some are very, very much interested.

    I think I actually notice attractive black women out and around even more then I used to.

  • I don't even think about it.

  • I guess it's more the "Americanized" black girls in the cities that are into rap and pimp and ho and all the degrading trash. I find the stuff kinda rough even though some of the girls are cute. Are you Caribbean? I work with some Caribbean-heritage black girls now, and guys, and and they're a lot more mellow and not into the rap scene. They like raggae and calypso and island music and so do I. They're sweet and easy-going people.

    • Yeah. I don't like to see people acting ridiculous in public as if It's cool or cute. Yeah, born in Jamaica, although, I must say that I get made fun of by family for trying to speak with a JA accent haha. I agree with ya! We can be mellow (sometimes).

  • As a white guy, I've dated some black girls at work or at college. Sure, people would look at us. The girls would feel more uncomfortable than me because it's apparently an expectation in the black community for girls to not get involved with white guys, and to preserve their color. I really liked the girls I dated and we had some good times. We hit it off well. At some point, though, there are some very real cultural differences that we'd both find hard to deal with. For example, I like most kinds of music but not rap or hip hop, which I find to be degrading and offensive. The girls were very much into rap, and their families too, and it's just part of their culture I guess. There were other issues as well. The girl I liked the most felt an urge to act ghetto around her friends and family, even though she wasn't like that in her heart, and sweet other times.

    • Wow. That's weird. I'm not into rap. Lots of my friends aren't either. None of my family is (we are mainly into reggae (slow vibes mainly) haha). I'm a huge pop and beyonce fan, rap is cool sometimes (the clean music). I believethat race does NOT define culture. I have some cultural differences with certain Americanized members of my family and even the super Caribbean people. although, these differences are more minor.

  • I am with a girl who has very dark skin (although she is asian/not black) and I know that different people have their own perspectives on things.

    I think there is some stereotypes on black/white relationships.

    Often if it is a black guy with a white girl it is thought that she is with him because its cool, or for the sex or whatever. If a white guy is with a black girl then it may be thought that the girl is with him because white guys are more giving in relationships or something.

    I think it is all baloney, I have had a few inter-racial and inter-cultural relationships and when it comes down to it everyone is an individual and shouldn't really be stereotyped. I for one enjoy going out with different cultures/races because I think it is really interesting because you get to look through another set of eyes and get a different perspective on things but the color of someones skin is definitely second to their own individual personality and beauty and I think this is true for most people in these relationships.

    I think I look a bit closer at inter-racial couples when I see them though just because they stand out a little bit and being in one myself makes me feel a bit more affinity for them :)

    When I see inter-racial relationships I think about the learning dynamic that exists within them, and I think same culture/race relationships have an easier time of it but they miss out on that learning dynamic I mentioned above.

    • Thanks for this amazing answer!

  • I think hell yeah its nice to see interracial couples for me because of all this racist ignorant bs more power to the interracial couples! love conquers all!

  • sometimes I look ( not stare) at interracial couples because I am curious .. not that I find it objectable or odd.

  • P.S.

    I've lived with this cow for a time, and people said I'm just using her for milk, and called me names like zoophile. But what if I simply liked the spots?

  • I would think to myself "there may be many things that guy is or isn't, but he sure isn't small"

    LOL kidding

    I've had a black girlfriend for 8 months, and she was great. We ended up breaking up, but for reasons of work/life balance and finance, nothing to do with race

  • Black woman and white man is fine for me like other couples. Skin color does not matter.

  • Quite common in South London, I take no notice of it :P

  • I will be politically incorrect, but it depends on how "ghetto" the couple appears. If they dress and acts like a classy lady and gentleman hen I'd say both the man and woman are very open-minded and probably pleasant people.

    If they're walking out of a 7-11 together with some Grape Swishers I'd say there's some weird reason they're together (like drugs or prostitution), because ghetto white and black people tend to be racist more often than not.

  • Well if your with a white dude and you act ghetto when he's not a white trash then I would think that he's a dumbass who can't get any...but if your both normal then I wouldn't even look other than a glance .

  • It's like a thousand and one black woman white guy questions on here lol! Why don't white women and black men ask these questions?

    • Uh... I haven't seen questions exactly like this on here... Ever. I've seen a great deal asking silly questions such as whether white guys like black women.

      Since you don't really understand the question, it is particularly asking white women what they think when they see a couple matching the one described. Opinions are like a$$holes if you haven't heard.

      As I mentioned in the question, I, as a black girl, formed some opinions when seeing such couples. (Not negative ones if it matters)

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    • Frankly, I'm not particularly attracted to white guys.

      Sorry for the feisty response but your confusion and ignorant judgement was quite a pisser offer.

    • Lmao It's alright. You're still the homie.

  • I think "that white guy must have a big penis, because that is what the black girls I dated said they liked about me most" LOL

    • That's pretty superficial but thanks for your answer lol

  • I'm high fiving the guy in my mind. lol

    You don't see that coupling very often, but you always see black guys with white girls. I'm tired of seeing that to be honest, so I'd like it to be evened out a bit.

  • Meh! Who cares?! I wish them (and every other couple) well.

    The staring thing reminds me of a young Asian lesbian couple I saw on the train a few weeks ago. I looked in their direction numerous times because they were (I don't use this word often) cute. Not a care in the world and very snuggly and affectionate toward one another. It was adorable. Yeah, I'm a bit of a softy although I don't like to show it, lol.

    So maybe (at least) one of the staring girls thought the same thing, but didn't realize their staring made you uncomfortable. MAYBE!

    • Awww. Yeah, I don't think It's anything negative. I was just wondering if people thought the same thing I did.

  • I don't know why this question is asked here so much and I am kind of tired of reading them. Bottom line is that it's the year 2013 and no one cares about interracial relationships anymore. People can date who they want, whenever and wherever they want. I think you shouldn't be bound by things like: gender, race, religion, or anything else with regard to finding your soulmate.

    • I'm not asking people what they think of interracial relationships. I'm asking what goes through their mind when seeing this specific type in person. As I THOUGHT I made clear I AM NOT EXPECTING NEGATIVE THOUGHTS. Apparently I wasn't clear enough .. oops.

    • As I said, when I see two white people together I just think they are a white couple. When I see a black and white person together I just think they are an interracial couple.

    • Cool :)

What Girls Said 15

  • I'm white and I've been with my cambodian boyfriend for 3 sister has been with his brother for over uncle has been with his native wife for 20yrs...I think interacial couples are more comen now...Its rare to see peopl of the same ethnicity together..attraction is even tho I'm with a bodian now I may end up marrying a different guy of a different race...or my own..I personally enjoy the culture among different ethnicities..and being able to surround yourself with what they have to offer...I would hope no one gives a sh*t anymore...but I guess we rnt there just yet

    • Oh that's interesting!

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    • Hey I didn't down vote you lol

    • lol...i love context...everything wrong everything right...

  • I think that when you love someone you don't see color or race you see a person that gives you indescribable feelings. You fall in love with their soul.

    • That's true. It's funny, randomly yet seldom, I'd say to my guy "oh wow, you're white haha."

      His race comes into my conscious mind essentially only when someone reminds me.

    • lol same thing with my man haha. I never really see it till people point it out lol. Sometimes we will be at his parents and they tell me how bad I need a tan cause I look like a ghost sitting next to him. lol But it is worth it!

  • I don't care at all honestly. At the risk of sounding bitchy or shallow or something, I will say that sometimes, I do wonder, but just because a lot of interracial couples I see with a black woman and white male, the woman is significantly better looking that the man, and I sort of wonder why she doesn't feel like she can do better.

    I know that sounds awful, and that the guy probably has a great personality, but it does cross my mind when it happens.

    • Thanks! I think that thought is normal, not bitchy.

  • What I think, would depend on what they are doing..

    • I get downvoted cause I don't care what race they are?

    • Haha. I don't know why anyone would care that you said that .. I guess people just enjoy downvoting

  • I don't really care, but I think she needs to be careful because a lot of white guys use black women for sexual experiments.

    • i don't think that is honestly going to help anyone to stereotype like that. I personally find black women stunning and tend to be most into them myself but would hate to feel like I need to justify... that I don't just only want to f*** them.

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    • I'm sure a variety of guys are like that, unfortunately. Thanks for your answer, you answered exactly what I was asking :)

    • I agree with EmpressMe.

  • Don't really think about it, just another couple.

  • I just look at them because I'm curious. But other times I think "they make a beautiful couple".

  • I wonder if she's white washed or is he a wangsta

  • I don't see it as a big deal.

  • Personally I'd never date a white guy but I don't mind if other girls do it. Usually the girl tends to be preppy or alternative and she is dating a white guy who isn't ugly.they actually tend to be good looking couple and attractive ppl. I rarely see a black girl dating an ugly white boy so I will say I'm glad that they at least don't lower their standards when dating white like most black men who date white do.

  • I find ordinary black women and men less attractive than ordinary Caucasians or Asians. That may sound ignorant but I'm not a racist. It's like when you say that you prefer blondes more than dark haired girls. But if I see a black girl and a white guy or reverse I don't actually care.

  • They are jealous af and racist period .

  • Honestly I think about the same thing. I guess it's the stereotype thing?

    Oh and white girls will stare because they're ignorant and are looking at stereotypes

    Stupid I know

    • Yeah. Stereotyping is a human trait. I admit, I have certain "stereotypic" thoughts, but I never really act on them.

    • Same. It may be stupid, but it's human nature. I think, it's like a subconious thing from our environment and people we had relationships with

    • I agree :)

  • Maybe you stand out because you look good? Your picture is very pretty!

    • Aww thanks so much :)