I know my question is clichè but I just can't seem to get over my ex and it has been probably 7-9months already. We've known each other since 2years ago and things went complicated the moment we went into a rs. He left me without leaving his reasons why and he came back telling me he wants us to start afresh, we should catch up, all those reasons that is so common. And then he'll disappear and reappear. It just goes on. With the ones closest to me, he told them he loves me but he doesn't want me to know. But with me, at one point he says he love me, but at the end of the day before disappearing, I found out he asked my friend to tell me he don't love me. Right until today, I've no idea why he did what he did. I may be a little slow in this area. I really need opinions and advices. Help anyone? And thankyou.
Men want a fun, self-confident gal who respects herself and who doesn't need him to have a good time.. and this guy sounds like a retarded person
Not only should you respect other people, but you should demand the same degree of respect for yourself. You should never put up with any kind disrespect from anyone, especially a person you are in a relationship with. You will have a much better chance of keeping a woman interested in you if you stand up yourself, than if you allow him to walk all over you.
Number 1: He wants you as his back up plan. In other words, it is nice for him to know if he can't find someone else that you will still be around. If this is the case you are better off with out him.
Number 2: He is just plain flaky or he has problems making commitments. If this is the case, if you really really care about him, you should suggest going to therapy to figure out what makes him acts this way, and how to control it. If not keep him out of your life.
You did not mention an important item, when he comes back do you have sex with him? If you do, that could be the answer...he wants some sex, and will say whatever to get it.